Minature Golf / Large wager

Okay are you sitting around thinking of something you can do that is romantic and yet outside and fun. Well you might not believe it but you can make miniature golf romantic by adding some wagers on the game. Pick a coarse that is close and then figure out what type of wagers you will be putting on each hole. They can be dinner out, massages, chores, or even sexual trades. Then get your putters out and have some fun trying to beat your partner. If one of you is a better player then try to balance the game out with some form of handicap. Such as the better player switches hands that they play with, or the not as good player gets to take an extra stroke each hole. The friendly competition between the two of you is good for your relationship. Unless one or both of you is a very bad loser, then maybe this isn't what you need.

Sometimes more it not necessarily better.

Don't you love the way a great perfume or cologne smells on your partner. Have you ever known anyone that uses way to much perfume or cologne? Well the opposite is true of these people, they don't smell good. I know for me when I get next to someone who has way to much perfume or cologne on it gives me a headache. I wonder how can they stand the smell. Let me start by saying perfume and or cologne is not a replacement for a shower! You should only have to use a small amount or either to get your desired effect. After all you want your special someone to be the only person to notice you aroma not your entire office. A good way to avoid putting to much on is to stay away from perfume or cologne that has a spray top. Get something that you have to dabble on. Put a small amount on areas like your chest, inside of your wrist, or neck for the gentlemen. Ladies us your little dabbles between your breasts, the inside or your wrists, or your neck also. Another important tip is to not put the cologne or perfume on you clothes, it works much better on your body and could stain your clothes.

Think of it this way, would you want your partner to get in close to have to smell your perfume or cologne. I have some friends that think the more perfume or cologne they wear the better. This are also the friends I know when they are around because I can smell them first before I see them. So go out and get a really good perfume or cologne and use it sparingly. If you purchase good quality items they will last for a long time if you don't take a bath in it.

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Clean up your partners car.

Want to get a great big kiss? Well how about surprising you partner by washing or cleaning out their car. Almost everyone needs this at some point and time. You know how the sacks of fast food find their way to the floor. Maybe it's pop bottles or cans that seem to appear after time. Think about the dust on the dash, unless you are pretty picky that adds up fast. They do have some services that will come out and detail a car at your work, which would be a great surprise for your partner. Just make sure before the detailer arrives that you partner knows someone is not just breaking into their car. That could get ugly.

After you get this completed either by yourself or with help from a detailer. Make sure to leave a little love note for your partner. Tell them that a clean car would be great to take you out to dinner in.

How to act in public

We all understand the begining of a relationship is a wonderful time. You cannot seem to get enough of each other and every time you are together you want to touch and kiss. Well that is fine and dandy when you are in the comfort of your own home. When you venture out in public you need to have some control. People do not like to see adults groping each other at the mall. Parents especially don't want their young children watching to adults, for lack of a better term, getting it on. Use some control, hold hands, or put your arms around each other is fine. These hands should always remain in a respectable place, never down the back of her pants. Have a little control and when you get home you can lose this control.

I think it is very sweet to see an older couple holding hands in public, but the thought of them french kissing in public might make me puke. So think about how other people are viewing you during this important phase in your relationship. Don't use it all up right from the start, think of it as saving it for later. Ration this affection out. I would much rather have a stable passionate relationship for the rest of my life, then one that loses it's appeal because we have done all we can do.

Lock those hands partners!

Here is a fun and romantic thing to try the next time you make love. Take one of your hand and one of your partners and lock them together. Intertwine your fingers and hold tight, now you can let loose of this hand until you are finished making love to each other. Sound exciting? It is figuring out how to position yourself to do those things you normally do gets to be a challenge. If you have handcuffs go ahead and use them as long as you can get to the key at some point and time. Figure out different ways and different positions you can get into with only one arm available. Challenge yourself and your partner. To make it even more interesting switch hands the next time and use the other ones. Just stay connected and work out the kinks!!!

The Sounds of the Night.

Tonight looks like a warm summer night. What a great night to sit out on your porch or deck and listen to the sound of the night. You can get mesmerised by the sounds of the chirping and croaking of these little friends. They can serenade you to a zen like state, relaxing all your troubles away. Find some comfy chairs get a great glass of wine and enjoy the warm summer air and these great sounds. Unfortunately for us we have to put up with the occasional car that drives by. Bonus points for you if you live near a beach and can enjoy the sounds of the waves on these warm summer nights. I am sure anywhere you live you can be relaxed by the sounds of the night. If you live in a big city you might try downloading some of these relaxing sound and slip your headphones on as you stare at the sky. Let yourself get taken away from the hustle and bustle of the city, if only for a half hour or so.

Don't stop there also enjoy the smells of the night air and the great company you are with. Hold hands, talk, or just relax together. Let the night lead you on a journey of the senses and let all your cares fall to the way side for a bit. I bet you will sleep wonderful after these enjoyments.

Looking for a Romantic Gift?

So you are looking for a romantic gift, one that says I really care about you but doesn't cost a lot of money. Well how about a nice pen set? You know they kind you don't just buy yourself. A really nice set that would look great on a desk. This way every time they use your pen they will think about you. What a lovely idea. This way even if they are doing bills or other things that are not so desirable they will still get the pleasure of thinking of you. Some places you can even get the engraved with a special message for you love. Things like "The pen is mightier then the sword" or "I love note written from you" Even just their name would be a nice touch. You can pick up said pens at most local stores or even order them online. I have included a link to a extreme pen store in the title of this post. You however do not need to spend $300 on a pen for your love a fraction of that price will get you the same effect.

Flavored Toothpaste give your mouth and hers a new sensation.

Want to keep your partner guessing? Well if you haven't noticed, toothpaste now comes in several different flavors. Everything from peach to your basic mint. The great part is they are not that expensive either, they cost about the same as your normal toothpaste. I suggest getting several different flavors so that each time you kiss your partner they get a new sensation. I particular enjoy the cinnamon flavor. This could also promote healthier teeth, I mean if your going to brush more to give your lover a different flavor. Maybe the dentist should use this tactic on their patience.

This is one thing you can do to spice up your kissing. We have many different ways to spice up our sex life, or how we spend our time. Kissing has always just been kissing, sure there are several ways to kiss but never any kissing aids. Not any longer though. Kissing now has a partner and it's name is flavored toothpaste. Get down to your local store a pick up a couple of different flavors today, and get your partner guessing what flavor you kiss will be next.

Picnic with out the food

Picnics are great however you look a little dorky out in the middle of the park spreading out an entire meal for two. So next time you get some free time go to your local park and just spread out a blanket and lay down on it a enjoy each others company. Take a nap together or just talk about your future. Find a nice comfortable spot and enjoy a great summer day. You can also do this in the fall as the leaves are turning colors. Which makes a backdrop for some wonderful memories, and some of the days are still warm enough to go with out sweatshirts. Lay down next to each other and watch the clouds pass, or just watch the kids play. Bring some drinks and enjoy the moment.

In our fast pace life we lead today, I think this activity would be great to slow things down a bit. Get your mind off your problems or work and focus on your relationship. The enjoyment of being with that special person in your life can do wonders for you mind and your health. Don't bring a clock, just stay their until you feel relaxed and ready to walk hand in hand with your partner. Never go into this saying okay we have a half hour to relax, that only bring stress to the moment as you are constantly looking at the time. Make a day of it if you can just enjoy each other and a beautiful day.

The Classic Movie Moves!!!!

Hey next time you are at the movies take some time to make those classic moves your learned in junior high school. Do the stretch and put the arm around your date, or slowly move your hand onto his knee. If something happens that startles you in the movie, jump into your partners arms. Simply touch their skin rub it gently and stroke the inside of their forearm. Hold hands , share drinks and popcorn make it seem like one of your first dates. If you both feel a little adventurous, sit in the back and make out if no one else is in the theater. You can purposely pick a movie that is old or not a big draw to try and get the theater to yourself. Feed each other popcorn and talk through the movie. Make comments to each other during the show and laugh. Some people might shhhs you but that's okay just try to be a little more quite. Leave the movie hand in hand and when you get home stand outside your door and kiss. Even if it is both of your house it still feels like a good night kiss.

Buy Something New for YOUR house

This post is pretty simple if you are living together already. However is you are not currently living with your partner you need to do some planning. I want you to go to the store or hardware store this weekend and purchase something for your house together. It can be decorations or a new television. Just make sure it fits in your budget. Discuss the things you need or want before you go and then make sure what ever you pick out you both are in agreement on. Then bring it home a put it up, set it up, or build it together. Then just flop down on the couch together and put your arms around each other a bask in the glow of your relationship.

Give in a little.

We all love to get our way, however sometimes it is more romantic to give in a little. Now I am not talking about letting someone run over you. I am talking about a simple surrender to make your partner feel special. Maybe it is letting them have the pick of which movie you watch tonight, even though you know the one they will pick will just make you vomit. Maybe you can't decide on which restaurant to eat at. You can suck it up and go with their choice. Giving in a little is great for you relationship, it shows you are committed to working thinks out. You can use this in many ways and you can use it in the bedroom also. Maybe your partner wants you to try a different position, what the heck let it go and give it a try. If it doesn't work at least you can get it out of their mind. Relationships are tricky and sometimes you can't get everything you want. So give in a little and hopefully your partner will return the favor and give in to you, at times.

Help Someone Out!

One thing that will show your partner what a great person you are is to help someone else out. Next time you see someone loading up their groceries lend a helping hand. Make sure to ask if it's okay first, you don't want to be a creepy person. Then help load up their groceries. You could also stop and help someone out with car problems or with a flat tire. It can be as simple as helping a child put their chain back on their bike or helping out a friend with a cook out. Just look for anything that would help someone out. Don't expect anything in return, the simple feeling you get should be enough. I use to drive around in my father's truck that had a snow plow on the front and help scoop out peoples drive ways. They always offered me money but I never accepted any the feeling was enough. Once your partner sees that you are truly doing this to simply help other out they will see you in a different light.

Have some fun at the store.

We all hate going to the store. It is just one of those chores you have to do week in and week out. Maybe your partner goes for the two of you or maybe it is you that does the weekly task. Well you chore might not be as bad as you think.

Next time it's time to get the supplies, make a point for the two of you to go together. Make sure you have plenty of time and plenty of money. Shopping together usually cost more for some reason. Do some browsing, together find things that you would like to have or need at your home and make notes of it. This comes in handy for holidays such as Christmas, or even birthdays. The thing I really want you to do is to see how many silly things you can find in the store. Go up and down each aisle and look for those silly things. Things like pink salsa bowls or kitchen utensils that look like they should be in the adult toy store. Laugh, joke, and use your humor together. Make up uses for some of the most ridiculous things your find. Just make sure not to get kicked out of the store. This might become a ritual and make your shopping a little less painful.

Keep your hands off the melons, make sure to check out the condom aisle, find the largest pair of panties in the store, and spend some quality time laughing with your partner. You might enjoy going to the store after all this is said and done.

Tonights distractions go out the window!

Tonight is a night that you need to put all focus on your relationship. Express this feeling to your partner. Make an agreement that tonight whatever you are going to do will have no distractions. Forget the cell phones, no television, no sports, no computer and no interruptions. This is a night that is quietly set aside for the two of you. Have you ever been to dinner when you partners phone rings and they talk for a few minutes, if you like me you feel a little shorted on your time together. I don't care if you are newly dating or have been married for several years. You still owe your partner respect while you are focusing on your relationship. You can leave numbers to the places you will be attending in case of emergency's, but other then that your undivided attention should be focused on each other. Don't sit at the restaurant and watch sports on the television either, I have a bad habit of doing this one. Football season is the worst for me, but I try to sit myself facing away from any television so I am not tempted.

Another point to make on this distractions point is don't go to place that doesn't allow you the noise level to chat. Forget the new club with it's loud music, or the professional basketball game or any place you cannot talk to each other easily. Quite places such as parks, museums, or beaches are great for walking and talking. Don't forget to hold hands also. Remember this is to be a date and all distractions need to be thrown out the window. Well don't literally throw them out the window, cell phones are expensive.

Wish on a star!

Tonight I want you both to go outside and look up at the stars. Then makes some wishes for the two of you as a couple. Weather it be to get married in a couple of years, or to buy your first home together. You can wish for silly things like hoping he wears his sexy boxers to bed tonight or the mailman will bring a huge check to your house. Have fun with this and dream a little spend sometime thinking about where the both of you are heading and the special things you want to enjoy together. Things such as trips, or children, or even pets might be great things to wish for. The big test of this is to set goals that we are calling wishes her but they are things you can strive for together. Now hopefully it will be a clear night wherever you are. If not jump on the internet and pull up some pictures of the stars.

Ladies choice!

Okay tonight you are ready for a great night of sex. You would love for you wife, partner, or girlfriend to give you a play by play of what she would like. What do you do if your partner is a little more reserved about letting you know her likes or dislikes. A lot of people men as well as women have a hard time asking or tell their partner what they want or fantasies about. Don't fear however I have a couple of solutions that might help you out.

If your like most couples you have a drawer full of sex toys, lubes, simulators, etc. Yet it seems like you don't go to it very much for fear your more reserved partner might not want to, because they won't talk about it. Well take the embarrassment out of their hands. Tell them you are going to leave the room and you would like them to pick out a couple of items form the drawer they would like to use. Tell them to stick the items inside your pillow case and turn out the lights when they are ready. With the lights out and the items tucked away, it will seem like they didn't really pick out the things you are going to use on them. This might be a great way for them to open up about their sexual preferences so make sure you use the items they have picked. Take turns once a week and do the same for your partner by placing things you want to experience in their pillowcase the next time.

Another way you can get them to open up about their wants is to give them an outlet other then talking. Let them right down what they want to do. They could do it on paper, through email, or even text you. Give them room to do this, and don't set there and look over their shoulder. Leave the room and have them give you a sign when they are done. Again you can take turns doing this as it is only fair both partners get a chance.

It seems silly that we sometimes have trouble conversing about sex to our partner. Sometimes it comes from the way we were brought up and what our parents instilled in us. Other times people are just shy or fear the other persons reactions about their choices. Doing these things a few times might loosen up your talking about them at a later time.

Use only candles in the house.

Let's make our house or apartment a little more romantic today. Make a pact with your partner not to use any electric lights. Only candles tonight, obviously safety is an issue but just be careful and get some good quality candles. Spread them out around the house and imagine what it was like went their was no electricity. Think about how sexy everything will look in candle light. Dinner will be more romantic, as well as just sitting around either talking or relaxing together. Now think about kissing each other and how much more exciting it will be in candle light. Bedtime can be another treat using candles, especially if you are going to have a little fun in bed that night. Just make sure all the candles are secure and can't be knocked over during the coarse of the evening.

Never under estimate the power of touch.

Never under estimate the power of touch. A simple touch can bring about several feelings. The way you touch can effect the way a person reacts. Light stroking touchings can add intimacy to your relationship. Stroke the inner forearm of your partner and watch how they react. In me it gives me a sense of calm and relaxation. A touch can also give support, such as a putting her hand at the base of your partners back. This tells them that you are there standing behind them if they need you. A touch as in a massage can bring about feelings of relaxation or relief from the daily grind of life. One of my favorite touches happens when my wife and I rub feet together during the night. It says to me that we are connected and even though we are asleep we are close. So next time your with your partner don't miss a chance to touch them. Put your hand on theirs or hold hands even if you are just sitting in the living room.

When two partners touch you create a bond or circuit if you will. It connects you and makes all energy flow through both partners. If you partner has had a bad day, get your hands on them and soak out some of that bad energy from them. In reverse if you have had a great day give them some of your super charged energy. Relationships are about sharing and if you can share through touch you are well ahead of the game.

Heat up your next meal

Spicy food are said to be not only good for your pallet but also great for your love life. I have posted a link in the title of this post on how not only spicy food can improve your love life but it can also help fight diseases such as cancer. Some research shows that people that live in countries that tend to use a lot of spices in their food have less blood clotting then others. Some spicy foods have inflammatory properties that make them help out in areas such as arthritis or with headaches. Again check out the link in the title post for more information on how spicy foods can help your health. With all that said think about what it can do for you love live. If eating spicy food can get rid of headaches you might start seeing a little more action in the bedroom. So next time you go to your favorite Mexican restaurant don't be afraid to try the spicy sauces and meals, you might be doing yourself a favor.

Here is your ration of kisses.

Today we are going to work on a little self control. I want you and your partner to ration out your kisses. Pick a number at the start of the day and that is all the times you are allowed to kissed during the day. Make it a realistic number say 25 or so. Then count them every time you give each other a peck. You might be surprised how many times a day you kiss. To make this exercise work you have to stick to the number don't decide later you need to add. Start out slow and make sure you are both on the same page. See how many you can save until the end of the night. If you are good you might have several saved for the end of the night if this happens, neither of you can go to sleep until all the kisses are used. This might lead to some other nightly activities. It is cute and fun to do and only the two of you know you are playing this little game.

If you don't think you kiss enough you can do this exercise in reverse and set a number of kisses to achieve during the day. Which could be just as fun. Try it and let me know what you think and what numbers you are comfortable with.

Pucker up for the team.

You don't have to break the bank to find great toys!

Say you want to heat up your sex but don't have the money to go out and purchase that expensive sex toy you've been dreaming of. Well don't fret you probably have a love of sex enhancers laying around your house. Are your eyebrows raised, well I will give you a view examples. Do you have a string of beads around? You know a necklace will work and this can be used on both partners. Take the string of beads and run in around the outside of her pussy, pushing it around the lips and perineum. Same for his penis, run the beads around his shaft and let them dangle around his balls. The excitement of something new touching you will drive you wild. A word of caution though never insert something into your partner that doesn't have a flared base for safety, you don't want to be explaining at the emergency room how your wife's pearl necklace ended up your anus.

Another thing some people find exciting is food items such as whip cream, or chocolate. These are find to play with but just make sure you wash extra good before having sex. You don't want to get food items inside either of you. A feather duster (new of coarse) can add delight to your partner as you run it across them and their genitals. A heating pad can really warm up your sex life also. By placing it in strategic places you might get a warm reaction. Ice packs can similarly be used to enhance you intimacy. Washable markers can make your lover a canvas. A bean bag chair allows you to find several new positions. I think you are beginning to get the idea. Be creative but be safe also. Again never stick anything inside your partner with out a flared base on it or making sure the material it is made out of is safe for insertion.

Have fun and I am going to throw out a challenge to all of you. This month I want to see if you can make love in every room in your house or apartment. This might take some planning if you have children but where there is a will there is a way. Good luck and have some great sex, it is one of the most beneficial things you can do for your relationship.

Surveys

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Take in a little league game together?

A great test of a relationship is to get each other to a little league game together. Especially if you don't have children. You can find a game easily in your town, pick a field where the little kids play and just go soak up the atmosphere. Not having a specific child to watch, you can absorb all the children with an open mind. Discuss each child and how they act on the field and connect it to yourself. Pick out which kid you feel best represented you at that age. Have you partner do the same. Discuss how you would handle situations as they arise during the coarse of the game. Make notes of parents you think are not setting good role models and ones that are. This way when and if you ever have children together you can use this date as a point of reference on how you might act. Watch and see which children are paying attention and which ones are picking daisies. Hopefully you will see that the main point of any event or contest for the children at this age is to have fun. I coached little league for over ten years now and when the kids ask me if we are winning or losing I always ask them "Are you having fun?" and when they say yes I say "Then we are winning"

One small note on this subject, you might want to make sure you sit far enough away from parents if you are discussing their children's behaviour so that they cannot hear you. Parents can be pretty protective of their kids. So if a kid is acting bad don't pour gas on the fire, they most likely learned it from their parents.

Love me two times baby.

For those of you lucky enought to remember The Doors classic song "Love me two times" we would like to encourage you and those that haven't heard this classic song to take a listen to it. Love can be shown in many different ways much like the song suggests. To make a great relationship you have to encompass many different forms of love. You have to be a friend, lover, partner, gardian angel, entertainer, shoulder to cry on, etc, etc, etc. The list goes on forever and if you want the best relationship you must be all these things for your partner. So don't think if you are getting into a relationship that you just need to be present to make everything great. You really have to put the effort into this life. So go listen to the song mentioned above and then thing about how important your relationship is to you.

Post # 100 Wow - Showing your Partner you want them around for a long time.

It seemed like just the other day I had the idea for this blog and now we are already at post number 100.

Today in honor of this occasion we are going to suggest you bring your partner a special treat. Not cake or candy but something good for them. Make sure it is something they like and is healthy for them. Carrots, apples, bananas, anything that is natural will most likely be good for them. Don't try to pass off something you think they should eat make sure again it is something they like.

By showing our partners we are concerned about their health we also show them how much we care about them. I mean if we didn't want them around we would be giving them things like greasy bacon sandwiches with load of mayo on them. The point is we want to spend as much time with our partners as we are allowed and if they eat healthier we might get a few extra years with them. That would be worth a lot to me.

Keep the Fireworks going!

Well the 4th of July has passed and so have the fireworks. You can however keep the fireworks bursting all year long. Now I am not talking about buying several thousand dollars worth of fireworks and lighting them off each night. I am talking about keeping that excitement going in your relationship. Think about how you watch in awe as each blast lights up the sky. Now make the everyday things you do look that special. Cook for you partner, let them sleep a little later, anything that will make them feel special and show you care about them will do. I enjoy fireworks but I would much rather have my partner give me a fantastic kiss before leaving for work, or hold my hand as we walk to the mall. These little fireworks are what makes your heart jump up and down. Now if you want to get literal you could turn all the lights off in the house and find firework displays on YouTube, not only would that be literal it would be romantic also.

Make a personal fireworks show.

Fireworks themselves are romantic but you can make them a little more romantic if you put a little effort into it. Find a secluded spot that now one else is at and park the car there. Either spread out a blanket in the grass or get a little padding a spread it out on the hood of the car. Make sure you can lay down and watch the sky show. Don't put extra strain on your neck looking up into the sky. Hold hands and watch as the sky comes alive. It will seem like you are the only two people in the world watching this display. Now if that isn't romantic I don't know what is.

Lay on the floor together.

When is the last time you and your partner just laid on the floor. We just got new carpet and I decided to just plop down on the floor to see how it felt. My partner soon joined me and she laid there holding hands and we looked up at the ceiling giving us a different perspective then we had had just a few minutes ago. It is amazing how different everything looks from this angle. So next time you and your partner are just lazin around spend some time on the floor and see what you might be missing. It will maybe help you understand how you have to look at everything in your relationship at all angles, this helps the couples stay happy and in love.

Thanks to Gary Lerude for the picture from creative commons and flickr.

Dig up some old love notes.

If you want to rekindle some romance, all you have to do is dig up some old love notes. You know the ones you might have written when you first started dating. It might sound silly but by doing this you refresh you mind as to the way you felt about your partner when you first fell for them. The notes might be sappy or corny but they will tell you how much you wanted to be with the person you are with. One problem might be that all your conversations were done via email. Well just today I dug up some old emails between my wife and myself. I never thought I would see them again but during our recent move they serviced again. Bringing back a lot of memories of the little things we have done together. Doing this will make you look at your partner as you did back then. Don't be surprised if you find yourself smiling at them a lot during the day, just make sure to share the notes with them so they can smile back.

Special thanks to Andrew Burgess for the picture from Creative Commons and Flickr

Rent a Silly Comedy Movie

As we have mentioned many times laughter is great for your relationship and health. So tonight find one of those supper silly movies to rent. Something along the lines of Airplane or Naked Gun are great examples. Something that will have you busting a gut the whole time you are watching it. The Three Stooges or American Funniest Videos are another couple that keep the laughs coming non stop. Never under estimate the power of laughter. If you partner is mad at you or if you have done something wrong a good laugh gets the perspective back in place in a hurry. As the expression goes live, love, and laugh.