Give and Take!

Everyone knows that romance is a give and take situation. The problems come in when the balance begins to get lopsided. One partner is doing more giving and the other is doing more taking. We all want to enjoy the romantic efforts of our partner it feels great. However, there are wonderful feelings in doing things for them as well. Think about how you feel when your partner does something romantic for you? Shouldn't they get the same feeling returned to them? If this is not your train of thought then you need to start retraining yourself. Unmatched romance soon becomes a chore to the person being romantic. They will start to loose interest and start thinking things like "Why, should I do this it won't be appreciated?" Think about how your react to your partner do you expect them to be the one that buys flowers all the time, or sets up wonderful evenings for the two of you. If your not pulling your weight in your relationship then it is your partner that is suffering not you. Now if you love your partner and want them to be happy there is no time like the present to take action. Return all their romantic notions with ones of your own. Make it a challenge to yourself to return every serve they make and soon you might just find the wonderful joy you will have in yourself and how thankful you are that your partner loves you.

What ice cream flavor are you?

I use to think that when you determined what type of ice cream you liked you had 2 choices, chocolate and vanilla. Just like a relationship that is wrong there are so many other choices and flavors to choose from. What flavor does your partner like, forget the boring plain ice creams of the past start finding ones from today. Ben and Jerry's has a unlimited supply of flavors with cool names that can be a special treat for your partner and you. Some of them include Cherry Garcia, Dublin Mudslide, Boston Creme Pie, Fossil Fuel, and my favorite Chunky Monkey. The nice thing about Ben and Jerry's is that they come in a small container because they are loaded with calories and are a little expensive also. However, the taste is worth it. You can find click her to find Ben and Jerry's web site. Then go out and find the flavor that is just right for both of you, then the next time your partner needs a little pick me up or somethings special the two of you can split a little cup of joy.

Watching the tree lights.

You know how the flicker of the fire sets a great mood for romance. Well at this time of year your Christmas tree lights can do the same thing. Turn all the lights down in the room with your tree in it and then find a cozy chair to snuggle down in. Don't let talking get in the way of enjoying the lights, just relax for a bit and take in the magic season of lights. Once you feel relaxed then you can start talking about things like presents you need to buy or what you want to do this holiday season. However, don't think to much the object here is to relax and enjoy the wonderful christmas tree the two of you have put up.