Touch your parnter somewhere you usually don't

Today I want you to touch your partner on a part of their body you usually don't touch. The inside of their elbow, or behind their knee any where be creative.

Buy a Big Fan

When the temperature is hot outside nothing proves your love more then buying a big fan. Don't be cheap and spring for a good fan. Think of it this way, your partner is not going to want to be really close to you if you are both sweaty. Ewwww. So purchase something with some power and if you don't have good air conditioning you might want to spring for a couple to set on both sides of your bed. Sleeping in the cool breeze is a lot better then sleeping in a hot stuffy room.

The gift of a good nights sleep

One thing that everyone lose is a great night of sleep. So often in today society we don't get enough sleep. But today you are going to take some steps to try to give you partner a great nights sleep. There are several ways to get people in the mood for a great night sleep. Many people believe that a warm glass of milk does the trick while other thing a little kahlua and milk will do the trick. Find out which makes your partner most relaxed and have the drink waiting on them just before bedtime. The next thing you need to incorporate is touch. Either a nice massage on the back or a light flowing touch works wonderful in adding extra relations for you partner to make them sleep better. Make sure all distractions are taken care of, like children, noises in the house, and keep the light dim until you turn them out completely. If you partner needs background noise such as a fan make sure to have that in place also. Sex also works to help some people sleep but this is hit or miss so don't count on it working unless they give the nod for it. Lastly make sure you are still while in the bed. If you flopping around like a fish they are not going to get any good sleep. Find a positions in which you can lay and touch them and doze off yourself, hopefully in the morning they will wake being refreshed and ready to thank you for the great night of sleep.

Find a small place with live Music

There is something romantic about sitting in a small place with a single performer playing. It screams romance. The beauty of the situation is that you have some great background music and you can still have a in depth conversation. This is great for a first date also as it gives you a starting point of conversation as you discuss the music the artists is playing. The atmosphere at someplace like this is usually relaxed and allows you to feel more comfortable. Some of these artists might even take request from the audience.

Do a little research into the kind of music that will be played, you can ask someone that works at the venue they will usually have a good idea. Also find a place that has some character and has been in business a while, that way you know what you will be getting. Newer places are still trying to find their market so they might have different types of performers each night. When all else fails look for a place that plays the blues.

Okay you have the formula, now go out and find your little hole in the wall. Soon you will be staring into each others eyes while someone strums on a beat up guitar. Sipping drinks and having good conversation what more can you ask for?

Special thanks to Lorenzo Stupid Kid AKA... for the creative commons picture.

Back Off

Sometimes in a relationship it is tough to know when you need to be helpful and when you need to back off. Try and always listen to your partner they will tell you if they need space of not. Now sometime they will say they want space and not really mean it. This is where it gets tricky. You have to read the signs for example if they are mad at you and need space, give it to them. If something tragic happened in their life, they might need some space but don't get to far away. Every situation is different and so is everyone else, some people need more space then others.

Now that I think I have confused you, let me lay this on you. If you are one of those people that need space and your partner is the opposite then you have a challenge ahead of yourself. You have to find a way to get your space and be there for you partner at the same time. I didn't say it was going to be easy. You have to find that fine line in either situation and try to balance yourself on it. We don't want you to compromise your values but we don't want you to hurt someone else's feelings either. Especially if that other person is the one you love.

Fathers Day and Romance.

Happy Fathers Day for all you fathers out there. I know we don't normally associate fathers day with romance. However, I feel there should be time for romance everyday. Tonight save the romance for later tonight and spend the day with your family. I know this is fathers day but the whole family needs to be involved. So go on a bike ride together, watch a family friendly movie, go out to dinner (Dad's Pick), take in a ballgame or just have a great big BBQ. Remember this is fathers day, so dads use and abuse that fact. No cooking for you, sit back and enjoy your day.

Don't be afraid of Vibrators.

I think in today's society most people understand that sex toys are an aid to a better sex life. However their are still some of you out there that think a vibrator is a replacement for a penis. Silly men, while a vibrator helps women achieve orgasm you do not see women going around marring vibrators. You should embrace her when she decides that a little extra excitement in the bedroom is a good idea. Using a vibrator will help her relax and helps get her ready for sex with you. Most women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm so a vibrator can be a man's best friend. You may be scratching you head but think about it. If a woman can reach her climax she is most likely going to make sure you reach yours. Just as men enjoy being stimulated visually a woman needs foreplay to get stimulated in most cases. As always there are exceptions but the averages follow this mold.

If you are still scared here is some more things to make you feel better about having a vibrator in your relationship. Vibrators don't hold her after sex, vibrators don't call out her name when they are cumming, vibrators don't work by themselves, vibrators don't swell as they get excited, and finally when she wants dirty talk all a vibrator can do is hum. So get out there today and if she doesn't have a vibrator already, order one. I have put a link to Good Vibrations in the title post that has a wide variety of simulators for women. Hey don't feel left out they have some for men, too.

Pictured above is the laya vibrator available at good vibrations. Make sure to check out all their products I am sure you can find something for both of you there.