Mr. Softy

What do you do if you member suddenly becomes non responsive. You are in the middle of a great time and your usually stiff and ready friend becomes MR. SOFTY!!!! First of all don't panic, that is the worst thing you can do. Becoming concerned and freaking out will not help you get your erection back. First thing you need to do is stay calm and relax, play it off a little and tell you partner that they might need to wake your sleeping member up. Things that might work are playing with Mr. Softy, or other areas that usually excite you. Ask for stimulation on your taint or anus, maybe just kissing will do the trick or some mouth to mouth for Mr. Softy might work. I know we have all heard it before but it happens to most people at some point and time. If the problem continues you should see your doctor, because the last thing you want to do is let the effect you. Search the internet for home based cures that don't involve digesting disgusting things. This might also be a clue that something else is wrong with your body so again see your doctor. If you clean up your diet and avoid drinking alcohol you might see a quick change. There are several things that can lead to this problem like spending to much time on your bike to stress in your life. Try to think what has changed and begin eliminating those things one by one and see where that gets you. However I cannot tell you enough that going to see your doctor is the best advice and course of action.

The family that loves together. (Click in this Title to got to the Free Hugs Campaign Site)

In our quest to have the greatest relationship in the world we sometimes forget that part of our love involves our families. We tend to shy away from some of the things that have helped set our love in stone. Do you know anyone that has trouble getting close to their partner or someone who has self esteem problems? Well, most likely that has stemmed from events in their childhood. Whether it was from an overbearing parent, an alcoholic parent, emotional abuse or physical abuse it can create a monster that may secretly rear its ugly head. A lot of times relationship problems are bred from these memories of youth, and it can take a lot of energy to get over them. With the help of a caring partner it is possible, but this is not my point.

As we set our relationships in motion we are not just facilitating a better state for ourselves, we are affecting the future relationships of our children. If we cannot get over our dysfunctions, our children may be destined to repeat our inadequacies. To help prevent that it is time for us to get our relationships in order and get our family on the loving train. You have to start by showing your children it is okay to be in love and not just for a day, but for a lifetime. You have to explain to them how to put the other person first and how to share. Make sure they know that feelings are important and that caring isn't something to be ashamed off. Let them see you kiss and hug, hold hands as you walk with them and most important show them how to be a rock when someone is having a hard time. I realize that every child won't respond the same to these actions, but you are giving them a great head start on having their own relationships.

Don't stop there. Maybe it's not too late for your parents? Do the same things around them as we have just mentioned above. Maybe you could rekindle something in them that they haven't had in a long time. Show them that your relationship is strong and you’re making it stronger every day. If your parents have a great relationship, then maybe you should be taking notes as you watch them. Family love is a gene, and it can be passed down from generation to generation, but unlike DNA this is one genetic gift you can change if you don't have the right combination. It may take some therapy or even sacrifice on your part, but it will be worth it.

Arguments, yes they are OKAY!

Differences in a relationship are normal and healthy! They are not road blocks. They are what makes him, himself and her, herself. Look at all the couples you know, even the ones you think are exactly the same, and I bet if you look hard enough you will see differences. For example, a couple might love to go to art museums together, but they might not enjoy the exact same type of art, and that is okay. These differences allow us to communicate, debate, and even argue. If we were both the same our conversations would be boring. We would both just say things like "Ya, I like that too." There would never be any questions. So these differences keep us sane in my opinion.

I love to debate things. Listening to others opinions and then giving your opinions is a wonderful tool for getting to know someone even if you have been married to that person for 50 years. You can always learn something new about a person. My personal opinion is that the best relationships happen because the two people involved understand they are going to have different opinions, and they don't love each other any less because of them. Arguments are going to happen from time to time in a relationship, but the one thing I feel is important is before the argument ends both parties say I understand you have a different opinion, but I still love you. Always try to see the other person’s point of view, even if you think it is wrong. Sometimes in my experiences it seems like we go through stages where we can't agree on anything and it seems like we just take the opposite side just to aggravate our partner. But, if you look closely you see that isn't necessarily the case. When you take two individuals and make them a couple people assume that they must be a perfect match. The perfect match comes from the understanding of each other not from liking the same things.

When you truly love someone you understand what is important to them, and if that is what makes them happy, you just roll with it. Now take a look at your relationship. Spot the differences in the two of you. Write them down. Put her likes and his likes down on the paper. Look at the other person’s likes, and circle the ones you have interest in. Put an “X” by the ones you have no interest in at all. Both of you study the list, take a step back and then debate things. For example, he wants to go to the baseball game and you have put an x by that. Well that would be a great thing for him to do with his buddies. Okay now, look on your list for his Xs, and find one that you could do with your friends. Bingo! You do that one while he is at the game with his buds. Here is the important part - find one on either list that is circled. Obviously this is one that you both enjoy. Either the next day or even that evening make sure the two of you have time to share that experience.

Lastly, don't be afraid to argue. It is not the end of your relationship. It is just a heated debate. If you have to fear losing someone because you disagree, then maybe you should rethink your relationship anyway. Even when you are in an argument you should never go to bed mad at each other. Snuggle up and remember why you love this person. You may resume the argument in the morning, but while you are in bed forget about it.

Underwear is Fun to wear.

All right guys, time to go shopping and get some new undies. Yes you need to do this alone, so that way you can suprise your partner when you just happpen to be parading around in your new hot underwear. Believe me there is nothing sexy about a pair of underwear you have had for over a year! Now get out their and pick out some new underwear that will draw attention to you. (Click the title line to go to the Men's Underwear Store)

Romantic Needs

Romantic Needs

Gentlemen and Ladies let me start by saying that there is no map to creating a more romantic relationship in your life. Now that I have burst your bubble let me tell you why. Romance is an ever changing facit of your life. Just as in every other part of your life if you keep doing the same thing over and over it gets boring. So, don't think that you can read this blog one time and presto you are the most romantic person in the world. For example, if your partner loves to get flowers you can send her some and be Romeo, but if you send her flowers everyday, it just becomes creepy. She will probably begin to resent the flowers or maybe run in terror everytime she sees any. Help me out ladies and tell me about that fine line between the man of your dreams and the stalker.

So men there is no easy road map to this romance thing. You're gonna have to work at it the rest of the life of your relationship. Now stop sobbing. Dry those tears from your eyes and let's think. Remember when you were first dating and how all you wanted to do was please that specail lady in your life. Well do you still feel that way? Same for you ladies - has the romance left your relationship or are we just a little be lazy now that we are comfortable. Ahhhhh here lies the secret. You have to work at your relationship and putting romance into it. You have to remember why you fell head over heels for this person. Now roll up your sleeves, and let's get to work.

Think back to the things you did when you first started dating. Remember those days trying to find something fun and exciting to do everytime you got together. Well why did you stop doing that? Why when we get comfortable with someone do we forget how much fun we had wtih them? Now continue thinking about something you did that you both enjoyed and start trying to find a way to relive that. Maybe it was a magical night on the beach watching the sunset, or driving in the country and taking pictures, or something as simple as walking around your old campus holding hands. Never underestimate the power of the date rerun. Again, keep it within reason. The same date rerun done everyweek makes it a chore, and men we all know how much we hate those.

Remember Romance isn't a given. It's like a garden that must be pampered and watered and hold up hold up let me rephrase that so my fellow men can understand. Fellas, romance is like pizza you can put lots of different things on it but it's still a pizza and it still tastes good. So, until the next time, keep the romance alive. Oh by the way, does anyone have the number to the pizza place? For some reason I seem to be a little hungry now.