Do something in the sunshine you'e never done before?

It's been a long winter and with summer just around the corner, take advantage of those first few warm days. Find something that you normally do inside and take it outside. By getting outside to perform you task you usually do inside it will make your feel a whole lot different about doing this task. For instance take your laundry outside to fold, read a book outside on a blanket, or the two of you could take a game outside and play on a picnic table. Always address the day before you head out. If it is windy you might not want to take your paper work outside to perform, unless you want to chase it all over your neighbors yard. Give your sweetie a neck rub outside in the warm sun. This is a simple item to perform just find something you do inside and find a way to do it outside. Wireless Internet access can even let you complete work outside, how about that. Hooray for technology.

The Art of Massage

Massages One great truth in a relationship is that everyone enjoys a good massage. Whether it is used as a pain reliever or foreplay, I don't believe I know a soul that doesn't enjoy a massage. There are many therapeutic reasons for a massage. I know that a good massage can relieve the daily pressures of the day. Relieving this stress is a great benefit in a relationship because if you eliminate that tension you are bound to have a better time together. A massage can, also, loosen up the muscles and relieve the aches and pains associated with exercise, arthritis, or the pain that comes with just getting older.

The relaxing of your muscles can be beneficial in your relationship in a number of ways. For one thing, it can help you perform activities that you might not have been able to do if you had pain in a certain area. Activities such as going on walks, playing sports or bedroom activities are just a few things that could be aided by an occasional massage. Now a great asset of massage for the couple is the fact it can be considered foreplay. There are several books and methods of sensual massage, which are designed to lead from massage to intimacy with a smooth transition. The massage works for both partners in this manner. One partner gets to feel the benefits of the massage while the other gets to enjoy touching and caressing his/her partner. Add in the use of oils and devices and the massage becomes a ritual or passion. Scented oils, candles, and mood music can enhance the experience to the point of an erotic adventure. There are even specific types of massage for the genitals and other areas that could be arousal spots. These genital massages work very well and are definitely a sexual experience between the partners.

Now you might think that you just start rubbing your partner and everything will fall into place. Well, it doesn't work that way. I suggest you head on down to your local book store, search Amazon, or Google the Internet to find the specific technique that appeals to your partner and you. I think you will be surprised at the number of different techniques and forms of massage that are out there. Don't be timid. Try something different. The benefits will outweigh the fear in the end. Once you decide on the proper technique go about making the setting perfect and picking a time when you won't be interrupted by the kids or parents. Your massage session will be able to turn into a beautiful love making session.

Click on the title link will take you to a website listing all different types of massages techniques.

Romantic Walks - (Click here to find out more)

I do believe one of the most romantic things that costs absolutely nothing is just taking a walk together. The place doesn't matter, unless it is in an unsafe location or during an unsafe time. I mean don’t go for a walk in the middle of a hurricane or a very shady neighborhood. A walk gives the two of you privacy even when you are out in the open. For starters, only the people that are walking at the very same pace can hear what you are saying – for the most part. You can set your own pace; if you want to casually stroll it doesn't matter, in fact, I recommend it. Have you ever heard the expression, “Stop and smell the roses,”? Well, do that to on your walk. Walks can include magical moments. It is a great time to ask someone to marry you or maybe just to present them with an anniversary present. Walks can happen anywhere. They might be downtown in a big city, a park, your old neighborhood, or one of my favorites - the beach. Never under any circumstance put a time limit on your walk. This is a time for the two of you to reconnect. If you are constantly looking at your watch and saying, “We better get back,” the moment is lost. When I think back about some great walks my wife and I have had I bring back some very fond memories. Like asking her to marry me while walking on a beach in Cancun. We stopped near a great big rock in the middle of the beach. It felt like we were miles away from anyone else. Yet, there were a few other people on the beach. Another memorable walk we had was walking/hiking up a mountain in Gatlinburg. It was so much fun. It was a warm spring day, we soon realized we should have worn heavier coats the higher up the mountain we got.

Now that we have looked at all the romantic and sentimental views of the walk, I will also let you in on a little secret. Shhhhhhhhh. A walk is great exercise. I kid you not. It is good for your heart and lungs. Not only are you enjoying each other’s company, but you are making your life a little longer by improving your health. Walks ROCK. So never be too busy no matter where you are to put one foot in front of the other. Venture out into nature or the city. You will see so much more than you will driving in your car, and you might have a few times to stop and kiss!

Birthday Sex Greeting - (Click her to go to The Smitten Kitten Shop)

Birthdays are a great time to get your partner and yourself into something new. Go out on a limb and get them something a little extra this birthday. Besides what ever you are planning to get them. Pick up something that will help spice up your relationship. Weather it be a book on improving your sex life, a sex toy or a relationship improving book. When you wrap up your present be sure to put a note inside that says "As good as we are, we can always get better". Now make sure you are alone when presenting this present, it's not the type of thing to give during the family get together.

An Idea I really like it to buy them a gift certificate to a store that sells sex toys and other merchandise. The only stipulation is that whatever they purchase has to be sent addressed to you. This alloys the person to pick out things alone that they might feel a little embarrassed to do right in front of you. It will also excite you wondering what they will pick out! Double Bonus!

Attached to the tittle is a link to the Smitten Kitten Website a great place to purchase any sexual items.

Shower Talks

Here's a little test in self control. Next time your partner is taking a shower, and you have the time, just slip into the bathroom, sit on the stool and talk with them. It is a big test of your self control because you know he/she is naked on the other side of the shower curtain, and you know you want to peak in on them (at least I know I want to see my wife.). Strike up a conversation about something other than your relationship; it could be about your kids, work, church, or anything other than them being naked. This exercise raises trust as your partner is naked and in a vulnerable state. You are trying to mind your Ps and Qs, and not just ripping open the shower curtain and attacking. To me this feels like when you used to talk on phone as a teenager. You were wondering what the other person was wearing or what he/she was doing at this point of day. Talk to your partner for a while, but make sure that once he/she is ready to get out of the shower and dry off you are out of the area. Give him/her some privacy. If you were in the middle of an in-depth conversation, make sure to pick it back up when he/she is finished. You can also do this activity while your partner takes a bath, shaves or grooms himself/herself in some fashion. Conversation is good for the relationship. If you can focus on the conversation when your partner is completely naked, then you have a sound foundation in your relationship. Special note: Don't try this while you are trying to be intimate. Think of intimate things to talk about during that time. Talking about your mother during sex is a real buzz kill. Focus on the task at hand in this situation. :-)

Now, head for the shower and some good conversation.

Arguments, yes they are OKAY!

Differences in a relationship are normal and healthy! They are not road blocks. They are what makes him, himself and her, herself. Look at all the couples you know, even the ones you think are exactly the same, and I bet if you look hard enough you will see differences. For example, a couple might love to go to art museums together, but they might not enjoy the exact same type of art, and that is okay. These differences allow us to communicate, debate, and even argue. If we were both the same our conversations would be boring. We would both just say things like "Ya, I like that too." There would never be any questions. So these differences keep us sane in my opinion.

I love to debate things. Listening to others opinions and then giving your opinions is a wonderful tool for getting to know someone even if you have been married to that person for 50 years. You can always learn something new about a person. My personal opinion is that the best relationships happen because the two people involved understand they are going to have different opinions, and they don't love each other any less because of them. Arguments are going to happen from time to time in a relationship, but the one thing I feel is important is before the argument ends both parties say I understand you have a different opinion, but I still love you. Always try to see the other person’s point of view, even if you think it is wrong. Sometimes in my experiences it seems like we go through stages where we can't agree on anything and it seems like we just take the opposite side just to aggravate our partner. But, if you look closely you see that isn't necessarily the case. When you take two individuals and make them a couple people assume that they must be a perfect match. The perfect match comes from the understanding of each other not from liking the same things.

When you truly love someone you understand what is important to them, and if that is what makes them happy, you just roll with it. Now take a look at your relationship. Spot the differences in the two of you. Write them down. Put her likes and his likes down on the paper. Look at the other person’s likes, and circle the ones you have interest in. Put an “X” by the ones you have no interest in at all. Both of you study the list, take a step back and then debate things. For example, he wants to go to the baseball game and you have put an x by that. Well that would be a great thing for him to do with his buddies. Okay now, look on your list for his Xs, and find one that you could do with your friends. Bingo! You do that one while he is at the game with his buds. Here is the important part - find one on either list that is circled. Obviously this is one that you both enjoy. Either the next day or even that evening make sure the two of you have time to share that experience.

Lastly, don't be afraid to argue. It is not the end of your relationship. It is just a heated debate. If you have to fear losing someone because you disagree, then maybe you should rethink your relationship anyway. Even when you are in an argument you should never go to bed mad at each other. Snuggle up and remember why you love this person. You may resume the argument in the morning, but while you are in bed forget about it.

Award your partner. (Click Here for Awards)

Does your partner deserve an award? I think if you look at your relationship, you will find something that your partner does great. When you find it reward her is a special loving cup. In the title line of this post is a link to a trophy place that has awards for as little as $5. Once you have found just the right award then have it engraved to show your partner your appreciation. Some suggestions might be "Awarded to the person who makes me laugh", "Presented to the person who puts up with my collection of beer cans" or "1st Place winner of all my love". Make it personal and make it a big deal when you present it to her. I don't think you need to call the media, but maybe a little applauds from you would be nice.