Keep an on going wish lists

Christmas is past and gone with it are the thoughts of purchasing presents for your beloved. Not so true, their are several more holiday in which gifts are usually exchanged. Valentines Day is just around the corner, birthdays, anniversaries, and so forth are just a sample of holidays that we purchase gifts for, plus sometimes we just want to buy the person we love a little trinket to show them we are thinking about them. To help with this process both of you should keep a wish list available for your partner to be able to view anytime they wish. Maybe you could make a special file on your computer or even keep a shared document available for the two of you both to get into and change the list as needed (Google documents allows this feature). When you see something you would like to have go ahead and put it on the list. This way when you partner is getting ready to purchase a gift for you, what ever the occasion they will have a list available without having to ask you that dreaded question, "What would you like for our/your..." Not only do you get what you want but they can also surprise you without your input. Make sure to keep the list updated regularly so you don't get things you have already purchased or decided you didn't really want. This will make all your holiday even more special plus help with the frustration of your mate trying to find something to purchase for you.

Hang some pictures of the two of you.

If you want to really show your mate you really care about them, an easy way to do it is to hang some pictures of the two of you up in your house. Pictures from your vacations, or from the holidays it doesn't matter. Get the pictures blown up to an acceptable size and position them around your house in areas that they mesh with. Vacation pictures or Holiday pictures can go in the living area while pictures of you in the rain might work well in the bathroom. Pictures of the two of you in restaurants might work well in the kitchen or dinning area. Save pictures of the two of you kissing or hugging for the bedroom. Keeping images of great times you have had in the past help to cement your relationship and give you a constant visual reminder of how much fun you have together. I would suggest getting pictures you have taken through the years instead of getting some professional ones done, the one you take seem to have a more personal feel. You might have to rely a little on others to take pictures of the two of you, but no matter where you are someone will always be their to lend a helping hand.

Romance is open minded.

If there is one thing that I know for a fact, it is that romance is open minded. Romance has to stay open and new at all times. You can only give flowers so many time and if you got flowers everyday you would likely get sick of getting them. So, to keep romance fresh and new you have to continually open to new and exciting ways to romance your mate. Sure there are things that you might not be comfortable with and you can choose to stay away from those things. However when you want to branch out and find something new way to be romantic you have to get out of your comfort zone a little. For instance if you always go to a Italian restaurant when you go out to eat deciding to go to a Thai restaurant would make you a little uncomfortable. Same can be said for more intimate activities, so many people are against anal play but some people really enjoy the thrill of it. The most important part is not to judge anything your partner might want to try be open and keep the communication flowing before and after the event. If you have stomach problems then Thai might not agree with you but you will not know for sure until you try it. Same for sexual issues, unless you try it then you don't know for sure that it does feel good. However if you are totally against something you should speak up and express that to your mate. If you go into it with a closed mind you will not be comfortable and not give it a fair chance. So sometimes you have to put these types of things on the back burner or find alternatives. For instance if you are against swinging and your partner wants to try it maybe purchasing some wigs or fake mustaches will help them get into their romance while not crossing your boundaries. Again it all goes back to communication, some of the off the wall things that I have tried it took me a while to work up asking for but when I did I was amazed at how well they were received. Romance and love are wonderful things but you can't expect them to stay fresh and exciting on their own, you have to put the effort and communication into them.

The Neck as an Erogenous Zone.

During foreplay we all focus on the parts we know will get our partner's engine running. Breasts, genitals, anus, and lips are great erogenous zones to focus on but they should come at a later time, closer to the actual love making. The neck my not seem sexy on the surface but it can be quite the erogenous zone if you stroke it just right. One of the best parts about the neck is that you can start on it without having to remove any clothing. If you partner has shorter hair the neck might already be exposed totally. Hair is easily pushed to the side to allow access to the neck. The neck is quick to send messages down the spinal column because it is so close. Light kissing on the neck can lead to some pretty quick shivers. All the areas of the neck are susceptible to the erogenous play. Most people claim the back of the neck to be the most sensitive and light kissing and touching drives their partner over the edge. Kissing the front of the neck might take a little more tender loving care but it also can contribute to those shivers we desire to feel. When kissing the front or sides of the neck you are in position to continue down the body with kisses. However kissing the back of the neck can lead you to several wonderful and playful positions to get into. While kissing from the back your hands will be free to roam the other erogenous zones on the front of the body allowing for double the sensation. Use your imagination and let your hands be a big part of this neck kissing. Actually let your hands be an extension of your lips as you continue to work the neck over. Everyone is different and you might find someone that isn't as fond of kisses on their neck so be advised not to push it if they are not receptive.

Dress up like a favorite characters to add a little excitement to your romance.

We all have are fantasy, we would love to act out. Dressing up for a little role play may seem a little difficult for some people. They are nervous about what to dress up as or if it will be perceived as perverted or not. First of all nothing you find exciting is perverted it is your preference. Second dressing up can be as easy as watching a movie. You can pick something that you really like or if you are observant watch your partners reactions and see what they really like. Movie characters often give us fantasy from the start so you can use that to build your own fantasies on. For instance the other night we watched Night at the Museum 2 and I personally couldn't take my eyes off the rear end of the young lady playing Ameila Earhart the pants she wore really drew attention to her butt. I pictured by partner wearing such pants and us having a little Ameila Earhart fantasy. I made some hints to my partner so maybe one of these day Ameila Earhart will bring her sexy little pilot pants into my life. I have heard several movie fantasies that people have from Princess Lea in Star Wars to Mel Gibson in Braveheart. Don't be afraid to share these fantasies with your partner as they most likely have some of their own. You can take turns acting them out and portraying your favorite characters.

Having fun together.

Romance is what it is, but where does it start? You don't just become romantic with someone you just met, that would seem a little stalkerish. If you started serenading them outside their window after the first date, you most likely wouldn't get a second date. So how do you get to the point where you can be romantic? Well it all starts with having fun together. A bond forms when you enjoy being together and doing things together. Think back to any relationship you ever were in, and you will see that you had fun together first then became more romantically involved. I think we lose sight of that sometime and forget to have fun together. We just want to jump to the romantic part and in doing so we miss the foundation for a great relationship. Sure the foundation is put down first in a house but what would happen if you removed the foundation after the house was built? The house would crumble into the ground. Think about that in terms of your relationship. To have a solid and sturdy relationship the two of you have to be able to enjoy each other in a fun way.

Can Reading together be Romantic?

Reading is usually an activity that you think about doing by yourself, but can you make it romantic? The answer is yes! Think about it, grab a warm blanket, snuggle down on the couch laying sitting close to each other and reading. Silence is only broken by your breath and page flips. Body heat keeping the two of you warm on a clod winter day. Maybe reading in bed is your passion but you can keep it romantic by touching each other while you read. Let your feet touch and caress the other persons as you read the pages in your book. Some couples like to read things together such as erotica works or even just stories about love. Another great way to make reading romantic is by getting your sunday paper and spreading it out while the two of you pick your favorite section and read it while laying all over each other. Hold hands while you read or take turns reading to each other is a great way to stay connected while you read. Books are great and there are so many out their, now with the electronic readers you can get and read almost anyplace you can imagine but isn't it much bette when you are with your partner?