Being Selfish

Is there a time to be selfish in a relationship? Of coarse there is we all need to have and want our needs and desires met. However how do we accommodate this type of thinking when we want to attend to our partners needs also? Well it is a give and take process you have to feel when it is all right for you take and know when it is time for you to give. How in the heck do you know when those times are? Believe me you will know your body will tell you when you need things and your mind won't let you forget about them. As for you partner all you have to do is love them and you will feel their needs and desires also. It is not an exact science but neither is life itself. The learning process goes on for ever and understanding that you will constantly be given new and fresh challenges in your relationship is a calming notion that when you come to grips with all things sort of fall into place. So be a little selfish when it is your turn and be ready to let your partner be selfish at time just make sure it is a 50-50 split to get the best results.

Steamy Shower Notes

Here is a great little romantic way to surprise someone. Sneak into the bathroom while they are taking a nice hot shower and leave them a steamy message on the mirror. Tell them you love them, or they are cute. You might even make it a little sexy and write "Ditch the towel and come back to bed with me" Whatever you want to write that gets your feelings across is great. Think of it as texting your partner old school style.

Watch something funny today.

Laughter has always been marketed as the best medicine. Why not use this medicine in our relationship. Get something funny to watch tonight be it a movie or a television show, just make sure it is something that will get the two of you laughing hard. Laughing is a great stress reliever and a wonderful activity for you body. Sharing your laughter with each other is beneficial in that it strengthens the bond between the two of you. When we are laughing together we are having fun together, plus laughing is just plain sexy. Find something funny to watch tonight or go to a comedy club spend the night holding hands and laughing uncontrollably. It does the body and the relationship good.

Might I suggest some real slapstick type of comedy, think about the naked gun movies.

love like there is a tomorrow.

We always here that you should love like there is no tomorrow. However when you are early in a relationship that might be the case. In a new relationship you should love like you have a future together. Not so much as you start to scare the other person. For example don't talk about getting married on your first date! Do talk about the next date though to see how the other person feels. Say things like, "Well if we go out again I would like to take you (insert place here)" if you are greeted with a "That would be nice" then you chances are good for the second date. Especially in the early stages of a relationship make reference to the near future quite a bit. Talk about things you would like to do during the summer or on vacation, and include the person you are seeing in on those plans. The worst they can say is I can't do that or I won't have vacation time then. By using this technique this person will see that you can be a long term partner plus it also allows them to see that you are in this for a commitment so if they are not looking for this it is an easier time to get out. Yes as our relationships grow we want to live like there is no tomorrow but until we know we want to spend the rest of our life with that person take it a little slower.

Exploring bodies

Intimacy is one of the best parts about being in love with someone. Sometimes however we quickly advance to the sexual part of intimacy without taking out time to explore our senses and bodies. Next time the two of you have the time or are getting ready to enjoy an evening of love making, I want you to spend some time enjoying each others body. Leave the lights on or put some candle light in the room and take turns even just looking at each others body. One of you lay down completely naked and let the other one go over your body. Checking out each delicate inch of our skin. Don't just focus on the genitals really look over their body making notes on things like birth marks or freckles. Kiss and touch your way around their body find out if maybe you are missing the any erogenous zones. Let them know constantly how beautiful they are and how much you enjoy their body. Set a time limit and then when the time is up switch and let them explore you body. No spots are off limits in this exploration, trust in your partner and let them have free range over you body. You might just find it an activity you can enjoy over and over.

The slightest touch can mean so much.

Touch is one of the things that most people desire. We want to feel that warmth of another human being putting their hands on us. The touch of a child is also very therapeutic with in their innocents. Even the slightest touches can mean so much to your partner. Think about how comforting the simplest of touches can be. When you touch feet in bed at night says I am here for you. The touches that just happen without warning like when you just brush each other as you pass. The soft caress on your arm as you are sitting together. The tingles that are sent up and down your body with the excitement of these touches is a joy that everyone should feel. Brushing away your partners hair as you look in their eyes or even just the touch of when you have to get something in front of them, says so much in a relationship. You hands are a wonderful tool for showing and expressing your love, so touch and enjoy.

Do your outdoor exercises together.

Chances are that one or the other of you in your relationship does some form of outdoor exercise. Weather it is jogging, cycling, or just walking I hope at least that you are doing so to stay in shape. This activity to me is on of the most romantic ways to get your exercise in if you include your partner in the activity. Jogging and Cycling are a little tougher then Walking, because of the difference in fitness levels. The partner in better shape doesn't want to leave the other partner behind. That would negate the idea of exercising together. Plus, in cycling and jogging it is a littler harder to talk to each other. On the other hand you can push each other and it gives you someone to relax with after the exercise is over. Walks are great and a little less stressful on the body if you are just starting out. The also allow plenty of time to talk without being out of breath. Next time you get a chance invite your partner along on your outdoor workout or today would be a great day for the two of you to start getting fit. Starting together would be a great romantic gesture on both of your parts. It says I care about you and I want to you to be around for a long time.