Rap Session

How often do you just sit down to talk about things between the two of you? Do you make time for this type of activity? A rap session isn't about beat boxing or reciting the latest SnoopDog song it is about both of you getting a chance to just talk about things effecting you. It might be the news or your work, or even the latest movie that you have just seen. The point is the rap session is where you just let your feelings out and both of you get a chance to listen and speak to your partner. Pick a time when you will be alone, after the children are in bed and you have time to yourselves. Get a glass of wine, turn the television off, and just speak what is one your mind. Take turns so it isn't just a one sided speech. When it is your turn to listen then you do just that and really listen to what your partner is saying. Let your emotions come out laugh, cry, or celebrate but make sure you are honest not only to your partner but to yourself also. These rap sessions are great ways to build your relationship and make it stronger then it has ever been.

Get some sun.

Want something that will help you romance well get some sun. The sun light is great for your overall mood and it is an important part of life. About this time of year everyone is getting cabin fever and wanting to get outside to soak up some sun. If we are not able to take a vacation during the colder winter months then it has probably been quite some time since you got to enjoy the warm summer sun. The next time you find the sun out make sure to get out in it. Walk to work, or just take a walk and let the good sensations the sun can create start to chip away at that bottled up feeling you have had since winter started.

Great love ballads.

Have you ever watch a cheesy romantic comedy and listened to the soundtrack? If you have you have heard several of the great love ballads. Groups such as Journey, Boston, Chicago, etc made a lot of money singing these songs for young lovers. So why not use them to help boost your love life. Make a playlist of these songs to play in the background of your house during times that lag. In essence you are making your life into a romantic comedy.

Check out this clip from the Band Exile and see if you can remember the song from the movie Happy Gilmore. Maybe you can do a better job of singing then Adam Sandler did in the movie.

What would you do for your Love!

Most of us go out of our way to help our partners. I hear stories of people running out in the pouring rain to get ice cream for their pregnant partners. Or parents that will sit up with their sick children all night and not get a minute of sleep. These are the type of actions that show how much you care about that other person. When you evaluate your relationship however you have to look at if you think your partner would do the same for you. Will they stay up late to massage your back if you hurt it at work? Would they run across town to help you out in the middle of the night? Would they take care of the kids so you could get some rest? If you answer no to these questions then you really need to look at your relationship, does it work with one partner putting all the effort into the relationship? Is there room for selfishness in a relationship? Well if you are strong you can overcome many challenges. No one likes for their good deeds to go unnoticed but for many people out their it is like that. Now you have to compare apples to oranges here. On partner might not be able to go without sleep and perform their job the next day, however they can repay the other partner in other ways. You can't look for a specific return on your investment so don't give a relaxing massage and expect your partner to jump up and give you one right after they are done. Look carefully at your relationship and the things your partner might be doing that you are over looking, it is easy to do. Relationships are like a bicycle built for two. You both have to pedal to get where you need to be, and if one person is doing all the pedaling then they will grow tired faster then the one not pedaling.

Refresh the sheets.

Your bedroom is one of the most important places for romance to happen. So a good practice to get into is changing your sheets often. For starters it shows you care about your partner wanting them to sleep on clean sheets. Plus if you are having sex very often the sheets can get dirty pretty fast. Sleeping in the wet spot is bad enough but think about that spot drying up and staying in your sheets. Get yourself several different sets of sheets, different colors and different fabric types to set specific moods or to deal with the changing seasons. Flannel sheets are great for snuggling up in the colder winter months, while cotton sheets add an airy comfort in the summer time. Colors such as red and black help promote intimacy and silk and satin sheets can make you feel like you are in your own porn movie. You can change the whole dynamic of you bedroom just by changing the sheets. Buy sheets for special occasions and as gifts to make them even more special. Have Christmas sheets with christmas colors, you can also have anniversary sheets if you like. No matter what your taste a little more time between the sheets is never a bad thing in the case of romance.

Speak to each other in code.

Do you ever just want to tell you mate what your thinking and not worry about other people hearing. Maybe you want your man to take you and throw you on the bed and make passionate love to you. Maybe you just want to tell you partner you love them but don't want to hear about it from the other guys and girls at the table. Well, all you have to do is change some words around so that only the two of you know what they mean. Replace sex or love making with baseball then whenever you are around a lot of people you can say to your partner, "Would you like to go to a baseball game" or "I wish I was up to the plate right now" No one will thing about it twice but the two of you will know exactly what it means. Say you want to tell your partner you love them in a crowded setting. You can replace the phrase "I Love You" with "Don't forget to pick up the milk" or "Don't forget to make that phone call" It almost makes it seem like you are spies trying to send coded messages to each other. No matter how it feels you get the point across to each other and no one else.

Love thy self!

When we think of romance we think of doing kind things for the person we love. Sending them flowers, giving them massages, hand in hand walks and passionate love making fill our heads when we think about romance. I want to tell you that by loving yourself you are setting up the romance in your life to become way more better. When we are comfortable with who and what we are we give of a confidence that is like a drug to others. They catch on to the feeling and want and desire to have it for themselves. I am not talking about conceit I am talking about honest to goodness feeling good about yourself. Conceit is trying to show everyone how great you are while loving yourself is an content within yourself. These people that love themselves are never alone and have tons of energy to give to creating romance in their lives. It might sound a little crazy but to get the most out of your romance make sure to love yourself first. If you find trouble doing this make a list of all your characteristics that you think others find appealing to you and read them often to confirm the reasons why you lover yourself. You are a special person and someone somewhere will see that in you also.