The Welcome Home Kiss

I know this may seem silly but do you give your partner a welcome home kiss every time they come home. Overkill, maybe but in talking with some people that lost a partner in a car accident or work related accident, I hear some resounding statements. "If I could have only kissed them one more time" or "I wish I would have told them I loved them one more time" are two I hear a lot. You never know what is going to happen, you just always assume that everything will be okay and normal. To me however I would better be safe then sorry. Sure no one wants to think morbid thoughts or plan for the worse. A kiss, hug, or special I love you, to me doesn't seem like that big of stretch? I mean if you can't do those things with your partner on an everyday basis then maybe their is more problems in your relationship then you think.

Starting today I want you to get in a routine of kissing your partner goodbye and hello. No they don't have to be a movie kiss, just a smooch on the lips (Not on the cheek, that's how you kiss your parents), followed by a quick I love you. Nothing more nothing less, then go about your business. Not only is this good for your relationship but it is great for your children to see and participate in. Most people have no problem doing this with their children why would it be difficult with your partner?

What is the Most Romantic Meal?

I have a big question for you. What is the most romantic meal a couple can have? I have debated this question for sometime now. I use to think an Italian meal with wine, spaghetti and meatballs was, but I think that is from the movie "Lady and the Tramp". Could it be seafood? It might be but so many people have allergic reactions to seafood, and that would not be romantic. How about a nice steak and potato? Well you knock out all the vegetarians with that one. So what is your most romantic meal. I want to hear what you think is the most romantic meal would be, so email these suggestions to me. I will use the most common meals and start a new survey on the side bar.

This will be a lot of fun to see what everyone thinks. I know I will get a lot of responses saying "Just being with my partner makes it romantic." Yeah, Yeah, Yeah we all know we need our partner for romance. I want to know with all that in place what type of food to you go out and get dress up for.

Remember Romantic thoughts are great but Romantic Actions take the cake.

Time to think?

Here is an exercise to get you thinking about your partner. Set a time at the beginning of day and when the clock reaches that time here what I want you to do. I want you to think about the most special thing your partner has done for you. Did they throw you a surprise party on your last birthday, did they buy you flowers for no reason, or cook you supper on a night you were tired. Maybe this thought is of how they helped you when you lost a loved one, or how they take care of the children so you can get some rest. I am sure if you start thinking you can come up with thousands of reasons to smile about your partner.

Now I know you and your partner at sometimes do something that might not make the other feel great. So thinking about them in a positive manner will help diminish those thoughts. We all can't be perfect and if we were the world would be a pretty boring place. So tonight honor your partner for these special things they do and let them pick the movie or you fix dinner for them. Just make sure they know you appreciate them. Appreciation goes a long way in a relationship and sometimes we overlook it.

Make a Movie Theater at Home!

Today life is so fast-paced that we seldom have time to take our sweetie to the movies. Either the times don't work out right or we don't have the hundreds of dollars it will take to purchase a ticket and snacks - Last time I went it was under a hundred, but let’s just use that as a general feeling. Nowadays, you can rent a movie not long after it has been in the theaters, and we have recently been downloading them from iTunes. I believe Netflicks has the downloading available also. It doesn't take much for us to get a movie and watch it on our time. We can pause it or stop it when we have things that arise like bathroom breaks or putting kids to sleep. But, just because we can’t find the time to attend the show at the theater doesn't mean we have to lose the ambiance.

Next time you get a movie to watch at home take some time and set up your own little theater in the family room. Move the couch around to sit right in front of the television. Make a trip to the local discount store and pick up all the snacks you would get at your local movie theater. They are much cheaper this way, and you usually get more for your money. Microwave some popcorn. You can even get some of those super humongous cups to get the real movie theater feel. Turn off all the lights in the house, and presto you have your own movie theater. You can even watch the previews at the start of the disc if you want to get a more authentic feeling. iTunes even carries trailers of movies that are not out in theaters yet.

Most movies have ratings like PG-13 or R. You need to decide what your theater rating will be! If you’re doing this with your children, you can use a G rating. Use pretend money and make tickets. The kids can use it to “purchase” their snacks and tickets. This is a good way to make sure they don't over do it on the snacks. Only give them enough play money to purchase a set amount of candy. If you want your theater to have a PG-13 rating you could invite all your teenage children’s friends over for a showing. Just get some extra folding chairs and presto you can create a teenager’s dream - all of their friends at the movies together. The R rated theater is probably just for the two of you (just depends on what you allow you kids to watch). Since the kids are probably in bed and no one else is in the theater let the make out session begin. Heck, if you know you won't have any interruptions, you can even slip into the X rating.

Do Something special for Breast Cancer (Click here to go to the PINK RIBBON website)

Whenever you get a change do something special for Breast Cancer. Nothing shows you care about the female population more then helping, donating, or marching for breast cancer. Thank goodness now a days their are some many ways you can help out. Men your partner will think you are so sweet by doing this and if you don't feel special about yourself then you are crazy.

Now it is not to hard to find a event that supports breast cancer and you can click on the title of this post above to go to the "PINK RIBBON" web site. At the pink ribbon web site they will give you plenty of details on how you can help or events that you can support. I am sure almost all of us have known someone that breast cancer has effected so it shouldn't be a stretch to help out.

Gentlemen another thing you should do is learn to give your partner a breast exam. They are simple and can detect the early stages of breast cancer. Your partner might think it a little silly but reassure them that it needs to be done once a month. Either you or you partner should do it at least once a month. You can even use it as foreplay if your partner is accepting of this, that way it serves two purposes.

Now ladies don't think this is all about helping you. Testicular cancer is another voe that needs to be taken care off. So you can learn to test the man in your life. The two of you should even set up a ritual once a month to do this. If you care at all about your partner it shouldn't be any problem. Below I have posted some posters on checking for breast and testicular cancer make sure you understand what to do before continuing. If you have any questions please consult your doctor they have a lot more information and means to get you help if you need it.

Help, I need somebody!

Looking for someone to help you with a problem or question about your relationship. Well I am willing to offer my opinion on your subject. Drop me a line and I will privately get back with you. Maybe I can shed some light on something you had not thought about. If I can help, I will.

Rob

Girls on Film (Boys too)

Do you think your partner is beautiful? I would venture to say most of you do. So make her feel beautiful as her if you can take some pictures of her/him. Today's cameras being digital make it easy to take lots of pictures. You don't have to send them out to get them developed and you can print them out on your standard computer, or you can download them to digital devices. You can store your pictures on your computer, phone, ipod, or another device with storage capability.

Now you have no excuses go out and take as many pictures of your partner as you camera will hold. Then let them help you pick out the best ones. Believe me this is a great idea because you don't want a picture of your partner on you phone and it be one that they think is ugly. Have them do a little posing, get a little silly, pictures with people laughing are always better then trying smile on your own.

Since your pictures are digital and no one else will see them. You can even take some pictures that are a little more provocative if you both are willing. The point being you can take some great pictures of you partner to use as keep sakes for the long haul. If you have a tripod and a timer on your camera you can even take pictures of the two of you together. Those are always nice to have around. So get to clicking.