Say her name... or his if the case maybe.

Will all get in the habit of calling our partner something other then their name. You know we posted just the other day about pet names. Nothing makes us feel more complete with our partner then hearing them say our name. Just in everyday life use their name more often. Don't answer you phone "Hey babe" or say "Sweetie can you get me a drink." Take one day and try to use their name every time you address them. My theory on this is that we want to know are partner is in touch with us. Not using a slang term like sweetie or baby that could be used for anyone, will make your partner feel you are personalizing every statement.

Not only should you practice this in everyday life, you should also use it in your intimate life. It drives me nuts to hear my name as my partner reaches orgasm. I know that one is a little tough but instead honey, baby, or calling out to god, use your partners name and tell them what is happening. I believe that this only makes your sex life better. Practice it when you masturbate with your partner just as your about to climax, scream out their name. See what kind of reaction that gets out of them.

Steamy Mirror Notes (click here to see a steamy application for the iphone)

Next time your lover is in the shower slip in a leave them a little note. It helps if they take an extremely hot shower. Use the mirror and write a note on it using the steam the shower has created. You have to be quick because if you do it to soon then the shower will steam it over. I suggest trying to time it to just when they shut the shower off. Slip out of the bathroom and you won't be able to see them smile as the read the message. You will however most likely be able to sense it.

Fourtune Cookie

Here is a cute idea that you can take in many directions. Replace the message in a fortune cookie to say something more personal. Depending on the situation you can put any kinds of message inside. If you are just starting to date you can tell the other person how much you like them, you could ask someone to marry you, you could give them words of encouragement, or you could make it a sexy message to get their blood pumping. What ever way you go this idea is sure to get you noticed.

There several ways to get your fortune into those cookies. The first is to make your own cookies, and place your message inside each one. This method is time consuming and if your not good in the kitchen I would not suggest it. The next one is to purchase the cookies from a place that allows you to write your own fortunes. If you like this idea click on the title of this post and go to a site that allows this. The next way is to get the cookies and steam them. They should soften up and be able to open to remove the fortune and replace it with one of yours. My tried and true method is to just get some tweezers and pull out the normal fortune and shove my inside the cookie. It doesn't look as good but it is the quickest way. If you inside a restaurant this is what I would suggest you do. Do it when your partner goes to the restroom or gets up to get more food.

When you plan out your message give it a little Chinese flare. So instead of saying "You are Beautiful" say "The beauty of nature pales in comparison to you". Instead of saying "Will you Marry me?" Say "It is with great pride that I ask you to walk with me forever". Last but not least instead of saying "You wanna make love to me?" say "It would be an honor for you to let me enter you (from the front or the rear)" Sorry I had to throw a little humor into it. With that don't always make it serious sometimes we need to laugh and this is a great way to break some tension.

So go out get some fortune Cookies and start with your own ancient Chinese secrets.

Pet Names - They are just for the bedroom you know!

Pet names can go both ways. They can increase your intimacy or the can seem like they make you want to vomit. For starters don't use them in public, no one else wants to know you call your partner cupcake or snookie okums. These type of name are meant to stay between the two of you. Try to pick something that is not related to sweets or porn stars. For example Mistress Sugar Bottom might be a little too weird for anyone. Ladies if you are going to give you man a pet name make sure it sounds macho. No man no matter what kind of problems he has wants to be called Mr. Softy, or Small fry. Here are some examples to chose from: Stallion, Tarzan, Muscle Man, Hunk, Incredible Hulk, or if nothing at all just call us Huge. We will be happy.

I want to hear some of your unusual pet names so comment on this post and let me know.

This is what my grandmother would call me. Not what I want to be called in the middle of sex!

If you need help with a pet name click the title of this post to go to a site that will help you?

Now let me pull a rabbit out of my hat..

Here is an idea to help the two of you decide what to do. One day get together and put all the things you like to do down on slips of paper. Make one pile for places to eat, one for things to do, and one for intimacy levels. The first pile of place to eat should be a complete list of places you have eaten in the past year. The second pile should be a complete list of thing you love to do weather together or not. The third pile is the intimacy level and it should include four different cards. The first should say low level intimacy, the second warm level intimacy, the third hot level intimacy and the fourth should say steamy intimacy.

Next find, or go purchase and item such as a hat to mix the papers up in. Now the next time either one of you says "What do you want to do" head over to your hats and draw one paper from each hat. First one will tell you where to go eat that night, the second will obviously tell you what you will be doing, and the third will tell you the intimacy level you will be having this night.

In the intimacy department I would like to clarify my feelings on the levels. You can set your own but hers is my take. Low level would be taking a walk holding hands, maybe a night out slow dancing, usually low levels of intimacy would take place in public. Warm level intimacy to me would be snuggling down on the couch, kissing, building a fire and enjoying some wine in front of it. Now with the hot level we would begin to incorporate sex into our equation. Hot level to me would include slowly making love to each other, romantic naked massages, and passionate kisses. Once we hit the steamy level their are no holds bard, to me this includes, role play, maybe a little bondage, oral sex, and of coarse trying some different positions. Again you can set your own levels. Just make sure they hit all levels of intimacy.

Now here is the kicker once you pick a paper out it cannot go back into the mix until the hat is empty. No exceptions, you have to experience all the levels to truly appreciate all of them.

Confidence, confidence, confidence!

Guys here is a secret that woman want you to know. They love it when you have confidence in yourself. They love it when you make decisions and have the air about you. Now don't take this over the top. Today's woman doesn't want a caveman beating her over the head. She does however want you to speak up and tell what's on your mind. Believe me it saves so much time when you are on a date. You know how you spend several minutes going "What do you want to do", "I don't know what do you want to do" Instead of doing this just blurt out a suggestion and go from there. Believe me if she doesn't want to do what you suggest, she will tell you.

Confidence in the bedroom is also a big turn on. Try different thing and let her tell you if she likes them or not. The problems arises when you ask her what she wants. If she tells you something then she has to wonder how you are gonna view her based on this. Play around a little and as your relationship progresses the communication can and should get better. Never assume your partner is going to just yell out what they want. It doesn't work that way. Believe me sometimes you both want the same things but both are afraid to start the ball rolling. My wife and I had one of these moments just a few weeks ago. We did something a little different then we usually do. Then in discussing it later we found out we both have wanted to try it for a while now but were afraid to ask.

Confidence is a big boost even if you fail, with confidence on your side at least you tried. Confidence makes you stand up taller, look better, feel better, and sexier!!! So get confident today. If you need assistance you might look for some assertiveness training to help you out. It can be a big change for a person and might take some time to accomplish. So don't delay get confident today.

Grilling Out!

It is getting close to being a great time to grill outside. Many people find firing up the grill a important part of summer. Here is how we are going to make it romantic. Pick out your partners favorite dish, be it chicken, steak, or seafood. Now start searching the Internet for different recipes for this dish. Pick something easy but that looks really hard to make. Big Oven is a great source or recipes for the beginning chef or the advanced. Next head down to the liquor store and pick up a nice bottle of wine, Sangria during the summer is exspecially tasty. Finally let your partner sit back and enjoy the sun as you prepare the meal for them. Pour them a glass of your beverage and make sure to check on them from time to time as you cook. Turn on some music to set a great mood and if you have some special friends invite them over. Either the men or women can take turns planning and preparing the meal, you could even make it a ritual like every other Sunday during the summer. After the meal is cooked and done make sure you get a little time to relax and enjoy the day also.