Join a League!

Relationships are funny things especially at the start. You have to feel your way around to see when and where to take big steps. Things like moving in together or purchasing large items are huge steps as far as relationships go. Maybe you aren't ready for that type of big step yet, what can you do to make a commetment but not dive head first into this realtionship. My suggestion is to join some sort of league. Be it bowling, gold, darts, softball, etc. there are endless possibilities. Now you might wonder why this is reat for you relationship, and the reason is that it shows you are looking at your relationship as a continueing thing. You are showing that you are looking towards the future with this person, without making a hard to reverse step. If things don't work out it is usually not that difficult to get out of one of these leagues. Another great benifit to joining leagues for a couple is you meet other out going couples that you might be able to become friends with. Couples that become friends are a great addition to your relationship as you will have others to enjoy things like cookouts, parties or eveneings out with. The friends you bring into your relationship at the start are either his or hers, but these new friends are "OUR" friends and are not partial to either of you. This can be a big help if you might have troubles down the line. Look through your local paper and the next time you see an advertisement asking for league members ask your partner if they would like to join, it might just be great for your relationship.

Go Bowling

Go Bowling Here is a great activity that you both can do. Even people that are not that athletic can roll a ball down the lane. Do a search for a local bowling center in your area. Find the closest one, and get the phone number. Call or visit the website to find out when the open bowling hours are. Then you can plan a date around an evening of bowling. If you are an active bowler, take a break and don't take your fancy-shmancy equipment. Get rental shoes at the center, use a house ball off the rack and if you’re really a lot better than your partner, use your opposite hand (but don’t make a big deal about that – especially if you still bowl better than your date). The point is to make it fun and not a competition. Take your time. You are not under any time limits here. Flip a coin to see who goes first. If one is a lot better than the other, discuss a handicap such as giving the other person bonus pins or the first person has to throw the ball in the gutter on the first ball every time. Like I said earlier, make an evening of it and do pizza and beer before or after the bowling. The point is to enjoy the evening without getting too involved with the activities. Try to remember the very first time you went bowling, and look at the evening in that regard. If bowling is not your thing, use a substitute.

Some activities that might work include miniature golf, go cart racing or even bingo. Get away from the competition and just enjoy participating with your partner in an activity that is fun. If you have to wait, don't worry most recreational facilities have other forms of enjoyment to participate in during your wait. You may discover arcade games or batting cages. Let your hair down and have a ball.