This post is for the guys. As much as you want your special person in your life to be not only your love but your best friend you have to draw some lines. You cannot expect your love to act like one of your buddies during the football game. Don't expect them to enjoy the same rituals you do with the buds. Things like flatulence and belching are not the most fun things for you partner to do in public. Yes, everyone does them but not in the form of a contest or joke to play on each other. Don't think you can chest bump your love as a touchdown is scored, your loves chest is for caressing not to knock them onto the floor. As much as you want you love to be your best friend you can't expect them to act like your friends. After all you don't want to have sex with the guys you go to the game with do you?
Today I am going to get my haircut. This might not seem romantic but I am going to do something different and my partner will not see me until it is done and over with. It is a little exciting for me to do something drastically different. I know that when my partner comes home with a different hairstyle I find myself wanting to get to know her all over again. On the outside she looks like a different person, and I wonder what sparked the change. I think it adds spice to you relationship and mixes things up a bit. Nothing wrong with that, how many people have you known that still have the same hairstyle from when they were in high school! For us guys it's a little different their are not that many hairstyles out there. One thing my wife doesn't have to worry about is me having the same hairstyle from high school. Why? because I had a mullet.
One thing that will show your partner what a great person you are is to help someone else out. Next time you see someone loading up their groceries lend a helping hand. Make sure to ask if it's okay first, you don't want to be a creepy person. Then help load up their groceries. You could also stop and help someone out with car problems or with a flat tire. It can be as simple as helping a child put their chain back on their bike or helping out a friend with a cook out. Just look for anything that would help someone out. Don't expect anything in return, the simple feeling you get should be enough. I use to drive around in my father's truck that had a snow plow on the front and help scoop out peoples drive ways. They always offered me money but I never accepted any the feeling was enough. Once your partner sees that you are truly doing this to simply help other out they will see you in a different light.
One of the most romantic things you can do for someone is just being there for them in a time of need. Everyone is different and some people want to be alone in a time of need. They will appreciate you for just holding your ground if that is what they need. Things like losing a parent or any family member are hard and a time when you need to put your partners feeling in front of everything else. Getting fired from a job is another time where you partner will need you to comfort them. It's is easy to feel rejected at a time like that, however a positive partner can change the situation around in a hurray.
Holding hands or just hugging make your arms a safe place to hide if only for a moment for you partner. When things like that happen you need to be the rock in the relationship. Put all your effort into helping any way you can. You be the one to go out and get dinner for the family at the funeral home. Help with the job search if your partner has just lost their job. Always be positive and show them you care. Most people find out just how romantic their partner is when times are tough. So don't be the person who runs away from the situation. Stand your ground and hold your partner up. After all you might need them sooner then you think.
Make it a point to say something nice today to everyone you come in contact with. Not only your partner, but your mother, brother, sister, neighbor, teacher, sitter, and the list goes on and on. By making it a habit to say something nice to everyone you meet, people begin to enjoy being around you. Saying "Did you lose weight" to your neighbor might just make her/his day. Telling the cashier at the store to have a nice day, might make their work day just a little brighter. These types of little statements can go a long way in brightening up someones day. If you brighten up someones day you are going to feel so much better.
Now you get double the points with your partner. For one they hear you say all those nice things to everyone else. This makes them see how wonderful you are to other people. Now when you say those things to your partner, not only do they know how wonderful you are but they also get the benefit of hearing something nice about themselves or just a nice statement in general.
You know it is really quite sad at how many people I know that can't say anything nice. It blows my mind to think, as I hear people being grumpy towards people they don't even know, that those words are the only thing that is popping into their heads right now. Sure we all have bad days but does that mean we should take them out on other? If your boss gets made at your should you go home and take it out on your family. The answer is no, if your struggling with that. Hopefully by getting in a pattern of saying nice things to people you can avoid the times when your down and say something that isn't how you really feel.
Always remember WORDS CAN HURT!
If you haven't seen the Free Hugs Video Here it is. This goes right along with what we are talking about. Also if you click the title of this post you can go to the free hugs website. Enjoy!
