Do the little things to help improve your relationship

There are many things you can do to improve your relationship and most of them do not involve major changes in your life. It is sometimes the small things we do that make our romance improve. Things like not flushing the toliet when our partner is in the shower, helping with the chores that are not yours, fixing dinner, or even a gentle back rub while watching television. These simple little things can go a long way to improving your relationship. If you listen to people that are having relationship troubles you will see that most the time they will pick out these little things to show how their relationship has changed. Things like she/he doesn't hold my hand any more, or he/she doesn't shave on nights we are going to be together. When we stop attending to the little things soon we will have larger problems in our relationship. Now if you want to keep your relationship strong and health start with the little things and work your way up to major topics. Most likely they will be gone by the time you attend to the little things.

Pump that Body.

Have you ever noticed how full your muscles feel after a good work out. After a serious bout of lifting my muscles are tight and firm. You can use this tactic to your advantage in your relationship. If you know you are going to have times when your partner is going to be touching you, then thinking ahead you can give them something to make them say wow. Get some dumbells and keep them handy and about a half hour before you snuggle down to watch a movie or do any kind of physical contact give yourself a quick work out for your arms. Do several reps at a light weight to get your muscles tired and full. For added effect flex a little whenever your partner touches you and you might just get touched more. This is an old practice that I learned reading about my favorite bands and how they would do some quick lifting before a photo shoot to make them look better, well it works so why not use it. Start pumping that body and get yourself rock hard for your partner.

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Start planning your Valentines Day Activities today.

It might seem a little early but Valentines Day is just around the corner. Valentines Day is the greatest holiday for people who are romantic. You get to show your love and desire to the whole world. Cards, presents, candy, and hot passionate sex should be on your agenda for a great night. But with a little planning now you can make the night one to remember forever. Start looking for things to do or attend. Maybe you can find some tickets to a future show or event to give your sweetheart on Valentines day. Maybe you can book that special hotel with the mirrors on the ceiling and the whirlpool tub. Heck maybe you can even surprise them with a trip out of town. Today is the day you need to start planning to knock the socks off your partner on Valentines Day and with any luck you might knock the rest of their clothes off also.

Feeling comfortable

Feeling comfortable in a relationship is one of the most under rated feelings that people miss out on. We go into relationship trying to be the perfect person and making the person we are trying to attract think that we don't have any flaws. In doing this we set ourself up to not be as comfortable in the beginning as we would like to be. We live under these false pretenses believing that we can keep it up the through out the relationship. Finally as some point you have to break down and show that you are not this perfect person that you have been trying to convince your partner you are. When you feel comfortable in your relationship this isn't hard, you have open communication and it is easy to express your feelings and admit your problems. On the other hand if you are uncomfortable with the communication admitting these issues is a bit more hard. My suggestion to anyone getting into a relationship is to be as close to yourself as you can and make sure the person you are trying to attract likes the real you. You don't what them to find out down the road of issues that might make your relationship tense. Relax as you go out on those first few dates and show your new flame how you really are, not only will they appreciate it but you can rest assured that you won't have to live behind a mask.

Slip your partner some lucky money!

We all have times when we just need something good to happen to make us feel a little better. Have you ever found money in a pocket,when you put on a coat or pair of jeans you haven't worn in a while. Well I want you to create that feeling for your partner. It doesn't have to be a lot of money maybe even five bucks but if you can find a way to slip it into their pocket before they put their clothes on you might just start their day off on the right foot. I know the first thing I say when I find money in a pocket I didn't expect is, "Wow this must be going to be a lucky day" Now my whole attitude for the day has been changes with this simple act of finding unexpected money. Imagine how you could pick up your partners spirits if they are not excited about the day ahead. The only thing you can't do is tell them you placed it there, that would do just the opposite and most likely get a negative reaction. There are many other ways to accomplish this goal, such as putting a little cash in a book they are reading, slip it into their wallet, lay in on the floor board of their car, or simply lay it in their path. This simply action will make you feel good inside and it is a secret you can keep with yourself. This also is handy if your partner needs money for something right away, just tell them to wish for it and see what happens, just don't you get caught with your hand in the pocket.

How important is your relationship?

Do you spend time evaluating your relationship, deciding what areas need more work and if you are meeting the needs of your partner. Just like anything else in our life we sometimes lose focus on things that are important to us. You see it in the work place as you get bored with your job, and you see it in activities that you lose excitement for over time. Don't let this happen to your relationship. Sit down and think or write out what areas of your relationship need work. You can do this alone or with your partner, so that you get both sides of the relationship. When both of your work on this you actually get to see what areas your partner feels needs work, and that might be a totally different area then you thought about. When you do this it is important not to down grade your partners concerns, if they say that the two of you don't have enough dates then don't respond with "Yes we do" or "That's silly we just had a date last week" You have to realize that your partner wouldn't speak of it unless it was an issue to them. If you are not willing to work on the concerns your partner has about your relationship then you will find your relationship turning sour at some point. No matter what their issue is your need to put some effort into that area and vice versa he/she needs to put some focus into yours. With a little practice you will quickly learn to address areas of concern before they get to large to make a quick fix on them.

Make dinner, conversation time.

When we go out to eat or even eat a home for that matter, we are setting up a great time to discuss and learn about each other. Even if you have been married or dating for years there is always something you can learn from great conversation. Find topics that you can discuss that will have both of your offering your opinions. Don't be only a listener, engage in the conversation and get your ideas heard. Find out about things going on in your partners life they you might not hear about other wise. Things like work, or happenings in their life that you are not apart of. Make it a game and ask questions of each other, take turns and make the other person answer each of your questions. A good night of conversation is actually foreplay and with your minds stimulated your bodies are soon to follow.