Staying Focused

One of the hardest things you have to do when entering a new relationship is to stay focused. It is so hard to start thinking as a couple instead of an individual. You have to start thinking about calling before you go places or seeing if your partner would like to go. Grocery shopping becomes a whole different beast when you become a couple. Two people can live cheaper then one but only if they like all the same things. If you go shopping alone you can bet you will forget something you partner wants. This is where you need to stay focused. Make lists of your partners likes and dislikes until you memorize them. This goes for everything not just shopping. Another hard area to get together on is the decorating of your house or apartment. You might have had sports memorabilia up in the living room when you were not part of a couple. However your new partner might have had lots of flowers in their living room. What do you do sports memorabilia and flowers don't go together real well. Here is where we get to that magic word, Compromise. Met somewhere in the middle and make sure the items appeal to both partners. Staying focused in a relationship is tough especially if you are new at it.

Spending the day Geocaching

Today was our very first day of geocaching. If you don't know what geocaching is your can check out the web site at http://geocaching.com/ . Basically it is a combination of hiking and hide and seek. Someone somewhere hides a box or container and you go looking for it using a GPS system. When you find the cache there are things inside others have left behind. You pick something out and leave something behind. Most have a log book also so that you can see who has been in the cashe. It is both fun and romantic, as we have done it today with the family and my wife and I are going to go sometimes when the kids are in school. I am amazed at the number of cashes out there. At least go look at the site it is a wonderful activity that includes all ages and fitness levels. We found 3 cashes just this morning and are going out again after lunch.

Don't be afraid of Vibrators.

I think in today's society most people understand that sex toys are an aid to a better sex life. However their are still some of you out there that think a vibrator is a replacement for a penis. Silly men, while a vibrator helps women achieve orgasm you do not see women going around marring vibrators. You should embrace her when she decides that a little extra excitement in the bedroom is a good idea. Using a vibrator will help her relax and helps get her ready for sex with you. Most women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm so a vibrator can be a man's best friend. You may be scratching you head but think about it. If a woman can reach her climax she is most likely going to make sure you reach yours. Just as men enjoy being stimulated visually a woman needs foreplay to get stimulated in most cases. As always there are exceptions but the averages follow this mold.

If you are still scared here is some more things to make you feel better about having a vibrator in your relationship. Vibrators don't hold her after sex, vibrators don't call out her name when they are cumming, vibrators don't work by themselves, vibrators don't swell as they get excited, and finally when she wants dirty talk all a vibrator can do is hum. So get out there today and if she doesn't have a vibrator already, order one. I have put a link to Good Vibrations in the title post that has a wide variety of simulators for women. Hey don't feel left out they have some for men, too.

Pictured above is the laya vibrator available at good vibrations. Make sure to check out all their products I am sure you can find something for both of you there.