Romance is in your hands.

I don't want to hear that you can't think about anything romantic to do for your partner. For starters start looking over these blog entries and pick one. Even if you don't do that just do something special for your partner that is where the love comes from. Do one of their normal chores or help out a little extra folding the clothes. The most simple gestures can be the most romantic ones of all. Don't shoot for the moon because it it a long way away, aim for your lover they are a lot closer.

The drums have it.

Next time it is time to get a little frisky try to find a drum beat that is a little tribal. Pick out something from Hawaii or Africa and let your imagination run wild while you enjoy the rhythmic beat of the drums and let your love making get in tune with the beats. You might just find it a spiritual practice in itself.

Set up a special email account.

Today with the ease of getting an email account you can quickly set up a special one. this email account will be a direct link between the two of you. You will only use this account to send special messages back and froth between the two of you. Treat it like a love line and only send messages of love and desire. Don't use this account to ask whats for supper or how are the kids. This email account is for you both to express your deepest love and passion for each other. Don't abuse this account but at least every three days drop a note to your love into it. You soon will find yourself anxiously checking your account to see how much your partner loves you.

Pictures of the both of you.

The one thing I think all couples should do is get their picture taken together. I don't mean to go out and get a setting down with a professional photographer. I am talking about pictures of the two of you doing the thing in life that are fun to you. Vacations, cookouts, or just when you are being silly hand your camera over to someone and ask them to take your picture. These are the pictures you want to hang up around your house. These pictures so love and affection for each other and give you that feel good feeling you need as you glance at them. Plus viewing them makes you want to go out and have more fun together. Document your relationship and start taking pictures today.

Do your part for the Ta Ta's

Breast cancer awareness month is fast coming upon us. No matter if breast cancer has effected your life or not you can still help the millions of people it has. You can join a walk with your partner or raise some money for the research of the cure for this problem. The best thing you can do is encourage your female partner to either go get checked or to start doing self examination on herself. Early detection is the key to beating breast cancer. So the more often she checks the better. If she is open to it have your let you check out her amazing rack and get a little enjoyment our of the check. Join her in the shower or before you make love to show that you care and love her. While you are checking her, she can return the favor and check out your testicles for testicular cancer in the same manner. Don't be shy about this it could add years to your time together.

Put a little fun under your covers.

Have you ever wanted when you were younger to be a super hero? Well why not bring that desire into your bedroom now? Think about it how fun it would be to role play a little that you are superman, batman, cat woman, or wonder woman. The amazing part is that bringing these superheroes to the bedroom might help spice things up a bit and get your sex more amazing. Check out site to find undies with superheroes on them and then pretend you are the man of steel when you make love, or Wonder Woman as you seduce your mate. It might just be the fun you have been searching for.

Romance has tempos

Your romance can have a tempo just like music. It can be fast and upbeat or slow and sweet. Just like music you need to mix it up a bit. Somedays you want the fast upbeat type of romance. Dancing, laughing, being silly are examples of what I consider upbeat type of romance interactions. On the days you prefer slow and sweet romance, I would suggest snuggling watching movies or having a candle lit dinner. You then also have the wide range in between the two. So your romance should never hit the boring aspect of life. Keep mixing it up and don't stop being romantic what ever tempo you decide on today.

Don't forget to have quite time.

We spend so much time talking and learning about each other that sometimes we forget that just being present with each other is a blessing in itself. Enjoying that quiet time with each other just laying next to your love or lightly touching each other is a wonderful way to relax and enjoy each other without having to worry about bring up something interesting or new. You can just be together and soak up each others energy without saying a word. Sometimes this is just what the doctor ordered on those days that seem a little harder that others. Try it sometime don't speak just relax and enjoy and feel your partners presence.

Listen to positive podcasts on your drive home.

Start making your drive home from work a little more productive by listening to romantic podcasts on the way home. You can find almost everything under the sun on itunes. Get a podcast about sex or one about being more romantic. Even if you get one that will teach you something to share with your partner is a good idea. This will give you ideas for later when you get home and also give you something to talk about during dinner. Branch out and get a podcast that you might not normally listen to and enjoy learning something different who knows you might find something that will interest the both of you.

Count your blessings.

A good habit to get into is make a list everyday of ten things you are thankful for. It doesn't have to be a major list everyday and the items can be simple and easy. Take for example, "I am thankful for the warm water in my shower" or "I am thankful that my beautiful son comes to see me when he wakes up in the mornings" These are simple little statements but they make a lasting impression on the way you feel. Start doing this everyday even if it is in your mind and soon you might just find your days are better than you think. Even the bad ones will seem better when you realize that you have something to be thankful for.

The time is right.

The time is always right for a wonderful time together. Take what you have and make the best of it. So what if you don't have a lot of money. Take a wonderful walk together, or rent a movie and make popcorn at home to get your dating in. Build a relationship first and then when the money starts coming in you can make up for those dates where you had to just walk together. Just don't dwell on the fact that you finances are not the best. Work around your monetary situation and move on with the love.

Sometimes a little self starting helps the cause.

Sometimes you might not be quite in the mood to make a little love with you partner. You can see it in their eyes and you want to, yet your not quite in the mood. When this happens take a minute and give yourself some time. Head into the bathroom or a private area where you can start to stimulate yourself. Ladies loosen up that clitoris and men stroke yourself until you are starting to get hard. Your partner doesn't have to know you have done this but they will be the one reaping the rewards of it. Sometimes you just have to prime the engine a little bit and get yourself to that place so that you are ready.

feel the love!

Next time you really feel loved make a point to write down those feelings. No we don't expect you to be the best poet of all time. However we will make you go back and read these feelings when you do feel so loved and see the difference. This gambit can be run many times in the course of a relationship. However seeing how you feel during the good times will help you get through those harder times.

The I got to leave before you get up kiss.

Nothing is worse than having to leave for work before you partner gets up. You don't want to wake them up and disturb their sleep but you still want that exchange of care before you walk out the door. Talk about this with your partner and ask what they would like. Changes are they want that exchange also without disturbing their slumber. Maybe a quick peck on the forehead when you start to get out of bed or a gentle caress of their back will do the trick. The important part is to let them know you want to carry them with you as you go about your day. Figure out what works best for both of you and then start a routine. Soon you will find you are both happy and no one loses sleep over it.

Love has so many avenues

Love has so many avenues you think there is only one way to get there. However you soon find out that love has as many streets as New York City. There are back alleys and side streets that will still get you to love but make take you through some pretty different parts of the city. However the final destination is into the arms of your beloved so take those changes in direction in stride and enjoy the ride, getting to your destination is all that matters.

Let the smells of outside in.

Fresh mowed grass, the gentle wind, the people next door cooking out are all great smells that come from the outside. Instead of the musty smells that can accumulate during the days of the windows being shut. Take advantage of the cool mornings and let the wonderful smells of the outside inside. You might just find that opening the windows is liberating to you and your nose and senses. Try it today and see how much you mood increases.

Tension Build up

Tension is a great cause of relationship problems and the tension might not be from something you have done. Believe it or not the tension might be from work, children, or a number of other sources. However it allows you a great way to show compassion and care for you lover. When you notice this tension building up it is your time to act. Have you partner sit in front of you and massage their neck and shoulders. This area is a major holder of tension and can cause headaches as well as other problems. You might not be able to relieve all the tension but the effort and the concern you show for you partner will go a long way. Never miss a chance to enjoy touching your partner even if it is an attempt to make them feel better. This type of touch is not only great for them but it is beneficial for you also.

Use your tongue more often.

The tongue is one of your greatest allis in the sexual revolution. Most people avoid the use of the tongue and use it only for kissing. Those poor poor people. Our tongue is one of our greatest muscles and should be treated like it an exercised. A strong tongue is a plus for performing oral sex and it quickly improves when you exercise it. There are several ways to exercise it. Just moving it in and out of your mouth or wiggling it helps improve you control of it. Having oral sex more often also is a work out for you tongue. Don't think that you tongue however is just for you partners pleasure. Your tongue is so sensitive to taste and feel that you can get enjoyment out of it also. Taste your partner get to know them in that manner, lick different areas of their body and taste the difference. Along the same lines feel the difference in the skin on different areas with your tongue you will soon find that this is erotic for both of you.

Romance just happens sometimes.

Have you ever had romance just happen? Maybe you just bumped into your partner and it inspired a passionate kiss. In the morning do you ever just have the desire to hug you partner with all you might? Have you ever just been walking and suddenly with out knowledge the two of you are holding hands? These are the way romance works it's way into our life. Think about it have you ever kissed each other then pulling back you both dive back in for a more passionate kiss? What about those slight touches that send tingles down you back. Some people say that romance takes hard work and dedication but I feel like you put effort into romance because the romance is already there.

Do the hokey pokey????

Last night we did a wonderful thing with our 3 year old. We jumped up in the middle of the living room and did the hokey pokey. It was sweet and innocent and the highlight of both our day. It is amazing the fun our little man had seeing mommy and daddy actually doing the hokey pokey. It went much deeper that that however. Not only did we have fun with our son but we also showed him what a parent should be doing. His little brain is going to save that information up and one day he will jump up and do the hokey pokey with his kids. I thank my lucky stars for the woman in my life because she is on the same page with me and wants to show our kids what being a parent is all about. If you look at the statistics most parents that have problems had parents that had problems also. So our kids learn from us, so if you are not the best parent look deep in your soul then ask for help. Attend classes, read books, and break that cycles of how your parents treated you. Because there is nothing more wonderful then watching you partner play and enjoy your children.

Any time is a good time for a kiss on the cheek.

Sometimes we want to express our love for our partner when they are busy or doing something important. Maybe they are working on a project or just watching their favorite television show. This is a perfect time to just walk up and kiss them on the cheek without disturbing what they are doing. Don't wait for a return kiss, just kiss and move on. You will be surprised how that kiss will come back to you later. Don't believe me try it and see.

Experience small towns.

Another great and fun thing to do is to get out and experience small towns. Not just drive through them get out and walk around their main drags. Get to feel how they feel as they you walk and talk with them. Experience the small places to eat and the local shopping. Don't under estimate the feels of welcome that a small town has to offer. When picking a place you might look for towns with a college and enjoy their campus also. This is a great way to get to know the lay of the land and maybe find some new places you might want to return to some day. Look for walking trails the weave through the city and get you places out of the way. Then enjoy all the sights hand in hand and heart in heart.

Any time is a good time for a drive.

Long drives in the country are amazing and a great way for couples to communicate. Don't have a specific place picked out just get out and drive. If you are nervous about getting lost then take your GPS. Don't use the GPS unit until ready to go home. Fill your tank up and just head out making turns and looking for interesting things to do or see. Find a place to pull off and talk or take in some beautiful scenery while holding each other in your arms. Some of the most amazing times you will ever have are simply anyplace the two of you can be alone. So start seeking out these places on these wonderful drives.

Great Romantic Comedy - The Wedding Singer

One of the best movies to watch for a good snuggle up good time is The Wedding Singer. Featuring Adam Sandler and Drew Berrymore. The 80's music kicks butt and the comedy is hilarious. The message of love hits hard in this movie as two star crossed lovers shake off bad relationships to find the one that truly is meant to be. If you lived through the eighties you will enjoy the movie just for all the funny references it make to that time frame. Adam Sandler drives home the music and the comedy while Drew Berrymore adds the cute and sexy parts to make this romantic comedy one of the best. The cameo by Billy Idol is really bad but if you loved the Rebel Yell King then it makes it okay.

text each other while sitting next to each other.

A fun thing to do and open up lines of communication is to text each other while sitting next to each other. Be a little flirty and don't use spoken words. Go back and forth and get a racy little conversation started. Before you know it you both will be dropping your phones and attacking each other. Plus it makes you feel young. Start learning the abbreviations now so you can save time later for this fun activity.

Celebrate the little things.

Celebrations are great but you don't always have to wait for a holiday or birthday to begin the celebration. Make a point to show encouragement for the little things like getting a new job or even a good grade on a test. Heck you can even go as far as to celebrate the renewal of your drivers licence. Make a production of these little things to show your partner that everything they do is important to you. Express your feeling for them with streamers, cakes, or balloons. Not only will they feel wonderful because of your love but you will feel special also.

Remember you love is not one of your buddies.

This post is for the guys. As much as you want your special person in your life to be not only your love but your best friend you have to draw some lines. You cannot expect your love to act like one of your buddies during the football game. Don't expect them to enjoy the same rituals you do with the buds. Things like flatulence and belching are not the most fun things for you partner to do in public. Yes, everyone does them but not in the form of a contest or joke to play on each other. Don't think you can chest bump your love as a touchdown is scored, your loves chest is for caressing not to knock them onto the floor. As much as you want you love to be your best friend you can't expect them to act like your friends. After all you don't want to have sex with the guys you go to the game with do you?