Time your foreplay!

Society today is so rushed. It seems like we rush from one thing to another. If you have kids then you add at least twice as much running into your schedule and usually more. Unfortunately we are also rushing in the bedroom. Our sex is hurried so that we can get to sleep and get up to start this cycle all over again.

Well it is time to break this cycle. I want the two of you to slow it down a little in your bedroom. Let's not rush the most passionate area in our relationship. This may sound a little silly but I want you to get one of those kitchen timers that dings when time is up. Now before you are ready for intimacy I want you to set it for at least 30 minutes. This is the amount of time I want you to spend on foreplay before intercourse takes place. No penetration can happen until the ding sounds on the timer. Spend time touching, kissing and licking each other up into a frenzy believe me this might seem a little strange at first but once the ding sounds and the actual intercourse starts you will be thanking me. The extra time spend stimulating each other will make your sex better then ever.

Now you might need to brush up a little on your foreplay. You don't want to spend 30 minutes just playing with nipples. Branch out and find the many erogenous zones on your partners body. Stroke different areas of the body and let your partner touch you in places you normal avoid. Experiment with the anus is has wonderful sensations for both men and women. Combine areas to create different sensations. Lick one area while you stimulate another area with your hands. I hope that this 30 minutes of foreplay will soon become a staple in your love making.

Feeling needed!

A wonderful feeling that accompanies romance is the feeling of being needed or helpful. Have you even felt this emotion? It can bring your soul up from the depths of dispare and make you feel like an important part of life. Now how can we work this feeling into romance? Thing about it can you make your partner feel needed, are there things in your life that it would be helpful if your partner participated in them. We all have a power struggle that makes us want to take care of everything yourself. Maybe you could ask your partner to help you do your taxes, or help you figure out the best exercises to be doing. The point of these things is to make them feel like not only you want them but that you need them in your life. There is not a single soul out there that doesn't like to know that they are needed. What better person in your life to express that to you than you partner. Sure both of you could live without the other person that is not the point and we don't want you to give up your Independence. We just want you to show your partner that they are important to you and not just an accessory in your life.

Want to pass some time? together!

Here is a nice thing to do if the two of you want to pass some time together. Find games that are for only one player and then play that game together. Games like solitaire, or computer games that require some thinking are great to put your minds together and work as a team. This is one of those things to see how well the two of you can work together without being something that is important. See how quickly you start to feed off of each other. If it is a game one partner doesn't understand take the time to teach them how to play and use all your patience as it brings the two of you closer together.

Olympics and Valentine's

With the winter olympics only happening every 4 years this is a great time to spend your Valentine's Day snuggled down with your partner watching the world on stage. Pick out your favorite events and follow them together. Now in another four years you have a specific thing to watch on Valentine's Day. You will build some wonderful memories and learn several new things as you watch the olympics. Spend your Valentine's Day full of chocolate hearts and gold medals. After all you can only do this every four years.

Last Chance.

Today is your last chance to get that perfect Valentine's day gift. The way the economy is now I totally understand if you don't have enough money to go out and purchase an expensive present. So if that is the case then you have to use your mind. Believe me, your partner will understand your financial woes and a heart felt gift is just as meaning full as anything when you are in financial straights. Some ideas might be fixing a candle light dinner, breakfast in bed, coupons for chores around the house, homemade card filled with your feelings, Renting a romantic movie and a bottle of cheap wine, a promise to do something later once your finances are in better shape, or even just a simple night of passion doing all the things your partner likes. It may sound silly but I thing these ideas show a lot more love then just going out a buying the most expensive thing you can find. Have a great Valentine's Day everyone and let me know any fun and exciting things you do to show your love for your partner. Drop me a line at romantincantics@gmail.com and fill me in.

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A special way to say I love you on Valentine's Day : Wear a thong

Nothing tells your partner your in the mood for a little loving like wearing a thong. Set up your show by finding a time where they will notice your thong and get their motor running. Bend over in front of them knowing that they will be checking out your rear end. Then make sure your thong is exposed and that is enough to get blood flowing for most people. Now when the opportunity arises remove your pants and let them enjoy the entire scenery making sure to put it right where they can see it. The rest is up to you but with any luck you won't be in that thong for long.