It's okay to be a couple.

If you are like me when you are out with the members of your same sex, all they seem to want to do is bash on their partner. They talk about how they don't do this or how this annoys them. I am challenging you to break out of this mold. Next time you find yourself in this situation instead of joining in to bash on your partner to the opposite. Find something that you really enjoy about your partner and tell your friends about that. Maybe it was the great birthday present you got or how when you were sick how your partner took care of you. See if you can change the tides and get the water flowing in the opposite direction. Stay away from telling them about your sex life, for that is private even with your best friends. Who knows maybe you can help improve another relationship by helping them find good things instead of focusing on the things that bother them.

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Comfort in time of Need

One of the most romantic things you can do for someone is just being there for them in a time of need. Everyone is different and some people want to be alone in a time of need. They will appreciate you for just holding your ground if that is what they need. Things like losing a parent or any family member are hard and a time when you need to put your partners feeling in front of everything else. Getting fired from a job is another time where you partner will need you to comfort them. It's is easy to feel rejected at a time like that, however a positive partner can change the situation around in a hurray.

Holding hands or just hugging make your arms a safe place to hide if only for a moment for you partner. When things like that happen you need to be the rock in the relationship. Put all your effort into helping any way you can. You be the one to go out and get dinner for the family at the funeral home. Help with the job search if your partner has just lost their job. Always be positive and show them you care. Most people find out just how romantic their partner is when times are tough. So don't be the person who runs away from the situation. Stand your ground and hold your partner up. After all you might need them sooner then you think.

Does my butt look big in these jeans?

We all find our self answering this question in some fashion. There are not to many good ways to answer. A reply of NO leads to the statement of "You are just saying that" and if you say YES you might have to dodge flying objects. So, what is the answer? Well if you are faced with this question instead of giving a yes or no answer give an option. Tell her that about other pants that you think look good on her, or say "You know those other pants look so hot on you and they match that shirt" Women don't want sympathy from you in these situations they want their cake and they want to eat it also. They want honesty and they want to hear how beautiful they are to you also. So we have to twist our answers a little. Most of the time when this happens to me I can honestly tell my wife, "No those pants look fabulous on you" Just think your answer through before you say it. For example if you don't like the shirt she is wearing instead of saying "I don't think that shirt looks good on you" say "You know I think this other shirt would look amazing on you today.

However they best way to avoid getting stuck in these situations is to avoid them before they happen. Get into the habit of telling your partner how wonderful she looks when she puts something on you like. Always find something positive to say about her before she walks out the door every morning. You can tell her that her hair looks perfect, or that she looks hot in those shoes. Stroke her ego, we all enjoy that. I know I love to hear positive things about myself, I can feel my chest pump out when my wife gives me a complement. So that is you mission to find something positive to say about your partners appearance each and every morning. By giving complements daily we boost each others self esteem thus avoiding questions like this at a later time.