Slip your partner some lucky money!

We all have times when we just need something good to happen to make us feel a little better. Have you ever found money in a pocket,when you put on a coat or pair of jeans you haven't worn in a while. Well I want you to create that feeling for your partner. It doesn't have to be a lot of money maybe even five bucks but if you can find a way to slip it into their pocket before they put their clothes on you might just start their day off on the right foot. I know the first thing I say when I find money in a pocket I didn't expect is, "Wow this must be going to be a lucky day" Now my whole attitude for the day has been changes with this simple act of finding unexpected money. Imagine how you could pick up your partners spirits if they are not excited about the day ahead. The only thing you can't do is tell them you placed it there, that would do just the opposite and most likely get a negative reaction. There are many other ways to accomplish this goal, such as putting a little cash in a book they are reading, slip it into their wallet, lay in on the floor board of their car, or simply lay it in their path. This simply action will make you feel good inside and it is a secret you can keep with yourself. This also is handy if your partner needs money for something right away, just tell them to wish for it and see what happens, just don't you get caught with your hand in the pocket.

How important is your relationship?

Do you spend time evaluating your relationship, deciding what areas need more work and if you are meeting the needs of your partner. Just like anything else in our life we sometimes lose focus on things that are important to us. You see it in the work place as you get bored with your job, and you see it in activities that you lose excitement for over time. Don't let this happen to your relationship. Sit down and think or write out what areas of your relationship need work. You can do this alone or with your partner, so that you get both sides of the relationship. When both of your work on this you actually get to see what areas your partner feels needs work, and that might be a totally different area then you thought about. When you do this it is important not to down grade your partners concerns, if they say that the two of you don't have enough dates then don't respond with "Yes we do" or "That's silly we just had a date last week" You have to realize that your partner wouldn't speak of it unless it was an issue to them. If you are not willing to work on the concerns your partner has about your relationship then you will find your relationship turning sour at some point. No matter what their issue is your need to put some effort into that area and vice versa he/she needs to put some focus into yours. With a little practice you will quickly learn to address areas of concern before they get to large to make a quick fix on them.

Make dinner, conversation time.

When we go out to eat or even eat a home for that matter, we are setting up a great time to discuss and learn about each other. Even if you have been married or dating for years there is always something you can learn from great conversation. Find topics that you can discuss that will have both of your offering your opinions. Don't be only a listener, engage in the conversation and get your ideas heard. Find out about things going on in your partners life they you might not hear about other wise. Things like work, or happenings in their life that you are not apart of. Make it a game and ask questions of each other, take turns and make the other person answer each of your questions. A good night of conversation is actually foreplay and with your minds stimulated your bodies are soon to follow.

Great Listening tool!

We have talked and will continue to talk about ways to improve your ability to converse with your partner. Communication is and always will be the foundation of your relationship. With that in mind I came across a method of communication that improves your listening skills. The IMAGO method of conversing is a great way to really hear what your partner is saying, and it is totally simple. What you do is basically repeat what your partner is saying when they want to speak to you about an issue they are having in your relationship. Simply put you quietly listen to what your partner has to say and then you repeat it. You don't comment on it or interrupt while they are talking you just listen and repeat. Sounds to simple to work doesn't it. I suggest you try it sometime it truly is an amazing way to hear and understand the message. Have you partner make sure you repeat the message exactly as they did so you get the full effect. Number one with you speaking this concern you hear it in a different manner and it registers better in your head and by not addressing or speaking on the issue it gives you time to think about what they and you are saying. For more on this topic click on the title of this post and learn in more detail how the IMAGO method can help your relationship. You can also pick up the book "Getting the love you want" or "Getting the sex you want" for a more detailed instruction on the subject.

Check your morning greeting.

How do you respond to your partner when you get up? Are you a cave person that only grunts at them or are you a person that greets them in the morning like they are the reason you got up. People are split, some are morning people and some are not but you should always make it a point to express your love to your partner when first getting up. There are several ways to do this that are simple and easy even for the most non-morning person. A simple roll over hug is a nice way to say, "I am still tired, but I love you" or a soft kiss on the check, heck even just putting your hands on them relays your message of care. Sometimes your morning greeting can greatly effect the day not only for you but for you partner also. Being grumpy or angry with your partner can change the whole dynamics of their day. Don't take a chance ruining yours and their day put a little effort into showing them you are glad to see them, even if you are not ready to get up.

Buy extra pillows for you bed.

Want to get more comfortable in your bed? I am sure you have seen the pictures of the lavish bed with about 25 pillows on it and you think to yourself "That's a lot of pillows to take on and off the bed every night" Well you right it is a lot of pillows, however it makes the bed more inviting. Not necessarily for sleep! It makes your partner and you want to lay in bed more, maybe reading, maybe playing a game, or maybe doing a little pillow fighting. The pillows can be used and devices to help you sit up to read or just get more comfortable while you enjoy your space. If some of your pillows are small try sleeping with one between you knees, if you lay on your side, this simple action makes me sleep a whole lot better. On a sexual side with a ton of pillows on your bed you can achieve more positions then you can just on a flat surface. Plus you can use these pillows for support and even make sure you partner is more comfortable. A simple pillow under the small of a woman's back adds a greater sensation to love making in the missionary position. Now go out and get several pillows today and make your bed the comfort zone it should be.

Take turns undressing each other.

There is an art to getting undressed for your partner, but it is even more fun and exciting to let your partner undress you. This can be the start of foreplay if you take turns undressing each other. Go back and forth let each other take off one piece of clothing then let your partner do the same to you. Go slow this is not a race, sometimes it is fun to rip his/hers clothes off but this time I want you to take your time. Enjoy each and every part of your lovers body that you expose. Try to give them cold chills with the removal of each item. The anticipation and excitement will build to a very high level as you get them closer and closer to being naked. Make it a game if you want, play strip poker with the other person getting to remove your clothes and throw them on the table. Use your hand to explore each and every inch of their skin with light and delicate touches. I am sure this suggestion will have you more then ready to proceed with intimacy after the clothes are gone. Make it last set a time limit like you can only remove a piece of clothing every two minutes and you have to continue to massage or touch the area the last piece of clothing was removed for the remainder of the time. You can also do this in front of a mirror for a little added effect. Last but not least enjoy getting each other naked it should be fun.