Just be Naked!

Here is something to try sometime when you need to shock your partner. Sometime when you are home alone. Do something you normally do naked! You heard me do some of you everyday chores or routine naked. You will definately shock your partner and hopefully get them thinking about what they would like to do with you naked. What would your partner think if they come home and find you doing the laundry naked, or washing dishes. How about reading the sunday paper in the buff or exercising. The important part of the shock value of this is not to act like you are doing anything unnatural. Just keep doing what you are doing as the questions start coming. Tell them you were hot or that you just didn't want to put on clothes yet. Heck maybe they will even join you.

A caution should be place here. Don't do anthing that will get you arrested, for example don't go out and water the lawn in your birthday suit. Keep it within your house and under closed blinds. Another word of warning if you try this make sure you are up for the advances of your partner. You are wanting to get a reaction from them and that reaction will most likely be sexual. So make sure you are ready to recieve.

Lastly do things that are safe to do naked. Frying bacon would not be a great thing to do naked. So use some common sense and protect what you normally have covered up.

Give your partner a little playfulness at an unusual time.

Do you have events that just drive you mad. Maybe a family reunion, or a fundraiser that just seem to be so tense. Well if you find yourself at one of these type of events I have a suggestion to ease the tension a little. Give your stressed out partner a little playfulness. You might be shrugging your shoulders at this moment. Now let me explain. Nothing relaxes the mood of a situation as something your partner is not suspecting. Now you have to be very tactful about this, find a quite place, and don't do this out where anyone else can see. Women as you walk by your partner grab his penis or ass, don't say a word and just keep moving past. Men the same for you grab her ass or swipe her breast, no words just the action. Then act like nothing happened. Reject any advances they might make with one word, Later.

Now what have you done? Well you have taken their mind off the stressful situation and made them think about what you have in mind later. Plus they know that you understand their frustrations and are turned on by their attempts of making the event great. Now when you get them home you have to follow through on your earlier dealings. Don't even let them say anything about it before you act. Tell them how sexy they looked during the event and how turned on you were by them in that situation. After you show your appreciation suggest some of your favorite charities or events they might want to get involved in. You just might have found someone to volunteer based on your playfulness.

Recreating Dates

Do you have a special date that you still remember - one that stands out from most of the rest of your dates? Well, I think it is time to recreate that date. Sit down and write all the things you can remember about that special date. It might be the date your partner asked you to marry him/her or your first date. It doesn't matter. Try to remember the little things such as what songs did you hear, who did you see, were there any other people with you. Obviously, the big ones will be where did you go or at what restaurant did you eat. Sit down with all your information and start to put the events in order to the best of your recollection. You might have some challenges. It may be that the place you went for dinner is now out of business or the bar you went to is now a Starbucks. If some of these changes make it impossible to recreate the exact date, then use a substitute. If the dinner was at a pizza joint that is no longer around, just substitute another pizza place. You might want to scope out some places to find the one that most reminds you of the one from the past. Once you have all of your pieces together and places picked out it's time to ask your special someone out. Ask him/her if he/she remembers the date where you two did this and that. If he/she doesn't, don’t worry. Just tell him/her it is a date you remember, and hopefully, it will jog his/her memory once it begins. On the night of your date actually pick him/her up. You get ready first and then go drive around or something until the correct time to pick him/her up. It sounds kind of corny, but do you remember the butterflies in your stomach standing on the porch knocking on the door. Once he/she answers the door you are now back in time and on that date all over again. Enjoy it for the second time. I know some couples that have been doing this for a long time.

One that I know goes to the same restaurant, where he purposed to her, on their anniversary every year. I also know a couple that met at a concert, and whenever that band is anywhere in the area they make sure to go see them (It's great that they let some of the bands out of the old folks home long enough to put on a show or two). I have also heard of people going to sporting events to recreate dates, parks, doing the same vacations, the list goes on and on. I actually have some friends that go to the same hotel every year and even get the same room, they book it a year in advance before they check out.

This might all sound silly to some of you, but remembering your past good feelings never hurts a relationship, and this is a great way to rekindle anything you might have lost since that special date.

Can you believe we have hit 60 Post! / The Mindful Couple (Click here to see the book)

You know you are enjoying yourself when you are doing something and you don't realize how long you have been doing it. Our last post was our 60th I am very proud of what we are doing here. We are hopefully helping couples learn and understand each other better. I try to reach a broad area of topics from dating to sex, household chores to nights on the town. I do this because they all make up a great relationship. You can't just have sex all the time and have a great relationship, however in my opinion you can't have a great relationship with it either. My take on relationships is they must have a balance, you need everything to make it complete. If there are any parts missing that is where you get into trouble.

I would like to suggest a book for everyone to ready called "The Mindful Couple" by Robyn D. Walsher, PHD and Darrah Westrup, PHD. This books is one of the best ones I have read on relationships. It doesn't give you step by step instructions it gives you insight into the workings of relationships. I must say I have looked at things a little differently since reading it. You can go to the publishers web site by clicking the title of this post and I will put it in the amazon bar on the side. So if you go and buy this book not only will you help out your relationship you will also be helping out Romantic Antics for Men (and Women, too)

Don't for Anniversaries or Birhtdays.

Just a note to everyone DON'T FORGET ANNIVERSARIES OR BIRTHDAYS. Nothing says I could care less about you then forgetting these important dates. Now a days you have no excuse for forgetting either. You can program it into your cell phone, computer, iPod, television, and even your alarm clocks. So there is absolutely no reason, with the exception of amnesia, for you to forget. You can only use the amnesia excuse once anyway. Now do whatever it takes to remember these events.

One a side note make sure you don't celebrate these events on the wrong day either. My mom once called me and sang Happy Birthday to me, when it was my sisters birthday. She was quick with an excuse though saying she miss dialed the phone. Good one mom. We get a good laugh about it now, however.

Remember these days are special for a reason. You need to put effort and time into them. I understand sometimes they don't fall at the best times. So that is when you have to let your partner know that you will be celebrating later. You don't have to spend a lot of money on these special occasions like the old adage "It's the thought that counts" Heck a card and a back rub works wonders.

Laugh Together!!! (Click her to go to ABC website to find funny stuff)

I know it sounds silly but the benefits of laughing are well documented. Yes laughing actually improves your health and helps you live longer. What better person then your partner to share some good belly laughs with. I would have to suggest America's Funniest Videos to get you started. If you can't find that on TV you might just go to YouTube and search for items the two of you would find funny. Items to search might include: people falling down, funny dogs or cats, or just type in funny and see what you get. Other sources could be look for comedy shows or search for old clips of things you know are funny.

Funny has been around for a long time, I mean look at some old Three Stooges videos. I am sure it was around even longer ago. I can imagine a caveman getting chased by a dinosaur and his buddies laughing at him.

A newer show that might bring about so laughs would be Wipe Out! If you have a favorite show that makes you laugh let me know about it. One thing I love to do is laugh so I should live forever.

The Double Date

Stop for a moment. I already hear you sighing, "Not a double date". I know all the feelings you’re going through. Maybe you can't stand her friends and she wants to strangle yours, and you don't want to waste an evening listening to either one of them. You don't want to be stuck without transportation, and what if you can't agree on anything to do. Well stop whining. First of all, both of you need your friends. This is very true, and maybe they won't make the best double date candidates. It is time to find some friends that fit with your relationship. Couples that have another couple that they are close to can make a special bond that might last a lifetime. Look around there might be a couple closer then you think that you would enjoy spending time with. Look for common interests. If you have children, look for parents of your children’s friends. They most likely will be close to your age, and obviously, if they take interest in their children, you will end up at a lot of the same functions.

When you find a couple that seems to fit the bill, ask them to do something in a group setting such as having a BBQ or joining you at a friend’s party. That way you can see if you get along outside of you other realms. Find something you can pair off with them and do. At a BBQ you might play ladder ball or horse shoes with the other couple to see how they interact with you. After spending some time with them get with your partner and see what she/he thinks about them. If both of you don't agree, then start over again looking for another couple to hang with. If you both seem to like spending some time with them then maybe it is time to see if they would like to go to dinner with you or to a local bar or coffee house. Find out about each other and what your likes and dislikes are. This will help you find something else you can do together sometime.

Having another couple you can count on is a big plus. If you get to know each other well, you could even help each other out in other ways - such as, taking turns watching the kids so you can have a night out. Maybe sometime you would need their help in an emergency situation. If you don't have any family around, they could keep an eye on your house while you were on vacation. Yes, the double date is a pain sometimes, but sometimes it can lead to a great relationship that will last a lifetime.

There are some web sites out now that match couples up to do things just like the dating sites, make sure you are extra careful if you want to use one. Make sure that everyone knows what you are expecting. You don't want to be sitting with a couple of swingers asking when you are going to swap unless you’re into that. If you have a couple that you are already friends with, you are lucky because they can be a great source of help no matter what you need them for. It's like having extra family around.