Carve your initials in a tree.

Remember long ago when you about 13 and you felt like you were in love with someone. At 13 you didn't have a lot of ways to express your love. If you were like most 13 year old kids then you probably expressed your love in doodling. Writing you new loves name over and over on your tablet your books, only to have to mark them out later when that love ended. Now that you are older and your relationship is a little more stable it is time to move up. This post is even better if you are stable enough to have your own home together. Find a special tree in your yard or on a path somewhere and carve your initials into that tree. Yes I know it is not good for the tree but in the grand scheme of things it isn't as bad as other things. This carving will stand as an expression of your love for each other. Now every time you walk by that tree or down that path you will remember each other. Make it a point to remember it years later and make a pilgrimage to enjoy it time and time again even after you move out of the area. If for some reason your tree gets removed then as soon as you find out replace your love signature on another tree. Love is our nature so why not express it in our nature.

Shoes, shoes shoes

Shoes? How the heck is that romantic? Well shoes themselves are not romantic but combined with your imagination they can be. Shoes are great places to hide little love notes. They are great for hiding love notes because you wear them everyday so it isn't possible to not find them. You can also match the note to the shoes. Sexy shoes get sexy notes, hiking shoes get notes about being rugged and tough, sport shoes can express how great your partner looks, no matter what type of shoe it is you can adjust the note to express the shoe. You can also use shoes to be romantic in other ways. Setting out your partners dancing shoes in plain site can tell them you are ready for a romantic night of dancing. You can use all your shoes to spell out words or even lead your partner to a surprise you have waiting for them. So you see, shoes can be romantic you just have to be creative.

Make a flirty promise.

Today I want you to make a flirty promise to your lover. Either promise them some great sexual experience or a romantic get together. Then you have to follow through on your flirt. You can pull them aside and tell them, text them, or just leave a note for them to find. State in your note what you are going to do, when you are going to do it and how much they are going to enjoy it. Now if you have obstacles in the way such as children you can get around that by putting the time as soon as the children are asleep. Make it a point to keep your promise but if something comes up you need to quickly put a rain date on your plans. Say you are sorry and quickly state the rain date and them them that you will even make it more exciting on that date. This little build of excitement actually helps your partner in more ways than you think. Not only will they benefit from the health aspect of sex but they will also benefit from the great mood it will put them in. Remember, sex is a very important part of your relationship and it should take priority at times. Not only because it is great for you but because it is great for your relationship, also.

Don't hold back the love.

You know love is an abundant source it never runs out unless you want it to. Holding back your love isn't the thing to do. If you love someone let them know and then put all your heart and soul into it. To often we don't get second chances in this life, so why would you hold back your love for your partner. Not giving them the thing that can boost them up higher then they thought possible. In my opinion there are no excuses for this nothing takes precedence over love. Don't tell me you had a bad day or the you just don't feel like it. Those are the type of things that cry out for love. Use your head and follow your heart you will be glad you did.

Working together.

Some of you might think that working together is a wonderful idea, and some of you think that work is your separation time. Well it can be both. Recently my partner and I were offered a position to run a retirement neighborhood. The pay was really good and we would have gotten free housing, now a problem arouse that there were not enough bedrooms for our children, so we had to decline. The thought of working together was a wonderful challenge for us. The more and more I thought about it however I realized that even though we would essentially be working together we would spend most of that time apart. Doing different things and marketing would keep us busy most of the day. I feel like we would have still had lots to talk about later in the evening and would still have the coming home feeling. It is to bad this didn't work out I think that as in our relationship we would have made a great team in business. Where does your relationship stand as of work? It is okay if you need that space from you partner, however think about if you could work together with your partner and what that says about your relationship. A big question for working together is can you leave the work behind? Will you drag it into the bedroom or worse yet will it cause problems in your personal relationship. If you can keep business separate from your personal relationship there is no problem.

There are no more roles in a relationship.

If you haven't figured it out yet they year is 2010. We are not stuck in the 1950's, so if you think a certain gender should have a specific role in your relationship you need to wake up. Relationships are partnerships now a days long gone are the bread winner days where the man goes out and brings home the money and the woman stays home to raise the kids. There is nothing wrong with a stay at home mom but nowadays it could be a stay at home dad. Most relationships see both partners have to enter the work force so you can forget about one partner being responsible for all the household duties. Relationships today have to be a partnership, all aspects have to be split to make it work. With both partners out of the house working 40 or more hours you cannot expect one partner alone to take care of all the chores. You have to see what works best for the two of you in this manner. Maybe you set specific chores like one person cooks while the other does the dishes or you can rotate chores so you both have a feel for them. Use your communication skills and work together to keep your house in top shape as well as your relationship.

Sometimes you just need to listen, and not speak

Have you ever had a really bad day and just needed to vent. You don't want to be consoled or babied and the last thing you want is to be cuddled. You just want to scream and let it all out. When you partner feels this way you need to pick up on it as soon as you can and then become what I consider the tackling dummy. Let them let it all out, don't judge, don't offer opinions just stand or sit there and listen. Listen with your heart and pay attention, only offer any words if they ask you for them. Nod your head, reach out and touch them but don't tell them they are wrong or that you would have handled it differently because that is not what they need right now. They need to get that negative energy out of their body and venting is the way to do that. It might take all night to get it out but when it is your turn they will be there for you.