If Not a Soul Mate, Could Be Soul Family

A little insight...

Soul Family: Souls that are very close to you.  You might compare them to your immediate family on Earth.  Your soul family are the souls that are the closest to you.  During incarnation you may not get along with them because they are likely to teach you the most profound lessons and you them.  But, they are also those people that we meet and simply know we know them somehow.  We may wonder how can I know him/her.  Yet, you simply know you do.

Soul Cluster:  This is the group of souls that are close to you, but not as close.  Compare them to your extended family.  You may have a ton of cousins, aunts, uncles, etc., but may not be as close to them as your parents, siblings.  It all depends.  This is just an analogy.  There are an infinite number of soul clusters perhaps.  They make up Galactic families.  

Galactic Families:  They are like communities.  Groups of soul clusters that are closer to one another.

So, this little tidbit today is just something for you to chew on and ponder.  Is it exactly the truth for everyone?  Actually, I don't think so.  But, it certainly is for a whole slew though!

Love to you all,

Janelle

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Invite the family over.

Want to make a splash with your partner then invite their family over. Plan a big get together with food and excitement. If you think his/her family would participate then get some games to play together. If games won't do it then you might think about planning the get together to watch the big football game or the latest movie out you can rent. Have lots of fingers foods to munch on and plenty of pop and tea. If you are going to serve alcohol then make sure you are ready to make sure the drinkers are not driving and to let anyone know when they have had to much. Alcohol can loosen up the party but it can also cause problems. I would suggest leaving the alcohol out until you find our more about the family. Set a time for the party to be over so that everyone knows when it is time to go. Don't leave it open or you might be having a crazy brother that won't leave. This family invite over will score you big points with your partner and help you to get to know his/her family better.

Vacations

A important part of anyone's life is to put some vacation time into it. Time to not worry about work and concentrate on your relationship and your family. I like to look at this time as a reboot for the love. Getting away and experiencing new and exciting things gets you back in that mind set of when you were dating, only now you are sharing all the expense. Vacations can be relaxing, where you just sit by the pool and soak up the sun. They can also be invigorating where you experience as many new things as you can. You just have to find the right combination for the two of you. If you have children involved then you have to find the common denominator that makes everyone happy. Once you do this your vacation or reboot will keep you going until the next one. The last thing you want to do is let your vacation stress you, don't come home and need another vacation. Enjoy yourself and catch up with all the people that mean the most to your.

Your partners Birthday take it seriously.

As we age we don't want to celebrate another year of getting older. However, there is that little kid in all of us that enjoys being the center of attention and getting things to make us feel special. You can do this for your partner, even if you don't have much cash. Things you can do without much money is number one throw them a party. Invite all their family and friends and just let them enjoy the company of the people that mean the most to them. You can also make their favorite dinner, or breakfast to help them see how special you think they are. The important thing here is to go out of your way a little to show your love. Flowers fade, presents get old but the memories you can build in this manner last a lifetime. Take this from me never let an opportunity pass to celebrate your love for one another. You never know when it could be the last time to celebrate or when it just might brighten your partners life up a little.

Spending the day Geocaching

Today was our very first day of geocaching. If you don't know what geocaching is your can check out the web site at http://geocaching.com/ . Basically it is a combination of hiking and hide and seek. Someone somewhere hides a box or container and you go looking for it using a GPS system. When you find the cache there are things inside others have left behind. You pick something out and leave something behind. Most have a log book also so that you can see who has been in the cashe. It is both fun and romantic, as we have done it today with the family and my wife and I are going to go sometimes when the kids are in school. I am amazed at the number of cashes out there. At least go look at the site it is a wonderful activity that includes all ages and fitness levels. We found 3 cashes just this morning and are going out again after lunch.

Fathers Day and Romance.

Happy Fathers Day for all you fathers out there. I know we don't normally associate fathers day with romance. However, I feel there should be time for romance everyday. Tonight save the romance for later tonight and spend the day with your family. I know this is fathers day but the whole family needs to be involved. So go on a bike ride together, watch a family friendly movie, go out to dinner (Dad's Pick), take in a ballgame or just have a great big BBQ. Remember this is fathers day, so dads use and abuse that fact. No cooking for you, sit back and enjoy your day.

The Double Date

Stop for a moment. I already hear you sighing, "Not a double date". I know all the feelings you’re going through. Maybe you can't stand her friends and she wants to strangle yours, and you don't want to waste an evening listening to either one of them. You don't want to be stuck without transportation, and what if you can't agree on anything to do. Well stop whining. First of all, both of you need your friends. This is very true, and maybe they won't make the best double date candidates. It is time to find some friends that fit with your relationship. Couples that have another couple that they are close to can make a special bond that might last a lifetime. Look around there might be a couple closer then you think that you would enjoy spending time with. Look for common interests. If you have children, look for parents of your children’s friends. They most likely will be close to your age, and obviously, if they take interest in their children, you will end up at a lot of the same functions.

When you find a couple that seems to fit the bill, ask them to do something in a group setting such as having a BBQ or joining you at a friend’s party. That way you can see if you get along outside of you other realms. Find something you can pair off with them and do. At a BBQ you might play ladder ball or horse shoes with the other couple to see how they interact with you. After spending some time with them get with your partner and see what she/he thinks about them. If both of you don't agree, then start over again looking for another couple to hang with. If you both seem to like spending some time with them then maybe it is time to see if they would like to go to dinner with you or to a local bar or coffee house. Find out about each other and what your likes and dislikes are. This will help you find something else you can do together sometime.

Having another couple you can count on is a big plus. If you get to know each other well, you could even help each other out in other ways - such as, taking turns watching the kids so you can have a night out. Maybe sometime you would need their help in an emergency situation. If you don't have any family around, they could keep an eye on your house while you were on vacation. Yes, the double date is a pain sometimes, but sometimes it can lead to a great relationship that will last a lifetime.

There are some web sites out now that match couples up to do things just like the dating sites, make sure you are extra careful if you want to use one. Make sure that everyone knows what you are expecting. You don't want to be sitting with a couple of swingers asking when you are going to swap unless you’re into that. If you have a couple that you are already friends with, you are lucky because they can be a great source of help no matter what you need them for. It's like having extra family around.

Pet Names - They are just for the bedroom you know!

Pet names can go both ways. They can increase your intimacy or the can seem like they make you want to vomit. For starters don't use them in public, no one else wants to know you call your partner cupcake or snookie okums. These type of name are meant to stay between the two of you. Try to pick something that is not related to sweets or porn stars. For example Mistress Sugar Bottom might be a little too weird for anyone. Ladies if you are going to give you man a pet name make sure it sounds macho. No man no matter what kind of problems he has wants to be called Mr. Softy, or Small fry. Here are some examples to chose from: Stallion, Tarzan, Muscle Man, Hunk, Incredible Hulk, or if nothing at all just call us Huge. We will be happy.

I want to hear some of your unusual pet names so comment on this post and let me know.

This is what my grandmother would call me. Not what I want to be called in the middle of sex!

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The family that loves together. (Click in this Title to got to the Free Hugs Campaign Site)

In our quest to have the greatest relationship in the world we sometimes forget that part of our love involves our families. We tend to shy away from some of the things that have helped set our love in stone. Do you know anyone that has trouble getting close to their partner or someone who has self esteem problems? Well, most likely that has stemmed from events in their childhood. Whether it was from an overbearing parent, an alcoholic parent, emotional abuse or physical abuse it can create a monster that may secretly rear its ugly head. A lot of times relationship problems are bred from these memories of youth, and it can take a lot of energy to get over them. With the help of a caring partner it is possible, but this is not my point.

As we set our relationships in motion we are not just facilitating a better state for ourselves, we are affecting the future relationships of our children. If we cannot get over our dysfunctions, our children may be destined to repeat our inadequacies. To help prevent that it is time for us to get our relationships in order and get our family on the loving train. You have to start by showing your children it is okay to be in love and not just for a day, but for a lifetime. You have to explain to them how to put the other person first and how to share. Make sure they know that feelings are important and that caring isn't something to be ashamed off. Let them see you kiss and hug, hold hands as you walk with them and most important show them how to be a rock when someone is having a hard time. I realize that every child won't respond the same to these actions, but you are giving them a great head start on having their own relationships.

Don't stop there. Maybe it's not too late for your parents? Do the same things around them as we have just mentioned above. Maybe you could rekindle something in them that they haven't had in a long time. Show them that your relationship is strong and you’re making it stronger every day. If your parents have a great relationship, then maybe you should be taking notes as you watch them. Family love is a gene, and it can be passed down from generation to generation, but unlike DNA this is one genetic gift you can change if you don't have the right combination. It may take some therapy or even sacrifice on your part, but it will be worth it.