Do something new!

Today is a great day to try something new for the two of you. It can be anything as long as it is something you normally don't do. You could go to a museum, or an art gallery as a way of broadening you artistic appreciation. Find a place near your town that neither of you have ever been to and go check out what it offers. This activity helps build adventure in your life and by putting adventure in your life you will make a stronger connection between the two of you. Other things you can look for might be things at your local college, they seem to always have something going on that is most likely out of your normal range. Pick up the paper and look at the entertainment section and find different events that might be going on around you. Things like ethnic festivals, specific trade shows, or even collectible or antique shows. The most important part is that you experience whatever you do together.

Total romantic thing to drink - Sangria

Sangria is a wine punch that originated in Spain. It combines fruit that has been soaking in a wine to where the acidity taste of the fruit is transferred into the wine. While the alcohol taste is their it is almost covered up by the fruit taste. This is a great wine for sipping on late nights or at cordial events on hot summer days. Some sangria has added carbonation to give it a more zesty flavor. The possibilities of combinations are unlimited as you can add you own choices to the concoction to give it just the right flavors. Peaches, apples, kiwi, melon, oranges, are just a few of the many fruits I have seen in this flavorful wine. Sangria is a great choice if you don't like the dry taste of most wines as it give you a more youthful feeling while consuming it. Pick up a bottle on the way home tonight and then sit back and pour both of you a glass and enjoy the rest of your night.

Being sexual without having sex.

I have heard it way to many times from couples. One partner is never in the mood as much as the other. With this problem we have to look a little deeper into our sexual being. You have to broaden your horizon on what constitutes sex. The partner that is desiring sex, shouldn't be left out in the cold just because the other partner doesn't have any desire on this day. The two of you need to work out some arrangements to meet both partners needs without either one of them feeling neglected or forced into anything. There are several forms of sex that one can perform on another without the actual sex happening between the two. Oral sex, hand jobs, and several other ways to get the person that desires the sex off is a great alternative. Masturbation is another get way to share without both of you having to participate fully. Let the partner who is urning for sex masturbate while the other partner watches and touches them. Make comments how how sexy it is and encourage them to talk also. The partner that is not in the mood might just change their mind as the event of masturbation is occurring. The in this point is to respect the other persons right to their feelings. Just because you are not in the mood doesn't mean that they have to not be in the mood also. With a little give and take you will soon find a happy place that makes both of you feel like your relationship is sexy and strong.

Give your partner a good book!

Want a great way to show your partner how much you care about them. Get them a good book. Pick one from their favorite author, or a subject that they have interest and pick up a copy to give them. You don't have to have a reason for this gift, just spring it on them because it is a great day. Pick a book that might help your relationship, or something you can do together and use it as a relationship building tool for the two of you. You can even pick a book that the both of you can read together. Use books to your advantage and in the best way but it never a bad idea to give the gift of literature or instruction.

Nothing like being creative to get your romantic juices flowing.

Do you have an artistic side? If so does it make you feel passionate when you create a work or piece of art. Whether it is writing, painting, sculpting, woodwork, or even cooking being creative is essential to being passionate. The feeling and love you put into that work of art, only builds up in your relationship. Creating a lasting relationship is like being artistic, you have to use your imagination and all the tools at your disposal to create your masterpiece relationship. Next time you are working hard on your hobby or creative side try to channel some of that energy into your relationship. You might just find that your creative process is an aphrodisiac for your relationship.

Your partners Birthday take it seriously.

As we age we don't want to celebrate another year of getting older. However, there is that little kid in all of us that enjoys being the center of attention and getting things to make us feel special. You can do this for your partner, even if you don't have much cash. Things you can do without much money is number one throw them a party. Invite all their family and friends and just let them enjoy the company of the people that mean the most to them. You can also make their favorite dinner, or breakfast to help them see how special you think they are. The important thing here is to go out of your way a little to show your love. Flowers fade, presents get old but the memories you can build in this manner last a lifetime. Take this from me never let an opportunity pass to celebrate your love for one another. You never know when it could be the last time to celebrate or when it just might brighten your partners life up a little.

Today is a great day to have sex!

We so often put things off and sex is one of the most put off things in a relationship. Why? It can make you feel good and can help you sleep better when done on a regular basis. There are also chemicals released during sex that helps your body feel better. The old adage of "Not tonight I have a headache" is so sill being that it is proven the sex and help improve headaches. There are so many studies on the benefits of sex that I don't understand the reason people avoid it. Today is the day to start improving not only your relationship but your health also.

Attend all weddings you can.

Something that always seems to get people in the mood for romance is a good wedding. I guess it is just the fact of the special day and two people expressing their love to each other that gets our romance juices flowing. We either visualize our wedding day from the past or our hope that someday we will get married. It is my understanding that there is also a such a thing as wedding sex, where you are more likely to have intimacy after attending a wedding then many other events. Maybe it is the romance in the air or the booze they serve during the reception. Which ever one it is don't miss a chance to get your wedding groove on.

Romantic Move for Men at a wedding : Men if you want to score big points, during the vows, reach over and hold your partners hand, and squeeze it a little during important parts of the vows.

Romantic Move for Women at a wedding : After you form the line to send the bride and groom off on their honeymoon, whisper in your partners ear, "Let relive our honeymoon when we get home!"

Good luck to you and your wedding adventures.

Waiting up

Do you have a night when your partner gets home late? If so this is a great time to surprise them by staying up to spend a little time with them. Most people that have to either work or stay out late cannot just come home and jump into bed to fall asleep. A nice gesture would be to surprise them by being up to spend some time with them. Have a great conversation, play a game, watch some late night television or you could even be waiting with some sexy intentions in mind to show them how much you care about them. You don't have to do this every night but once in a while will get your partner rushing home to see if there might be a chance you will still be up to enjoy their company.

Video the two of you.

There is no time like the present to get started making a little video of the two of you for memories sake. Think about it how much you change in a year or 10 years or 20. Take a little video of the two of you each and every year on your anniversary and compile this video footage into a montage. Think about how wonderful it will be on your 50th wedding anniversary to see all the clips in order. Do something similar in each video weather you kiss, talk about things or do something silly. This will make a great memory for the two of you but for all the people who's lives you touch. As time goes by you will be glad you did this, it is a wonderful way to remember how we were.

Time your foreplay!

Society today is so rushed. It seems like we rush from one thing to another. If you have kids then you add at least twice as much running into your schedule and usually more. Unfortunately we are also rushing in the bedroom. Our sex is hurried so that we can get to sleep and get up to start this cycle all over again.

Well it is time to break this cycle. I want the two of you to slow it down a little in your bedroom. Let's not rush the most passionate area in our relationship. This may sound a little silly but I want you to get one of those kitchen timers that dings when time is up. Now before you are ready for intimacy I want you to set it for at least 30 minutes. This is the amount of time I want you to spend on foreplay before intercourse takes place. No penetration can happen until the ding sounds on the timer. Spend time touching, kissing and licking each other up into a frenzy believe me this might seem a little strange at first but once the ding sounds and the actual intercourse starts you will be thanking me. The extra time spend stimulating each other will make your sex better then ever.

Now you might need to brush up a little on your foreplay. You don't want to spend 30 minutes just playing with nipples. Branch out and find the many erogenous zones on your partners body. Stroke different areas of the body and let your partner touch you in places you normal avoid. Experiment with the anus is has wonderful sensations for both men and women. Combine areas to create different sensations. Lick one area while you stimulate another area with your hands. I hope that this 30 minutes of foreplay will soon become a staple in your love making.

Feeling needed!

A wonderful feeling that accompanies romance is the feeling of being needed or helpful. Have you even felt this emotion? It can bring your soul up from the depths of dispare and make you feel like an important part of life. Now how can we work this feeling into romance? Thing about it can you make your partner feel needed, are there things in your life that it would be helpful if your partner participated in them. We all have a power struggle that makes us want to take care of everything yourself. Maybe you could ask your partner to help you do your taxes, or help you figure out the best exercises to be doing. The point of these things is to make them feel like not only you want them but that you need them in your life. There is not a single soul out there that doesn't like to know that they are needed. What better person in your life to express that to you than you partner. Sure both of you could live without the other person that is not the point and we don't want you to give up your Independence. We just want you to show your partner that they are important to you and not just an accessory in your life.

Want to pass some time? together!

Here is a nice thing to do if the two of you want to pass some time together. Find games that are for only one player and then play that game together. Games like solitaire, or computer games that require some thinking are great to put your minds together and work as a team. This is one of those things to see how well the two of you can work together without being something that is important. See how quickly you start to feed off of each other. If it is a game one partner doesn't understand take the time to teach them how to play and use all your patience as it brings the two of you closer together.

Olympics and Valentine's

With the winter olympics only happening every 4 years this is a great time to spend your Valentine's Day snuggled down with your partner watching the world on stage. Pick out your favorite events and follow them together. Now in another four years you have a specific thing to watch on Valentine's Day. You will build some wonderful memories and learn several new things as you watch the olympics. Spend your Valentine's Day full of chocolate hearts and gold medals. After all you can only do this every four years.

Last Chance.

Today is your last chance to get that perfect Valentine's day gift. The way the economy is now I totally understand if you don't have enough money to go out and purchase an expensive present. So if that is the case then you have to use your mind. Believe me, your partner will understand your financial woes and a heart felt gift is just as meaning full as anything when you are in financial straights. Some ideas might be fixing a candle light dinner, breakfast in bed, coupons for chores around the house, homemade card filled with your feelings, Renting a romantic movie and a bottle of cheap wine, a promise to do something later once your finances are in better shape, or even just a simple night of passion doing all the things your partner likes. It may sound silly but I thing these ideas show a lot more love then just going out a buying the most expensive thing you can find. Have a great Valentine's Day everyone and let me know any fun and exciting things you do to show your love for your partner. Drop me a line at romantincantics@gmail.com and fill me in.

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A special way to say I love you on Valentine's Day : Wear a thong

Nothing tells your partner your in the mood for a little loving like wearing a thong. Set up your show by finding a time where they will notice your thong and get their motor running. Bend over in front of them knowing that they will be checking out your rear end. Then make sure your thong is exposed and that is enough to get blood flowing for most people. Now when the opportunity arises remove your pants and let them enjoy the entire scenery making sure to put it right where they can see it. The rest is up to you but with any luck you won't be in that thong for long.

A heart shaped breakfast of Valentine's Day.

What better way to kick off your Valentine's Day then to create some heart shaped foods for you partner. Pancakes, toast, waffles, and many others items can be shaped into hearts to make your Valentine's Day breakfast a winner. At this time of year you can find heart shaped cutters anywhere and at the same time you can find Valentine themed plates and cups, also. These items can help set the mood even better for a breakfast in bed bonanza. If you partner will only eat cereal for breakfast you can pick up a heart shaped bowl for their morning milk and cereal fix. Since Valentine's Day is on a Sunday this year most of you will have a little extra time to get your breakfast ready. Enjoy your Valentine's Day and your love this year, it's a wonderful thing to celebrate.

How many times is to many times to say I love you?

A debate about how many times is the perfect amount of times to say I love you during a day. Some people would say that 1 time is enough a day, while others need those words more as it gives them support and encouragement. I do believe that there is not certain answer to this equation. Everyone is different, however the trick to this is finding the balance between the two individuals. In this matter you need to find a place where it doesn't annoy one partner but is enough for the other partner. The only way to do this is through a little trail and error. Which ever person you are in the relationship you need to either add or subtract the number of times you tell your partner you love them. Continue to do this each day until your partner no longer rolls their eyes at this or in the other case stops pumping your for more. Once you find that medium then stick with it and you can put this debate to bed.

Share your feelings

Here is a little hint for you no matter where you are in your relationship. Share your feelings, it's that simple. If something bothers you then let your partner know about it. Don't just tell them about feelings about your relationship, use this outlet to express your feelings about all factors in your life. Work, children, education, no matter what the area let your feelings be known, even if you agree with the topic let it out. This is a great practice to get into as it opens up the lines of communication. Once you are in flow of this you won't even hesitate to share your feelings as they happen, and if you don't let your feelings fester then you might see an improvement in not only your relationship but your life in general.

When is the last time you really checked to see how much your partner does for you!

As in most relationships, we tend to expect the normal routine from our partner. If they do the laundry we expect that they will do it all the time, if they make dinner we are at the table with silverware in hand ready to eat. The only time we acknowledge our partner in this regard is when they don't help out in the normal way. Then our reaction is usually one of anger accompanied by yelling or unkind words. Are you one of those people that expect your partner to do things, how often do you thank them for the things they do to help out your relationship or family. I am sure that most of us can do a better job in the appreciation category. There are many ways to thank your mate for the things they do and they can be very simple. Things like do you wait on them to sit down before you start eating dinner, or saying, "Wow, the house looks great you must have spend hours cleaning it", or you can even just kiss them and say that is for the clean socks honey. Mix it up a little and go over the top from time to time to show them that you really do appreciate it. Do things like while eating a wonderful dinner they made slip them a note that says "This dinner is so good, I think I will make hot passionate love to you later tonight as a tip" or maybe after doing gardening or yard work you can get them in a shower and wash their hair for them. Showing appreciation is a lot form of art in relationships today and it is up to us to help bring it back to the forefront. Next time your partner takes care of the kids so you can nap, offer to give them a massage later in return, or if they have to miss work to take care of your sick child tell them to call up some friends and have a lunch date this weekend. Relationships are about helping each other out, not helping ourselves. Love is a powerful tool if used correctly, and appreciation in part of that power.

Supe Bowl - Super Romantic Dish

Two things that go hand in hand are the Super Bowl and some great food. Everyone that prepares food for a Super Bowl party has a special dish that they like to make. Today is the day to show off your skills to your sweetheart. Don't just pick an easy dish to make, like nachos or hot dogs. Pick something out of the ordinary, today for instance I am making my special Stromboli with pie crusts and filled with sausage, sauce and cheese. This will most certainly impress your partner and show them that you have many talents besides being a great partner. One thing you want to make sure of is that you plan out your meal so that you won't be cooking during the game. You want the food to be ready for the two of you to enjoy during the game without missing a minute of the game. Today is also the day that the most junk is ate, so break that tradition and find healthy alternatives to snack and eat on. Remember the Super Bowl is like Christmas it only comes around once a year. Make the most of it and make it a event to remember.

What ice cream flavor are you?

I use to think that when you determined what type of ice cream you liked you had 2 choices, chocolate and vanilla. Just like a relationship that is wrong there are so many other choices and flavors to choose from. What flavor does your partner like, forget the boring plain ice creams of the past start finding ones from today. Ben and Jerry's has a unlimited supply of flavors with cool names that can be a special treat for your partner and you. Some of them include Cherry Garcia, Dublin Mudslide, Boston Creme Pie, Fossil Fuel, and my favorite Chunky Monkey. The nice thing about Ben and Jerry's is that they come in a small container because they are loaded with calories and are a little expensive also. However, the taste is worth it. You can find click her to find Ben and Jerry's web site. Then go out and find the flavor that is just right for both of you, then the next time your partner needs a little pick me up or somethings special the two of you can split a little cup of joy.

Valentine's Day Gift Idea - Gift Certificate to Adult Toy Store

Valentine's Day is a great time to branch out and find new ways to show your love for each other. This gift adds a sexual feel to your gift and also gives you a little insight into what your partner might be curious about. Think about it, one of the hardest things to do is to bring up something new to try in your bedroom. You are afraid you will be rejected or worse feel like your a pervert. The way you can do this for Valentine's Day is to purchase your love a gift certificate for an online sex toy store. Then all you do is give your partner the store's catalog and the gift certificate and let them pick out their items in privacy if they like or with you if they are more outgoing. The only stipulation is that the package has to be sent to you. This way when you get the box and open it up, you see what they are wanting to try and they don't have to come out and tell you. Believe me when I tell you that the person who picks out the items will be so excited waiting for the package to arrive that they will almost jump into your arms when you approach them with the item or items. If you get something out of your comfort zone then you need to sit down and talk about the item never just say no to your partner but find a way to accommodate both your passions.

Check out one of my favorite toys stores - Eden Fantasies for some great ideas and to get your gift certificate. You can click on the title of this post to take you to their store front.

Education is Sexy

Here I am in my late early 40's wondering why I didn't get more education when I was younger. As I sit here considering going back to take some classes on computer programming, I am realizing that education is sexy. Learning new things is never a bad thing to do, even if you don't feel like doing the classroom thing. Think about it how wonderful it could be learning new things with the person you love. Maybe a cooking class or photography anything that would strike your fancy and hold both of your interests, would also give you more things to converse about. How many times have the two of you been talking and wondered about something that neither one of you could answer. In this day and age all you have to do is venture over to your computer and with a little help from google you have your answer. Presto you have just learned something new even if it is trivial you still found something out together. In my opinion you should never stop trying to learn something new, when you do that is when you get old.

Valentines Day fun!

Okay today I am going to tell you a fun little game to play with your partner on Valentine's Day. We call this one search for my heart. What you do is get some construction paper and cut it out into hearts. Next you need to plan out several area's of your house where you can hide clues. Places like the refrigerator, dryer, or underwear drawer for examples. Next you put clues on the hearts you cut out of the construction paper. You can make them as hard or easy as you like one example might be if you are going to hide one in the dryer you might write on the heart, "If I wanted you to tumble my underwear it might be in here" Lead the person all around your house with these clues then with a red washable marker draw a little heart on your body that is the x that marks the spot. If you want to be intimate you might put the heart near you genitals or if you can just put the heart on your chest. To start the hunt out give your partner a card with the first clue inside. You could also purchase several little presents and put one at each clue to add a little more excitement to the game. You could plan your evening out this way, get a coupon for your favorite restaurant, followed by a ticket to a romantic movie, then a bottle of wine, ending with a pair of sexy underwear. I think they will get the idea!!!

Valentine's Day Gift Idea - Sexy Robe and Slippers

Today we are going to start giving you ideas on things you can get your partner for Valentine's Day. A sexy robe and slippers can be a great idea for either male or a female partner. It tells the person that you are giving it to that you want to be more intimate with them. and if you are not currently living together it conveys the message that you would like to spend the night with them. Depending on the climate you live in, the robe you pick out should suit that climate. Colder climates might call for a warmer robe, like a big thick terry cloth one, or if your climate is warmer then a silk robe might be the way to go. If you want to add a little spice to the gift then pick out some silk boxers or a sexy bra and panty set to slip inside the robe. When they pull the robe out of the box then the other items fall onto the floor. No matter which type of robe you pick it will surely be a big hit.

Crock Pot Cooking! How Romantic!

Crock Pot Cooking how in the world can that be romantic? Well when you cook in the crock pot you get a wonderful meal that is tender and juicy without spending hours in front of the grill or stove. With spending less time in front of the stove you have more time to enjoy your partner. So you can watch a movie, play a game, or fool around a little all while your dinner is cooking. Plus the smells of the dish you are cooking helps tantalize the sense of smell as it fills the whole house with the wonderful aroma. You also look like a chef when your dish is done and all you have to do is throw in the ingredients and stir them from time to time and presto. It does take a little planning but nothing compared to cooking a whole meal on the stove. Some great ideas are roast and potatoes, chili, soups and even Mexican dishes. This also gives the sense of the house being more comfortable with the warmth the crock pot fills the kitchen with. Check the Internet today for some great recipes that will not only have your partner drooling for your food but gives a chance to enjoy their company at the same time it's cooking.