Romance has tempos

Your romance can have a tempo just like music. It can be fast and upbeat or slow and sweet. Just like music you need to mix it up a bit. Somedays you want the fast upbeat type of romance. Dancing, laughing, being silly are examples of what I consider upbeat type of romance interactions. On the days you prefer slow and sweet romance, I would suggest snuggling watching movies or having a candle lit dinner. You then also have the wide range in between the two. So your romance should never hit the boring aspect of life. Keep mixing it up and don't stop being romantic what ever tempo you decide on today.

Surprise Haircut!

Today I am going to get my haircut. This might not seem romantic but I am going to do something different and my partner will not see me until it is done and over with. It is a little exciting for me to do something drastically different. I know that when my partner comes home with a different hairstyle I find myself wanting to get to know her all over again. On the outside she looks like a different person, and I wonder what sparked the change. I think it adds spice to you relationship and mixes things up a bit. Nothing wrong with that, how many people have you known that still have the same hairstyle from when they were in high school! For us guys it's a little different their are not that many hairstyles out there. One thing my wife doesn't have to worry about is me having the same hairstyle from high school. Why? because I had a mullet.

Vacations

A important part of anyone's life is to put some vacation time into it. Time to not worry about work and concentrate on your relationship and your family. I like to look at this time as a reboot for the love. Getting away and experiencing new and exciting things gets you back in that mind set of when you were dating, only now you are sharing all the expense. Vacations can be relaxing, where you just sit by the pool and soak up the sun. They can also be invigorating where you experience as many new things as you can. You just have to find the right combination for the two of you. If you have children involved then you have to find the common denominator that makes everyone happy. Once you do this your vacation or reboot will keep you going until the next one. The last thing you want to do is let your vacation stress you, don't come home and need another vacation. Enjoy yourself and catch up with all the people that mean the most to your.

When is the last time you really checked to see how much your partner does for you!

As in most relationships, we tend to expect the normal routine from our partner. If they do the laundry we expect that they will do it all the time, if they make dinner we are at the table with silverware in hand ready to eat. The only time we acknowledge our partner in this regard is when they don't help out in the normal way. Then our reaction is usually one of anger accompanied by yelling or unkind words. Are you one of those people that expect your partner to do things, how often do you thank them for the things they do to help out your relationship or family. I am sure that most of us can do a better job in the appreciation category. There are many ways to thank your mate for the things they do and they can be very simple. Things like do you wait on them to sit down before you start eating dinner, or saying, "Wow, the house looks great you must have spend hours cleaning it", or you can even just kiss them and say that is for the clean socks honey. Mix it up a little and go over the top from time to time to show them that you really do appreciate it. Do things like while eating a wonderful dinner they made slip them a note that says "This dinner is so good, I think I will make hot passionate love to you later tonight as a tip" or maybe after doing gardening or yard work you can get them in a shower and wash their hair for them. Showing appreciation is a lot form of art in relationships today and it is up to us to help bring it back to the forefront. Next time your partner takes care of the kids so you can nap, offer to give them a massage later in return, or if they have to miss work to take care of your sick child tell them to call up some friends and have a lunch date this weekend. Relationships are about helping each other out, not helping ourselves. Love is a powerful tool if used correctly, and appreciation in part of that power.