Back Off

Sometimes in a relationship it is tough to know when you need to be helpful and when you need to back off. Try and always listen to your partner they will tell you if they need space of not. Now sometime they will say they want space and not really mean it. This is where it gets tricky. You have to read the signs for example if they are mad at you and need space, give it to them. If something tragic happened in their life, they might need some space but don't get to far away. Every situation is different and so is everyone else, some people need more space then others.

Now that I think I have confused you, let me lay this on you. If you are one of those people that need space and your partner is the opposite then you have a challenge ahead of yourself. You have to find a way to get your space and be there for you partner at the same time. I didn't say it was going to be easy. You have to find that fine line in either situation and try to balance yourself on it. We don't want you to compromise your values but we don't want you to hurt someone else's feelings either. Especially if that other person is the one you love.

Fathers Day and Romance.

Happy Fathers Day for all you fathers out there. I know we don't normally associate fathers day with romance. However, I feel there should be time for romance everyday. Tonight save the romance for later tonight and spend the day with your family. I know this is fathers day but the whole family needs to be involved. So go on a bike ride together, watch a family friendly movie, go out to dinner (Dad's Pick), take in a ballgame or just have a great big BBQ. Remember this is fathers day, so dads use and abuse that fact. No cooking for you, sit back and enjoy your day.

Don't be afraid of Vibrators.

I think in today's society most people understand that sex toys are an aid to a better sex life. However their are still some of you out there that think a vibrator is a replacement for a penis. Silly men, while a vibrator helps women achieve orgasm you do not see women going around marring vibrators. You should embrace her when she decides that a little extra excitement in the bedroom is a good idea. Using a vibrator will help her relax and helps get her ready for sex with you. Most women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm so a vibrator can be a man's best friend. You may be scratching you head but think about it. If a woman can reach her climax she is most likely going to make sure you reach yours. Just as men enjoy being stimulated visually a woman needs foreplay to get stimulated in most cases. As always there are exceptions but the averages follow this mold.

If you are still scared here is some more things to make you feel better about having a vibrator in your relationship. Vibrators don't hold her after sex, vibrators don't call out her name when they are cumming, vibrators don't work by themselves, vibrators don't swell as they get excited, and finally when she wants dirty talk all a vibrator can do is hum. So get out there today and if she doesn't have a vibrator already, order one. I have put a link to Good Vibrations in the title post that has a wide variety of simulators for women. Hey don't feel left out they have some for men, too.

Pictured above is the laya vibrator available at good vibrations. Make sure to check out all their products I am sure you can find something for both of you there.

Throw a Luau together.

Not everyone can go to Hawaii, but if you or your partner haven't been, you can bring Hawaii to your house in the form of a luau. You can get some island type of food to cook on the grill. Pick up some tiki torches at the local discount store. Figure out what type of island drinks you want and either pick up some real pineapples or coconuts and cut open to use as cups. Get totally into the luau find grass skirts, Hawaiian shirts and get some drum music to play in the back ground. Invite you friends and and tell them to bring things to complement your luau. Do a limbo, get a baby pool to soak your feet in and everyone pretend you are on the islands. Find some trivia about Hawaii to play with the guests. Make sure to have Laius to place on everyone and enjoy the night. Make sure you and your partner get to have a special dance during the luau and maybe you'll both get laid once the luau is over.

Cook up some Romance!

With the summer season upon us we need to put some romance on our grill. It's time to find a sexy dish that you can prepare on the grill to make your partner feel special. Do some research and find out some things that claim to be aphrodisiacs and that you can cook on the grill. Things that pop into my mind would be seafood, so you could go get some shrimp and marinate them in an unusual sauce for dinner tonight. Don't do your same old hamburger thing get creative. I will include a link to BBQ & Grilling recipes in the title of this post. Make sure you make something they like. Make sure you plan out the whole meal also. Baked potato's, corn on the cob, are a couple of suggestions that might help you out.

Here is the secret to making your grilled food a romantic meal. Don't let your partner help at all! That's it make them feel like you are doing this completely for them. They will be very honored and you might get a special kiss later for being you partners personal chef.

Comfort in time of Need

One of the most romantic things you can do for someone is just being there for them in a time of need. Everyone is different and some people want to be alone in a time of need. They will appreciate you for just holding your ground if that is what they need. Things like losing a parent or any family member are hard and a time when you need to put your partners feeling in front of everything else. Getting fired from a job is another time where you partner will need you to comfort them. It's is easy to feel rejected at a time like that, however a positive partner can change the situation around in a hurray.

Holding hands or just hugging make your arms a safe place to hide if only for a moment for you partner. When things like that happen you need to be the rock in the relationship. Put all your effort into helping any way you can. You be the one to go out and get dinner for the family at the funeral home. Help with the job search if your partner has just lost their job. Always be positive and show them you care. Most people find out just how romantic their partner is when times are tough. So don't be the person who runs away from the situation. Stand your ground and hold your partner up. After all you might need them sooner then you think.

Figure out Likes and Dislikes

One thing that is very important to a relationship, is getting to know each other. Start today, if you haven't already, a mental list of your partners likes and dislikes. When you got to a restaurant pay attention to what type of entree they order. Is it chicken, beef, pork, or vegetarian. Knowing their preference scores big points in the romance department. This doesn't just apply to food. Get to know their likes and dislikes in everything. Which team is their favorite, what type of alcohol do they like, what brand of clothes do they prefer, the list goes on and on. Now the only thing you need to understand is these preferences can change over time. For example, you partner might enjoy beef at one point in their life, then switch to being a vegetarian during another point. If you serve them beef after they become a vegetarian you might get a raised eyebrow.

One word of caution, if you have something you really enjoy don't assume that they will enjoy it as much as you.  You cannot make someone have the same passion for what you enjoy.  For example I enjoy going to baseball games and while my wife enjoys it also she doesn't have the same passion for it I do.  She will tolerate it but doesn't have to be there.  She could find many other things she would enjoy doing herself.  Once you figure out some of you partners likes and dislikes you now are faced with the challenge of making sure you both get to enjoy things you like.  As long as you share these feelings you will have no problems.  Just like anything in a relationship it is give and take.  I like to say it is sharing, that sounds a lot better.

Special Thanks to MarkPritchard for the photo from creative commons flickr