Do your part for the Ta Ta's

Breast cancer awareness month is fast coming upon us. No matter if breast cancer has effected your life or not you can still help the millions of people it has. You can join a walk with your partner or raise some money for the research of the cure for this problem. The best thing you can do is encourage your female partner to either go get checked or to start doing self examination on herself. Early detection is the key to beating breast cancer. So the more often she checks the better. If she is open to it have your let you check out her amazing rack and get a little enjoyment our of the check. Join her in the shower or before you make love to show that you care and love her. While you are checking her, she can return the favor and check out your testicles for testicular cancer in the same manner. Don't be shy about this it could add years to your time together.

Sometimes a little self starting helps the cause.

Sometimes you might not be quite in the mood to make a little love with you partner. You can see it in their eyes and you want to, yet your not quite in the mood. When this happens take a minute and give yourself some time. Head into the bathroom or a private area where you can start to stimulate yourself. Ladies loosen up that clitoris and men stroke yourself until you are starting to get hard. Your partner doesn't have to know you have done this but they will be the one reaping the rewards of it. Sometimes you just have to prime the engine a little bit and get yourself to that place so that you are ready.

Make special scents around the house.

We all know how wonderful smell can be. They can take us back to our childhood or remind us of wonderful times that we have had. Scents can take us to specific times like Christmas or vacations past. Why not put the amazing power into your romance. Go to the store and find the aisle with the scented plug devices in it and start browsing. Look for scents that might remind your lover of past experiences. Like if you have been to Hawaii or just desire to go then pick up some coconut or pineapple scents. Want to make it feel a little more like Christmas time then maybe some pine scent or sugar cookie scent will take you there. Surprise you partner and put the device in when they won't be home for a while. Upon return watch their face as the pick up the scent. You might be able to take away a little of their daily stress by taking them away with these triggers.

Time to slip a note into a book.

Today your mission is to slip a note into a book your partner is reading. Get yourself a little post it note and carefully write a little sentiment on it. Something short and sweet like, "thinking about you", or "Wow, you are sexy when you are reading" Then find your lovers book and place it someplace ahead of where they are reading. Put it on a page that they won't get to right away and you might find yourself getting a kiss sometime later when you are not expecting it. This is one of those little things you can do to make everyday romantic.

Whats your self image?

One of the biggest reasons people tend to shy away from sexual activities, is their self image. They feel like they don't look the models they see on the men's fitness magazines or on the cover of Vogue. Because of this defeating self image, they make sure the lights are out when they undress and can't understand why their partner wants to watch them. These types of actions can really hurt a relationship. As the partner that wants to see your body feels like you don't want to show it to him/her. Believe me 99.9% of the people in these world do not have they body of a model.

Here is where we start improving your self image. Number one is you have to be comfortable with yourself. Understand that you have the body that was given to you and you have to deal with it. As long as you feel comfortable then no one else matters. Second start exercising, even it is only walking to work, it will make you feel better and help your overall health. Third, treat yourself like a god/goddess. Treat yourself to indulges that make you feel good. Finally, understand that when you partner says they think you are beautiful, they truly do see you as beautiful. Think about it this way if your in a committed relationship and your partner is telling you how beautiful you are, they are not just saying that to get in your pants.

Now I want you to throw your shoulders back and say to yourself, "I am Wonderful" and carry that feeling with you everywhere you go. The next time you and your lover are about to get it on let them see how beautiful you are and leave the light on. Watch their eyes and you will truly see how beautiful you are to them.

Special thanks to Slushpup for the picture from flickr

Does my butt look big in these jeans?

We all find our self answering this question in some fashion. There are not to many good ways to answer. A reply of NO leads to the statement of "You are just saying that" and if you say YES you might have to dodge flying objects. So, what is the answer? Well if you are faced with this question instead of giving a yes or no answer give an option. Tell her that about other pants that you think look good on her, or say "You know those other pants look so hot on you and they match that shirt" Women don't want sympathy from you in these situations they want their cake and they want to eat it also. They want honesty and they want to hear how beautiful they are to you also. So we have to twist our answers a little. Most of the time when this happens to me I can honestly tell my wife, "No those pants look fabulous on you" Just think your answer through before you say it. For example if you don't like the shirt she is wearing instead of saying "I don't think that shirt looks good on you" say "You know I think this other shirt would look amazing on you today.

However they best way to avoid getting stuck in these situations is to avoid them before they happen. Get into the habit of telling your partner how wonderful she looks when she puts something on you like. Always find something positive to say about her before she walks out the door every morning. You can tell her that her hair looks perfect, or that she looks hot in those shoes. Stroke her ego, we all enjoy that. I know I love to hear positive things about myself, I can feel my chest pump out when my wife gives me a complement. So that is you mission to find something positive to say about your partners appearance each and every morning. By giving complements daily we boost each others self esteem thus avoiding questions like this at a later time.