Moonlight Drive

Have you ever just gotten out late at night and took a drive together? No reason, no purpose, just the wind blowing and the darkness only penetrated by the moonlight. If you haven't you need to schedule one in today. If you have a convertible or a car with a sunroof you can add to your drive by opening it up and enjoying the moonlight on your entire drive. Take your time and find road that are less traveled and have lots of places to stop and enjoy the quiet calm of this moonlight night. Find a wonderful spot up on a hill overlooking your town or city and watch the hustle and bustle from your secluded spot. Enjoy each others company and get into some deep conversation before you head back. If you lucking and the conversation is good then you might just be seeing the sunrise from your wonderful spot, also.

Do you touch each other while you sleep?

I an curious about how much people touch while they are asleep. I am a huge fan of touching and the comfort of it while I sleep. However, my partner isn't so we battle back and forth on the subject. She tries to touch and times I try not to but I think that maybe it is each individuals make up. We all know that touch is important in our daily lives studies have shown the touch is a very positive thing to us. But is it when we are sleeping? I would love to see a study done on this topic and see what the conclusions are. Chime in yourself and let me know how you feel about touching during sleep. Is it a comfort or a annoyance to you? Does it help you sleep or does it keep waking you up? Lastly, how do you touch during sleep stages, are your arms around on another, head on chest, or do you feet touch? I am curious and would love for you to send me your feelings on this subject to thecouplesspot@gmail.com Now go get some sleep.

Jack Canfield - Motivation that is not in your face!

Jack Canfield is in my opinion the best motivator on the planet. His work in The Secret interested me enough to check out several of his books. What I enjoy about Jack is his laid back style, he is not in your face telling you what to do. His works are ideas and suggestions that motivate you to put the effort into your future. Many of the other motivators make me feel like they are my Drill Sargent in boot camp. Jack, however maps things out and has specific plan for you to follow on your leisure or for when you want to reach your goals. On the romance side Jack is obviously dedicated to his wife and family and that makes a big deal to me. Jack teaches you how to have the desire to improve without forgetting about the little things that make the energy so great. Sit down together and listen to Jack Canfield speak or watch the movie The Secret together and pay close attention to his parts in the movie. As a couple you will feel the energy that he is giving off and it will want to make your excel as a couple as well.

Being Selfish

Is there a time to be selfish in a relationship? Of coarse there is we all need to have and want our needs and desires met. However how do we accommodate this type of thinking when we want to attend to our partners needs also? Well it is a give and take process you have to feel when it is all right for you take and know when it is time for you to give. How in the heck do you know when those times are? Believe me you will know your body will tell you when you need things and your mind won't let you forget about them. As for you partner all you have to do is love them and you will feel their needs and desires also. It is not an exact science but neither is life itself. The learning process goes on for ever and understanding that you will constantly be given new and fresh challenges in your relationship is a calming notion that when you come to grips with all things sort of fall into place. So be a little selfish when it is your turn and be ready to let your partner be selfish at time just make sure it is a 50-50 split to get the best results.

Steamy Shower Notes

Here is a great little romantic way to surprise someone. Sneak into the bathroom while they are taking a nice hot shower and leave them a steamy message on the mirror. Tell them you love them, or they are cute. You might even make it a little sexy and write "Ditch the towel and come back to bed with me" Whatever you want to write that gets your feelings across is great. Think of it as texting your partner old school style.

Watch something funny today.

Laughter has always been marketed as the best medicine. Why not use this medicine in our relationship. Get something funny to watch tonight be it a movie or a television show, just make sure it is something that will get the two of you laughing hard. Laughing is a great stress reliever and a wonderful activity for you body. Sharing your laughter with each other is beneficial in that it strengthens the bond between the two of you. When we are laughing together we are having fun together, plus laughing is just plain sexy. Find something funny to watch tonight or go to a comedy club spend the night holding hands and laughing uncontrollably. It does the body and the relationship good.

Might I suggest some real slapstick type of comedy, think about the naked gun movies.

love like there is a tomorrow.

We always here that you should love like there is no tomorrow. However when you are early in a relationship that might be the case. In a new relationship you should love like you have a future together. Not so much as you start to scare the other person. For example don't talk about getting married on your first date! Do talk about the next date though to see how the other person feels. Say things like, "Well if we go out again I would like to take you (insert place here)" if you are greeted with a "That would be nice" then you chances are good for the second date. Especially in the early stages of a relationship make reference to the near future quite a bit. Talk about things you would like to do during the summer or on vacation, and include the person you are seeing in on those plans. The worst they can say is I can't do that or I won't have vacation time then. By using this technique this person will see that you can be a long term partner plus it also allows them to see that you are in this for a commitment so if they are not looking for this it is an easier time to get out. Yes as our relationships grow we want to live like there is no tomorrow but until we know we want to spend the rest of our life with that person take it a little slower.