Anal stimulation good for both of you.

His and Hers

When we talk about playing with our butts everyone seems to shy away a little bit, but why? The nerve endings in the anus are some of the most sensitive ones in our body. If you have ever tried stimulating this area you have most likely found it to be very pleasurable and that goes for men and women. You don't even have to penetrate to get the sensation just touching around the anus can send your feelings to a new level. So many people have admitted that stimulating the area around the anus makes for more powerful orgasms that you should be curious to try it at the very least. Everyone is different and it won't be for everyone but the majority of people who have tried it find that they like it quite a bit. For men getting over the homophobic aspect seems to be the main concern. Homosexual refers to your taste in partners not in your taste in feelings! You are homosexual if you prefer partners of the same sex. Now get over it and let your partner play with your bum a little. Most women find that playing with their partner in this way is exciting. Many manufactures make products for anal simulations, which leads us to believe that their are several hundreds of thousands of you out there enjoying this activity. The wonderful thing about it is that no matter your sex we all have an anus, so this is the one area that in common ground for both men and women. Take it slow at first and see what you like always have lots of lube on hand to be safe and don't be afraid to use plenty. Men this is also a great way to enjoy a milking of your prostate and can be not only feeling good but good for your health as well. Some word of caution as you get ready to try some anal play never use anything that doesn't have a flared base on the end and know what your toy is made out of use only non-pourus items that you can boil to clean. Have fun.

Trust

One of the most important things in a relationship is trust, everyone has heard this a million billion times. Not only is trust an important for finding someone to love but it is also important later in your relationship. Keeping a friendship in your relationship is a thing most people don't feel is that important. When you have trust in your partner you also view them as a friend telling them things that you would only tell a friend. This way the two of you can laugh and joke around together, which is a staple of any long term relationship. The days of co-habiting are numbered as people are starting to realize that life is way to short to be unhappy. Trust is also important in your sexual relationship. As your relationship grows you may want to try some different things in the area of sex. If you trust your partner you will have no problem telling them of the desires and fantasies that you have. This will create new dynamics in your sex life and in turn build an even stronger relationship between the two of you. Trust also comes into play as you get older and need that rock to stabilize you. You might need someone to take care of your and a trust worthy partner is the best at this. Life is not easy but with the trust of your partner it is definitely more fun and exciting.

It's okay to be a couple.

If you are like me when you are out with the members of your same sex, all they seem to want to do is bash on their partner. They talk about how they don't do this or how this annoys them. I am challenging you to break out of this mold. Next time you find yourself in this situation instead of joining in to bash on your partner to the opposite. Find something that you really enjoy about your partner and tell your friends about that. Maybe it was the great birthday present you got or how when you were sick how your partner took care of you. See if you can change the tides and get the water flowing in the opposite direction. Stay away from telling them about your sex life, for that is private even with your best friends. Who knows maybe you can help improve another relationship by helping them find good things instead of focusing on the things that bother them.

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Do the little things to help improve your relationship

There are many things you can do to improve your relationship and most of them do not involve major changes in your life. It is sometimes the small things we do that make our romance improve. Things like not flushing the toliet when our partner is in the shower, helping with the chores that are not yours, fixing dinner, or even a gentle back rub while watching television. These simple little things can go a long way to improving your relationship. If you listen to people that are having relationship troubles you will see that most the time they will pick out these little things to show how their relationship has changed. Things like she/he doesn't hold my hand any more, or he/she doesn't shave on nights we are going to be together. When we stop attending to the little things soon we will have larger problems in our relationship. Now if you want to keep your relationship strong and health start with the little things and work your way up to major topics. Most likely they will be gone by the time you attend to the little things.

Pump that Body.

Have you ever noticed how full your muscles feel after a good work out. After a serious bout of lifting my muscles are tight and firm. You can use this tactic to your advantage in your relationship. If you know you are going to have times when your partner is going to be touching you, then thinking ahead you can give them something to make them say wow. Get some dumbells and keep them handy and about a half hour before you snuggle down to watch a movie or do any kind of physical contact give yourself a quick work out for your arms. Do several reps at a light weight to get your muscles tired and full. For added effect flex a little whenever your partner touches you and you might just get touched more. This is an old practice that I learned reading about my favorite bands and how they would do some quick lifting before a photo shoot to make them look better, well it works so why not use it. Start pumping that body and get yourself rock hard for your partner.

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Start planning your Valentines Day Activities today.

It might seem a little early but Valentines Day is just around the corner. Valentines Day is the greatest holiday for people who are romantic. You get to show your love and desire to the whole world. Cards, presents, candy, and hot passionate sex should be on your agenda for a great night. But with a little planning now you can make the night one to remember forever. Start looking for things to do or attend. Maybe you can find some tickets to a future show or event to give your sweetheart on Valentines day. Maybe you can book that special hotel with the mirrors on the ceiling and the whirlpool tub. Heck maybe you can even surprise them with a trip out of town. Today is the day you need to start planning to knock the socks off your partner on Valentines Day and with any luck you might knock the rest of their clothes off also.

Feeling comfortable

Feeling comfortable in a relationship is one of the most under rated feelings that people miss out on. We go into relationship trying to be the perfect person and making the person we are trying to attract think that we don't have any flaws. In doing this we set ourself up to not be as comfortable in the beginning as we would like to be. We live under these false pretenses believing that we can keep it up the through out the relationship. Finally as some point you have to break down and show that you are not this perfect person that you have been trying to convince your partner you are. When you feel comfortable in your relationship this isn't hard, you have open communication and it is easy to express your feelings and admit your problems. On the other hand if you are uncomfortable with the communication admitting these issues is a bit more hard. My suggestion to anyone getting into a relationship is to be as close to yourself as you can and make sure the person you are trying to attract likes the real you. You don't what them to find out down the road of issues that might make your relationship tense. Relax as you go out on those first few dates and show your new flame how you really are, not only will they appreciate it but you can rest assured that you won't have to live behind a mask.