New Years Ever Surprise!

            Tonight is the night to ring in the New Year right.  If your not going out to a wonderful party or heading out to Times Square this year, maybe a little more intimate evening is in your future.  Why not ring in the new year making love to your partner.  Plan out a wonderful evening and dinner then suggest you spend the New Year making your own fireworks.  Pick out some sexy evening wear and well lets just say use your imagination a little and show your partner how great this New Year is going to be.  If your really have good timing you could just be making love as the year changes.

Don't forget who you are trying to impress.

          In our relationships we get so relaxed sometimes we forget the person we most want to impress is our partner.  We know our partner will loves us and we stop having to try and gain their attention and affection.  We wear our comfortable clothes all the time, we don't present ourselves in the best manner as in combing our hair or wearing our make up and even our manners sometimes get lazy.  Make it a point today to change this treat your partner/lover with respect by presenting yourself to them as you did when you were dating.  Make it a big deal to look good for them as often as you can.  Wear your good clothes around the house or when going out with them.  Make it a point to have a dress up dinner date even if it is one that you cook yourself at home.  Just make sure to let them know you still care about their attention and would love to have more of it.  

Today is the day to relax!

          Christmas is done and luckily for most of us that don't have to work on Sunday we have the day off today to recuperate.  You can take this time to enjoy the rest of the season and just relax.  Heck make a day out of laying on the couch watching movies you got for Christmas or football.  If you feel a little less like relaxing go out and see a movie or go to lunch somewhere.  Spend the time getting yourself back into normal mode by doing normal things.  Get away from the mess of your holiday parties and enjoy the day just the two of you.  How you spend it is up to the two of you as what ever works best for you two as a couple is what you should do.  

Love thy neighbor

           During the holidays we get wrapped up in our own family and making sure their holiday is the best.  Yet our neighbors we see everyday we seem to forget about.  How about making some cookies and taking them over to them, or give them a small gift like a certificate for a car wash.  You can create a wonderful friendship by appreciating all the people in your life.  

Make a date out of your Christmas shopping.

          It is very close to Christmas and if your like me you still have to pick up a few things here and there.  Instead of doing this along ask your partner to tag along and make a date out of the adventure.  Go to lunch and enjoy the holiday spirit with your special person.  Think about how big of a present you have in just being able to spend time with each other.  

Send a Christmas Carol to the one you love.

            What to make an impression on the person you love.  Send them one of those funny e-greeting Christmas Cards with a wonderful Christmas Carol attached.  There are many services out there with options from being able to pick the song you want to the ability to put your face on a dancing elf.  You can match your style to the e-card.  It can be funny or serious that all depends on you.  Send one a day for the 12 days of Christmas.  

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Amazing Sexual Energy

           Sexual Energy is one of the most amazing powers on the planet.  Think about it sex is the only action on the planet that can create life.  Yet we are afraid to talk about it here in America like it is the plague.  It is getting a little better but we still have such a bad stigma placed around it.  Next time you get to enjoy a wonderful evening of intimacy with your partner see how you feel afterwards.  The relaxation or the zing you feel it a special one that you share because of the actions of sex.  Not many other things can make you feel this wonderful.  Make it a point to slow down and enjoy this energy combination of the two of you each and every time you make love.  Start using the energy the two of you create to manifest wonderful things in your life.  Use it to keep your relationship healthy and strong you might just start wanting to have sex way more than ever before. 

All I want for Christmas is YOU!

          Not much money to spend on Christmas this year!  Then give gifts that don't cost a thing.  You can give kisses, hugs, and special favors to your lover.  Make up coupons for special treatments for your lover and then package them and wrap them up.  Not only will you not spend much money they will be just the right size and your partner will love them.  Even if you do have the money to purchase some other Christmas presents make sure to start making a tradition of sharing these type of gifts with your partner.  Believe me they will bypass the ipod you just got them to search for that special coupon from you.  

Romance is just an oven away.

Fresh baked cookies are a wonderful treat but the smell can create a warm mood also
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          Want to create a wonderful romantic moment from the time your love walks in the door.  Then put something in the oven to create a wonderful smell in your house.  Baking cinnamon rolls or cookies are two great smells to walk into.  Believe it or not smell can greatly effect our mood and if you put a warm and wonderful smell in the air your partner will respond to it.  Now if you are not a wonderful cook you can create these smells with the warming scent deodorizers you can buy at the store.  These wonderful warm home scents can change you house into a love nest for your and your partner.  So start thinking today about what scent your partner likes and then create that for the next time they walk into the house.  

Build up to christmas

          Here is a great idea to get the excitement in your relationship for Christmas.  Start picking up little things for you partner to give them to the days leading up to Christmas.  Things you will need like lip balm, gloves, or even shampoo.  Wrap them up and present them to your partner one each day.  Plan it out so that they get bigger and better each day until that magical day we call Christmas.  This is a fun way to build excitement during the holidays and in your relationship.  Once you try this I am sure it will fast become a tradition in your house.  

What to buy your love for Christmas

          Christmas time is on the way and now starts the process of deciding what to get your love for Christmas.  If you are smart you have been making note of everything they have shown interest all year long.  Be it a book, music, or clothing.  Maybe it is tickets to a show they want to see or a trip someplace exotic.  However is you don't have a clue right now can be a very stressful time for you.  Trying to pick just the right gift when you don't have a clue is exhausting and yet you don't want your partner to give you such a specific list that they know exactly what they will be getting.  This is where you might need to enlist the help of your partners friends or family to get the information you need.  If you are not close enough to them to get these answers however you will have to brave shopping together so see where their eyes roam.  Watch and see what items they look at or when the say "Oh, that is cute"  make a mental note don't take out a pen and paper and look like a dork.  If you honestly can't remember then text yourself the description of the item and tell your partner you were texting a friend.  Always remember it is the thought that counts but getting the right thing scores huge points.  

Black Friday is a memory now get some sleep

          Black Friday had everyone up at the crack of dawn scrambling for bargains either in the stores or online.  As Black Friday came to a close everyone drug themselves back home and spent the rest of the day tired and sunk in a chair.  Today is a great day to nap with your partner.  Snuggle up to watch a football game or movie and relax forget about the lines, the crowds, and the rude people.  It is time to enjoy being with the person that means something special to you.  If you lucky maybe you can talk them out of a massage as you recoup from your traumatic Black Friday experience.  

Turkey Day

           Today is Turkey day and it is a great day to show your thanks.  Make sure to let your partner know how much they mean to you on this day.  Make a list of all the things you are thankful for and share it with your love.  Ask them to do the same and spend the evening talking about the great things in your life.  Enjoy some pumpkin pie as you discuss how wonderful your relationship is and all the great aspects.  Make this a Thanksgiving ritual and start your list early for the next year.  Also for you football fans don't spend the whole day watching games take some time out to enjoy your partner because the only scoring you need to worry about is that which happens later in the evening!

When you can't sleep it is a good time to be a couple.

It might seem a little against the normal but when you wake up at some ridiculous hour in the morning it might be a good time to do couples things. Things like talking, massages or even making love are wonderful ways to pass those sleepless times with your partner. Most people will awake to see what is the matter when their partner gets up in the middle of the night. Be considerate of your partner sleep but if they awake to check on your, use this time to connect with your partner in which ever way you like.

Find less expensive things to do for when your cash is short.

Going out is great. However it is very expensive. You need to have things set back that don't cost much or are free for those times when you funds are a little short. Things like wonderful art parks or museums are great places to have a date that don't cost anything. The important thing to remember is the value comes in just being with that special person. I would much rather take a wonderful walk where we can converse then go to a crowded club where all we can here is the loud music. No matter what your economic status you should always keep your eyes open for these inexpensive things to do. That way when a criss arrises or it's rent week you don't have to avoid your lovers interests and can surprise him/her with a wonderful day that doesn't break your bank.

The Music is the secret

Music is a very powerful tool you can use to set moods. Think about it when you want to be romantic do you want loud hip hop music on? Most likely not however some might find that romantic. Most people would like slow sweet music to set the romantic mood. Listen to your television shows you watch and see how the music they play in the back ground sets the mood and then use that to your advantage. If you want fun and excitement put on upbeat music, I even have music I like to clean the house to. Another wonderful idea is to use music with heavy beats or lot of drums for the times you are having sex. Trust me you want to try this. The point being music is our soundtrack of life. Use it to your advantage.

Romance is the reason for any season.

Romance changes with each passing season. You can't do the same thing in the winter as the summer as far as romance goes. For example a trip to the beach is not near as romantic in the middle of winter as it is in summer time. Like wise a snuggling ride in a horse drawn carriage is far more exciting in the winter then in the summer. When the leaves fall it is nice to have warm drinks on the deck or in the spring getting out and enjoying the first flowers is romantic. No matter what season you are in you can find many a romantic thing to do. You just have to pay attention to the time of the year and adjust your romance accordingly.

You can't save up love and romance.

Love and Romance are not like money you don't get any interest from saving them up. Locking them up only makes them less valuable. Spend you love and romance on your partner as if you were showering them with it. Make the love they feel over abundant and you will get as much if not more in return. So start spreading the love around and make a production of it. Soon the love you will be getting back will be way more valuable then that which you wanted to lock away.

Romance lives and dies with effort.

How much effort are you putting into your romance? If your answer is not much then you have a lot of work to do. Romance is the blood that pumps through your relationship. Without it just like your heart your relationship will soon stop functioning at 100%. Now putting to much romance into your relationship can do the same thing but you should be doing 3 to 4 romantic things a week for your partner. If not you are not putting enough effort into it. You don't have to make a big production of it but it has be show your partner you care. An over the top candlelight dinner might be over the top but picking them up a candy bar doesn't quite cut it. Simple things like a massage or setting up time for them to take a relaxing bath can take a few minutes to set up but will make a lasting impression on the importance of your relationship.

Tis the night for roleplay.

Tonight is the night dust off all your costumes and get into a little role play. Be a sexy devil or a horny vampire but whatever it is make sure you add intimacy into it. Heck you can even be the ghost with an erection. Whatever makes you Halloween special is what you need to do. Halloween can be one of the most sexy holidays of the year if you enjoy dressing up. So through your doubt to the wind and get sexy this Halloween.

Skip the treats and go right for the tricks!!!!

Halloween doesn't have to be only for children. Adults can enjoy the days just as much but forget about the candy. Halloween is a great time to make love. All the costumes and spooky things that go on can really be exciting. Bringing that excitement into your bedroom is par of the fun for adults. Pick our costumes and dress and act the parts in your love making. Be Indians, or people from ancient Rome, the possibilities are endless. Have fun with it and use it to bring some newness into your sex life. Plus it is much better for you then the candy the kids get.

Think as your lover would think.

A wonderful way to express your love for your partner is to think as they think. The longer you are with your partner the more and more you start to understand how they think. Once you hit this point of understanding your partner preferences you can start getting a jump on things that will show them how much you love them. For example if you know after a hard day your partner would like to go out to dinner, be waiting when they get home and suggest going out to dinner before they can open their mouth to say it. Maybe your partner likes to go on walks on warm summer days. Well then watch the forecast and when you see a warm sunny day coming up bring up a walk early in the morning. Getting a jump on these things before you partner can suggest them will make them feel really special. There are so many of these little thing that can help your relationship hit new highs. Myself for example enjoy making love when it is raining outside. So if my partner wanted to really make me feel special on a rainy day she would get me into our bedroom during the hardest part of the rain and start being intimate with me.

Frosty days

Here in the midwest the mornings are starting to become colder and colder as autumn is if full swing. It is amazing that sometimes you might wake up with frost on the ground and then have a wonderful warm day in the afternoon. I like to call this weather, shorts and sweatshirt weather. Whatever you call it these days are wonderful for spending a little extra time in bed snuggling and touching. It is amazing how warm it stays under your covers with two bodies heating it up. As I mentioned earlier take a little extra time and enjoy this warmth and give your partner a little extra touching. Autumn days are great for making love and snuggling down to watch good movies. Then get up and enjoy the warmer part of the day. Get your sweatshirt and shorts out and enjoy this up and down bouncing of the weather for soon it will just be cold all the time. At least here in the midwest.

Start listing all the reasons you are happy.

Take out a notebook and a pencil and start writing down all the things that make you happy. Get down and write several easy and simple things that make you happy. Start out simple and then as you get going you will pick up speed soon you will have so many things down you will start looking at your life differently and seeing the good in your life will replace all the negative that you have. Make this a practice you keep not only when you feel down but when you are up also. Keep a note book and do this every night before you go to bed or when you get up in the morning. Heck any time something hits you write it down. Soon you will have a arsenal of feel good things at your disposal.

Snuggle down in bed with your technology and your lover.

Today it is so easy to get your technology where you want it. So why not spend the time using it snuggled up with your partner in a comfy spot. Say you both crash out on the bed of find a chair big enough for both of you to use at the same time. Doing this will give you time to connect while you are close to each other. Then you can always put the electronics aside and attend to each other. Or you can huddle together and watch something on youtube or check out an interesting web site together. Either way you are together and touching and not being apart while you are using the technology we have at our finger tips.

Use your couples energy.

We are all energy and the special thing about being a couple in love is that you get to combine your energy to use it in special ways. We have heard the expression that two heads are better than one. Well two energies focused on the same idea are double the power. You can manifest the things in your life much quicker when two forces are working and striving for that goal. Sit down together and decide what you want out of life and then both of your focus on that want. See how much easier it is to get their with the couples energy.

Move if you get a chance.

One thing that can be a wonderful romantic journey is for you and your partner to move! Pick up and move to a completely different city. Take new jobs, find a new place to live and for a while it will just be the two of you relying on each other. This is how wonderful relationship get made. It might not be 100% accurate but you are going to build a tighter bond with that special someone as you experience a new environment together. That sense of adventure will fill you both as you will be nervous and excited at the same time. The struggles of learning a new place can be swept away by falling into each others arms at the end of the day.

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Quite eating fast food and save the money for date nights.

Here in America most of us eat way to much fast food. It is easy and it tastes good but the terrible part is that it is expensive and is not at all healthy. Why don't the two of you as a couple make an effort to avoid it altogether. Make a commitment that when every you feel like grabbing a burger the both of you remain strong and make a grilled cheese or turkey sandwich at home. Then the money you would have spent eating something bad for you and put it in a jar marked, "Date Night" Continue doing this until you have enough in the jar to experience your favorite activity together. Heck you could even save for a trip if you are strong enough. Make a penalty also so that if you do go out and eat fast food you have to replace the money you spend from your jar. You will soon start thinking about just grabbing fast food all together. Not only will your body thank you but your can both thank each other when you are sitting on the beach somewhere special.

Tell me something special.

A nice gesture to do when you really want someone to know how much you care about them is to tell them something you have never told anyone. Tell them your secret no matter how silly or scary it is. Tell them you had a crush on the Fonz or that you stole a pack of gum when your were 8 years old. Something that you have never told anyone will really make your partner understand how important they are to you. Lay it on the line and see where they take it. You might get one back in return and if that is the case this might be the starting of a special thing.

Forget porn read erotica together.

I think a very exciting thing to do is to read erotica together. Unlike porn erotica usually has some form of plot and it makes you use your imagination to see sexy images in your mind. Porn forces you to watch what the director or author wants you to see. However erotica makes your mind digest the words and create it's own image. This might just be me but when I watch porn sometimes I feel dirty afterwards like I am a peeping tom but with erotica I feel like I am part of the action. Erotica lets me be the character instead of a bystander. One of my favorite erotica writers is Zob click on the link below to check out some of his works and get your erotica on with your partner.

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love yourself first!

An interesting concept that has taken me a while to understand is now an important fact in my life. To love you have to love yourself first. For years I have always thought that my love for my partner is the most important thing. However you cannot give your love away if it is not in you to begin with. I am not say that you need to do things differently in the way you treat your partner but you need to treat yourself differently. Make you that you are getting the things to make your happy and then your happiness will spread to your partner. They will start picking up on your happiness and if they truly love you then, they will feel more love towards you and you can share you love easily with them. It is a circle and once you understand it your love will really start to pick up speed.

Breast Cancer Awareness Month!

Do your part to promote Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Cancer affects so many people and we can do our part to help out in this area. Donate, do self checks and spread the word. The more people we get talking about it the more we will help. We have created a sexy challenge to help out also so check it out at the link below and save the TA TA's.

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Romance is in your hands.

I don't want to hear that you can't think about anything romantic to do for your partner. For starters start looking over these blog entries and pick one. Even if you don't do that just do something special for your partner that is where the love comes from. Do one of their normal chores or help out a little extra folding the clothes. The most simple gestures can be the most romantic ones of all. Don't shoot for the moon because it it a long way away, aim for your lover they are a lot closer.

The drums have it.

Next time it is time to get a little frisky try to find a drum beat that is a little tribal. Pick out something from Hawaii or Africa and let your imagination run wild while you enjoy the rhythmic beat of the drums and let your love making get in tune with the beats. You might just find it a spiritual practice in itself.

Set up a special email account.

Today with the ease of getting an email account you can quickly set up a special one. this email account will be a direct link between the two of you. You will only use this account to send special messages back and froth between the two of you. Treat it like a love line and only send messages of love and desire. Don't use this account to ask whats for supper or how are the kids. This email account is for you both to express your deepest love and passion for each other. Don't abuse this account but at least every three days drop a note to your love into it. You soon will find yourself anxiously checking your account to see how much your partner loves you.

Pictures of the both of you.

The one thing I think all couples should do is get their picture taken together. I don't mean to go out and get a setting down with a professional photographer. I am talking about pictures of the two of you doing the thing in life that are fun to you. Vacations, cookouts, or just when you are being silly hand your camera over to someone and ask them to take your picture. These are the pictures you want to hang up around your house. These pictures so love and affection for each other and give you that feel good feeling you need as you glance at them. Plus viewing them makes you want to go out and have more fun together. Document your relationship and start taking pictures today.

Do your part for the Ta Ta's

Breast cancer awareness month is fast coming upon us. No matter if breast cancer has effected your life or not you can still help the millions of people it has. You can join a walk with your partner or raise some money for the research of the cure for this problem. The best thing you can do is encourage your female partner to either go get checked or to start doing self examination on herself. Early detection is the key to beating breast cancer. So the more often she checks the better. If she is open to it have your let you check out her amazing rack and get a little enjoyment our of the check. Join her in the shower or before you make love to show that you care and love her. While you are checking her, she can return the favor and check out your testicles for testicular cancer in the same manner. Don't be shy about this it could add years to your time together.

Put a little fun under your covers.

Have you ever wanted when you were younger to be a super hero? Well why not bring that desire into your bedroom now? Think about it how fun it would be to role play a little that you are superman, batman, cat woman, or wonder woman. The amazing part is that bringing these superheroes to the bedroom might help spice things up a bit and get your sex more amazing. Check out site to find undies with superheroes on them and then pretend you are the man of steel when you make love, or Wonder Woman as you seduce your mate. It might just be the fun you have been searching for.

Romance has tempos

Your romance can have a tempo just like music. It can be fast and upbeat or slow and sweet. Just like music you need to mix it up a bit. Somedays you want the fast upbeat type of romance. Dancing, laughing, being silly are examples of what I consider upbeat type of romance interactions. On the days you prefer slow and sweet romance, I would suggest snuggling watching movies or having a candle lit dinner. You then also have the wide range in between the two. So your romance should never hit the boring aspect of life. Keep mixing it up and don't stop being romantic what ever tempo you decide on today.

Don't forget to have quite time.

We spend so much time talking and learning about each other that sometimes we forget that just being present with each other is a blessing in itself. Enjoying that quiet time with each other just laying next to your love or lightly touching each other is a wonderful way to relax and enjoy each other without having to worry about bring up something interesting or new. You can just be together and soak up each others energy without saying a word. Sometimes this is just what the doctor ordered on those days that seem a little harder that others. Try it sometime don't speak just relax and enjoy and feel your partners presence.

Listen to positive podcasts on your drive home.

Start making your drive home from work a little more productive by listening to romantic podcasts on the way home. You can find almost everything under the sun on itunes. Get a podcast about sex or one about being more romantic. Even if you get one that will teach you something to share with your partner is a good idea. This will give you ideas for later when you get home and also give you something to talk about during dinner. Branch out and get a podcast that you might not normally listen to and enjoy learning something different who knows you might find something that will interest the both of you.

Count your blessings.

A good habit to get into is make a list everyday of ten things you are thankful for. It doesn't have to be a major list everyday and the items can be simple and easy. Take for example, "I am thankful for the warm water in my shower" or "I am thankful that my beautiful son comes to see me when he wakes up in the mornings" These are simple little statements but they make a lasting impression on the way you feel. Start doing this everyday even if it is in your mind and soon you might just find your days are better than you think. Even the bad ones will seem better when you realize that you have something to be thankful for.

The time is right.

The time is always right for a wonderful time together. Take what you have and make the best of it. So what if you don't have a lot of money. Take a wonderful walk together, or rent a movie and make popcorn at home to get your dating in. Build a relationship first and then when the money starts coming in you can make up for those dates where you had to just walk together. Just don't dwell on the fact that you finances are not the best. Work around your monetary situation and move on with the love.

Sometimes a little self starting helps the cause.

Sometimes you might not be quite in the mood to make a little love with you partner. You can see it in their eyes and you want to, yet your not quite in the mood. When this happens take a minute and give yourself some time. Head into the bathroom or a private area where you can start to stimulate yourself. Ladies loosen up that clitoris and men stroke yourself until you are starting to get hard. Your partner doesn't have to know you have done this but they will be the one reaping the rewards of it. Sometimes you just have to prime the engine a little bit and get yourself to that place so that you are ready.

feel the love!

Next time you really feel loved make a point to write down those feelings. No we don't expect you to be the best poet of all time. However we will make you go back and read these feelings when you do feel so loved and see the difference. This gambit can be run many times in the course of a relationship. However seeing how you feel during the good times will help you get through those harder times.

The I got to leave before you get up kiss.

Nothing is worse than having to leave for work before you partner gets up. You don't want to wake them up and disturb their sleep but you still want that exchange of care before you walk out the door. Talk about this with your partner and ask what they would like. Changes are they want that exchange also without disturbing their slumber. Maybe a quick peck on the forehead when you start to get out of bed or a gentle caress of their back will do the trick. The important part is to let them know you want to carry them with you as you go about your day. Figure out what works best for both of you and then start a routine. Soon you will find you are both happy and no one loses sleep over it.

Love has so many avenues

Love has so many avenues you think there is only one way to get there. However you soon find out that love has as many streets as New York City. There are back alleys and side streets that will still get you to love but make take you through some pretty different parts of the city. However the final destination is into the arms of your beloved so take those changes in direction in stride and enjoy the ride, getting to your destination is all that matters.

Let the smells of outside in.

Fresh mowed grass, the gentle wind, the people next door cooking out are all great smells that come from the outside. Instead of the musty smells that can accumulate during the days of the windows being shut. Take advantage of the cool mornings and let the wonderful smells of the outside inside. You might just find that opening the windows is liberating to you and your nose and senses. Try it today and see how much you mood increases.

Tension Build up

Tension is a great cause of relationship problems and the tension might not be from something you have done. Believe it or not the tension might be from work, children, or a number of other sources. However it allows you a great way to show compassion and care for you lover. When you notice this tension building up it is your time to act. Have you partner sit in front of you and massage their neck and shoulders. This area is a major holder of tension and can cause headaches as well as other problems. You might not be able to relieve all the tension but the effort and the concern you show for you partner will go a long way. Never miss a chance to enjoy touching your partner even if it is an attempt to make them feel better. This type of touch is not only great for them but it is beneficial for you also.