How deep is your Love?

Do you really know the person you love? I am sure you have a pretty good idea of who your partner is now, but do you know what they were like before you knew them. I am not talking about a week before you knew them. I am looking at the time when they were a child or a young adult. This is going to take some doing on your part. You will have to find some people that knew them when they were this other person, that you didn't know. You can find out things like what their favorite toy was or how they acted in high school. Where they in any clubs or activities they participated in that might be something the two of you could do together. Maybe they were on the cycling team and you could start riding bikes together. Things like that could make a big impact on your relationship. I could also give you some ideas for gifts or things to do to cheer up your partner in bad times. Knowing a little background can never hurt your relationship. Once you partner knows you took the time to find a little more out about them they will think a little higher of you. A really good place to find out things is during family gathering, where uncles and aunts as well as cousins will definitely be willing to let you know the history of your partner.

A gift for the Men.

Ladies here is a little guide to help you purchase a gift for your man. I understand that not every man is the same so you might have to tailor your gift to your specific man. Here in my opinion are you never miss gifts. Number one is electronics most men love to get a new gadget and their are plenty of them to choose from. Number two is Sports Tickets most men like some sort of sports so pick his favorite team and surprise him with great seats. Last and the never fail item is some great sex. Purchase some great lingerie and treat him like he is a king at least for a day. If he doesn't like that then he is nuts. Maybe you can do something he is been dieing for you to do for a while, that will make his night even more special. Any of the gifts mentioned above will work wonders on showing your man how much you care about him.

Mark those Anniversaries.

One thing that will definitely show how romantic you are is to make sure you celebrate anniversaries. If you are in a new relationship it may sound a little silly. Showing someone that the days you met or your remember your first date will definitely impress your partner. Big anniversaries like the ones associated with weddings are a no brainer, if you don't remember them then you have a problem and your partner will most likely let you know that. However if you can just get a little care on the anniversary of your first date, you will get mega brownie points. For those of you about to embark on your first date with someone and you even remotely hit it off, make notes of the date. Write down things like what they were wearing, songs that you heard, the place that you ate, then in a couple of years if you are still together that will be very impressive. Don't trust your memory, it can fail you when you need it.

One the other hand don't over due it. That will only make you look like a weirdo. If you give them a card for the first time you took a walk together you partner might be wondering why they are with you in the first place. For the major anniversaries go all out and if you are on a fixed budget then work around it. Where there is a will there is a way. Get cheap flowers at the discount store and put them in a special vase, cook them a special meal, or just go on a long hand in hand walk. Those are the things that are important in a relationship. Sure jewelry and sports tickets are nice but they are fleeting but gazing into someones eyes at a sunset last forever.

Keep the Peace!

I understand some of you are in a new relationship and that maybe you haven't had any disagreements, yet! Well they are coming let me tell you. If you think that you will not have an argument at any time then you live in la la land and need to get help. Actually disagreements or fights are good for a relationship, after they are over you realize that you can disagree and still love each other. This is where a lot of people get confused. They think that because their partner doesn't agree with them they are doomed. Think about it this way do you stop being friends with your best friend because they like a different sports team then you? or they don't order the same meal as you? Differences are great in a relationship so embrace them and know that is what helps you keep your identity in the relationship.

When you do have that big blow up you need to know when it is time to let it go. Things can get heavy and I have seen couples not speak to each other for days. This is the silliest thing I have ever seen. A relationship can overcome a lot but you have to know when it is time to give up on standing your ground. Think about is your view more important then your relationship. Realize it is okay to have different opinions. Compromise if neither one of you can be swayed, it's not hard people, you just have to give a little. If you partner is important to you that shouldn't be that hard to do.

Keeping the Peace is a challenge sometimes, I will not kid you. It is however worth the struggles and effort to not let little differences keep your relationship from being it's best. Know that it is okay to fight all couples do it from time to time but just know when it is time to lay down the guns and hug each other.

Create a mood

We are so focused on the outcome of our dates and time together that we very seldom try to enhance our evenings. We rush around so much that we forget the maybe a little more time setting a mood might help in our romantic life. I am sure everyone is thinking right now about putting some candles in the bedroom or lighting a fire in the fireplace. Those are great mood setters but they are the common ones. I am going to challenge you, as I so often do, to create some non-traditional moods. Don't sweat it, I am going to give you some examples for you to feed off of.

Intimacy is a great place to set a mood. I want you to start way earlier though, in your date or evening together. The example I am going to use is to set a Mexican mood. Start out by cooking or going to a place that serves Mexican food. At home get some salsa and chips and whip up a Mexican feast. You can find all kinds of Mexican dishes on any recipe web page. If you go out make sure it isn't Taco Bell, go to a nice Mexican restaurant where they play music and have the place decorated just right. Now once you get home you can continue the mood by getting Mexican oriented movies, some that pop into my mind are Funny Cheech and Chong movies, or the Brad Pitt move The Mexican. Now for the fun part make sure to find some sombreros and Mexican blankets to spread out in your bedroom. Completing the night of Mexican mood. Also you can find some traditional Mexican music to play while you get intimate. You might get bonus point if you can speak Spanish. Imagine yourself make love while wearing a sombrero and shouting things out in Spanish.

Here is a second option. If you partner is into science fiction movies. You could rent a full night of the Star Wars Saga or which ever movie he or she is into. Then when it came time for the intimacy you could dress as a character form the movie. I know lots of men that have the princess lea fantasy. Personalize it to your partners favorite character. You could even get the Star Wars theme song to play in the back ground for the main event. Imagine....

Yes I am Horny

Okay you are in a relationship or if your not this information can be helpful later. We have heard it a hundred times about how important communication is in a relationship. Well they are usually talking about everyday life and things that upset you that your partner does. Well you need to let your partner know also about your sexual feelings. You know when you would really like to jump their bones, or shower with them, or anything that might strike your fancy. Now this doesn't mean they have to oblige you right away. Sex is a two way street and both partner need to be in the mood. However, you can let your partner know what turns you on or something you would like to try without fear of being called a pervert. Like I said earlier this is a two way street and if your partner is not letting you know about their feelings then you are getting short changed. Take a bold move and tell your lover you would like them to be more aggressive. There are going to be somethings that they are not comfortable with and you have to understand that, however you can compromise on about anything. In closing I just want to say it is okay to tell your partner you are horny or excited, just don't get upset if they are not in the mood to reciprocate your feelings at the current time. Remember also when they let their feeling be known that they are speaking form their desires.

Brown Bag it!

There is no doubt in this time that finances are tough. We all need to squeeze as much as we can out of our fund. One thing that can save you a lot of money is to brown bag it or take your lunch to work. You might be thinking at this point, "How is taking your lunch to work, romantic?" Well it's not but wouldn't you rather use that cash to take your partner to dinner or to buy them a great present? Let your partner know that you are trying to save up for a trip or something special for the two of you and I am sure they will help you pack your lunch a time or two. Depending on where you live not purchasing lunch out could save you as much as seven or eight dollars a day. Start adding that up and see how quickly you might get to the cruise. Another benefit is that you can eat a little more healthy and not as much. Not only are you saving for something special for you and your sweety but you are also improving your health and possibly losing some weight. Now when people make fun of you at work and ask if you mom packed your lunch, don't get mad, just think of them when you are enjoying your reward.