Do you have a sex night?

Several of today's relationship gurus believe that having a specific night for sex is a must for the majority of relationships. The consensus is that our lives are so busy that just letting sex happen leads to less sex in the relationship. We have heard for years that spontaneous sex is the best, but is it really? Not knowing what is going to happen or when doesn't seem to fit with today's busy lifestyle. Don't get me wrong if you are together and the feeling hits you don't deny it, and say well this isn't sex night.

I believe that sex night is a great idea. I think it could help build anticipation and lessen disappointment. If you know your going to have sex tonight, I believe that you would fantasize about it most of the day. You would work yourself up and the passion when you finally got to that point would be incredible.

Let me know if you have a sex night? I want to hear about how you picked that night and the reason. Maybe you have certain nights throughout the year that are also guarantied for sex. Let me know all your situations. I am very curious what the public thinks.

Make it a point to say something nice today!

Make it a point to say something nice today to everyone you come in contact with. Not only your partner, but your mother, brother, sister, neighbor, teacher, sitter, and the list goes on and on. By making it a habit to say something nice to everyone you meet, people begin to enjoy being around you. Saying "Did you lose weight" to your neighbor might just make her/his day. Telling the cashier at the store to have a nice day, might make their work day just a little brighter. These types of little statements can go a long way in brightening up someones day. If you brighten up someones day you are going to feel so much better.

Now you get double the points with your partner. For one they hear you say all those nice things to everyone else. This makes them see how wonderful you are to other people. Now when you say those things to your partner, not only do they know how wonderful you are but they also get the benefit of hearing something nice about themselves or just a nice statement in general.

You know it is really quite sad at how many people I know that can't say anything nice. It blows my mind to think, as I hear people being grumpy towards people they don't even know, that those words are the only thing that is popping into their heads right now. Sure we all have bad days but does that mean we should take them out on other? If your boss gets made at your should you go home and take it out on your family. The answer is no, if your struggling with that. Hopefully by getting in a pattern of saying nice things to people you can avoid the times when your down and say something that isn't how you really feel.

Always remember WORDS CAN HURT!

If you haven't seen the Free Hugs Video Here it is. This goes right along with what we are talking about. Also if you click the title of this post you can go to the free hugs website. Enjoy!

The Welcome Home Kiss

I know this may seem silly but do you give your partner a welcome home kiss every time they come home. Overkill, maybe but in talking with some people that lost a partner in a car accident or work related accident, I hear some resounding statements. "If I could have only kissed them one more time" or "I wish I would have told them I loved them one more time" are two I hear a lot. You never know what is going to happen, you just always assume that everything will be okay and normal. To me however I would better be safe then sorry. Sure no one wants to think morbid thoughts or plan for the worse. A kiss, hug, or special I love you, to me doesn't seem like that big of stretch? I mean if you can't do those things with your partner on an everyday basis then maybe their is more problems in your relationship then you think.

Starting today I want you to get in a routine of kissing your partner goodbye and hello. No they don't have to be a movie kiss, just a smooch on the lips (Not on the cheek, that's how you kiss your parents), followed by a quick I love you. Nothing more nothing less, then go about your business. Not only is this good for your relationship but it is great for your children to see and participate in. Most people have no problem doing this with their children why would it be difficult with your partner?

What is the Most Romantic Meal?

I have a big question for you. What is the most romantic meal a couple can have? I have debated this question for sometime now. I use to think an Italian meal with wine, spaghetti and meatballs was, but I think that is from the movie "Lady and the Tramp". Could it be seafood? It might be but so many people have allergic reactions to seafood, and that would not be romantic. How about a nice steak and potato? Well you knock out all the vegetarians with that one. So what is your most romantic meal. I want to hear what you think is the most romantic meal would be, so email these suggestions to me. I will use the most common meals and start a new survey on the side bar.

This will be a lot of fun to see what everyone thinks. I know I will get a lot of responses saying "Just being with my partner makes it romantic." Yeah, Yeah, Yeah we all know we need our partner for romance. I want to know with all that in place what type of food to you go out and get dress up for.

Remember Romantic thoughts are great but Romantic Actions take the cake.

Time to think?

Here is an exercise to get you thinking about your partner. Set a time at the beginning of day and when the clock reaches that time here what I want you to do. I want you to think about the most special thing your partner has done for you. Did they throw you a surprise party on your last birthday, did they buy you flowers for no reason, or cook you supper on a night you were tired. Maybe this thought is of how they helped you when you lost a loved one, or how they take care of the children so you can get some rest. I am sure if you start thinking you can come up with thousands of reasons to smile about your partner.

Now I know you and your partner at sometimes do something that might not make the other feel great. So thinking about them in a positive manner will help diminish those thoughts. We all can't be perfect and if we were the world would be a pretty boring place. So tonight honor your partner for these special things they do and let them pick the movie or you fix dinner for them. Just make sure they know you appreciate them. Appreciation goes a long way in a relationship and sometimes we overlook it.

Make a Movie Theater at Home!

Today life is so fast-paced that we seldom have time to take our sweetie to the movies. Either the times don't work out right or we don't have the hundreds of dollars it will take to purchase a ticket and snacks - Last time I went it was under a hundred, but let’s just use that as a general feeling. Nowadays, you can rent a movie not long after it has been in the theaters, and we have recently been downloading them from iTunes. I believe Netflicks has the downloading available also. It doesn't take much for us to get a movie and watch it on our time. We can pause it or stop it when we have things that arise like bathroom breaks or putting kids to sleep. But, just because we can’t find the time to attend the show at the theater doesn't mean we have to lose the ambiance.

Next time you get a movie to watch at home take some time and set up your own little theater in the family room. Move the couch around to sit right in front of the television. Make a trip to the local discount store and pick up all the snacks you would get at your local movie theater. They are much cheaper this way, and you usually get more for your money. Microwave some popcorn. You can even get some of those super humongous cups to get the real movie theater feel. Turn off all the lights in the house, and presto you have your own movie theater. You can even watch the previews at the start of the disc if you want to get a more authentic feeling. iTunes even carries trailers of movies that are not out in theaters yet.

Most movies have ratings like PG-13 or R. You need to decide what your theater rating will be! If you’re doing this with your children, you can use a G rating. Use pretend money and make tickets. The kids can use it to “purchase” their snacks and tickets. This is a good way to make sure they don't over do it on the snacks. Only give them enough play money to purchase a set amount of candy. If you want your theater to have a PG-13 rating you could invite all your teenage children’s friends over for a showing. Just get some extra folding chairs and presto you can create a teenager’s dream - all of their friends at the movies together. The R rated theater is probably just for the two of you (just depends on what you allow you kids to watch). Since the kids are probably in bed and no one else is in the theater let the make out session begin. Heck, if you know you won't have any interruptions, you can even slip into the X rating.

Do Something special for Breast Cancer (Click here to go to the PINK RIBBON website)

Whenever you get a change do something special for Breast Cancer. Nothing shows you care about the female population more then helping, donating, or marching for breast cancer. Thank goodness now a days their are some many ways you can help out. Men your partner will think you are so sweet by doing this and if you don't feel special about yourself then you are crazy.

Now it is not to hard to find a event that supports breast cancer and you can click on the title of this post above to go to the "PINK RIBBON" web site. At the pink ribbon web site they will give you plenty of details on how you can help or events that you can support. I am sure almost all of us have known someone that breast cancer has effected so it shouldn't be a stretch to help out.

Gentlemen another thing you should do is learn to give your partner a breast exam. They are simple and can detect the early stages of breast cancer. Your partner might think it a little silly but reassure them that it needs to be done once a month. Either you or you partner should do it at least once a month. You can even use it as foreplay if your partner is accepting of this, that way it serves two purposes.

Now ladies don't think this is all about helping you. Testicular cancer is another voe that needs to be taken care off. So you can learn to test the man in your life. The two of you should even set up a ritual once a month to do this. If you care at all about your partner it shouldn't be any problem. Below I have posted some posters on checking for breast and testicular cancer make sure you understand what to do before continuing. If you have any questions please consult your doctor they have a lot more information and means to get you help if you need it.