Whats your self image?

One of the biggest reasons people tend to shy away from sexual activities, is their self image. They feel like they don't look the models they see on the men's fitness magazines or on the cover of Vogue. Because of this defeating self image, they make sure the lights are out when they undress and can't understand why their partner wants to watch them. These types of actions can really hurt a relationship. As the partner that wants to see your body feels like you don't want to show it to him/her. Believe me 99.9% of the people in these world do not have they body of a model.

Here is where we start improving your self image. Number one is you have to be comfortable with yourself. Understand that you have the body that was given to you and you have to deal with it. As long as you feel comfortable then no one else matters. Second start exercising, even it is only walking to work, it will make you feel better and help your overall health. Third, treat yourself like a god/goddess. Treat yourself to indulges that make you feel good. Finally, understand that when you partner says they think you are beautiful, they truly do see you as beautiful. Think about it this way if your in a committed relationship and your partner is telling you how beautiful you are, they are not just saying that to get in your pants.

Now I want you to throw your shoulders back and say to yourself, "I am Wonderful" and carry that feeling with you everywhere you go. The next time you and your lover are about to get it on let them see how beautiful you are and leave the light on. Watch their eyes and you will truly see how beautiful you are to them.

Special thanks to Slushpup for the picture from flickr

Get some new sheets

Yesterday we talked about what to do with your stuffed animals during sex. Today we are going to talk about sheets for your bed. Most people have a least a couple of different types of sheets for their bed. If you don't then you are missing a valuable romantic trick to use. Everyone knows that silk sheets are sexy but their are some many other feelings you can get from a fresh set of sheets. Warm flannel sheets work great in the winter time to help get the two of you snuggling. Soft cotton sheets are great for the hot summer nights. Not only can you change sheet by what they are made of you can find almost any color you want now a days. Find some sheets that are different get bold or exciting colors then match your bed with your feelings for that day. Bright cheery sheets might just make the two of your feel even better in the mornings.

What to do with your stuffed animals during sex..

Does you partner have stuffed animals that they keep on the bed. You might think this is a little childish, but hold on. Have you ever thought to use these animals as sexual aids? Don't get to disgusted, just yet. Have you ever been to the liberator shop and saw all the different pillows that they have to get your partner and you into different positions? Now are you starting to get the picture. Think of that great big lion they keep on your bed and how you could bend someone over that and have your way with them. The bigger the stuffed animal the better, but think about sticking the smaller ones under the small of the back or to use as props for other parts of your body. Changing the angle of penetration makes the act of sex seem very different and exciting. Not to mention most stuffed animals are soft and feel good on the skin. I have even seen some stuffed animals that have a compartment for hiding sex toys inside them so they are close and ready to use.

Making Sense of Scents

Do you have special scents that remind you of specific times or places in your life? I know several that stick out in my mind. The smell of the ocean, fresh pineapple in Hawaii, the perfume my wife wears, or the smell of our freshly changed sheets, all remind me of special times. Now how do you incorporate that feeling into being romantic. Simple, you just find out what smells are triggers for you partner and do a little searching on the Internet for candles with that scent and bingo, bango, bongo, your romantic. Imagine your partner coming home to a house that smells like the ocean on your last vacation. What about pumpkin pie smell in the fall or pine tree around Christmas time. If you click on the title of this post you will be directed to the Candle-Licious web site where they have several scents to choose from.

Don't go for the normal scents try to find something that is specific to your relationship. Maybe your partner likes the smell of leather well Candle-Licious has that scent in their catalog. Put some time into finding the right scent and set the mood for the two of you to remember things from your past.

Share a bite.

If you are truly in love with your partner, you can perform this trick and it will send shivers down your spine. Stick a piece of fruit in your mouth and approach your partner as if you are going to give him/her a kiss. Let him/her bite half of the item out of your mouth. You can use any type of food you wish. In my opinion, fruit is the best because of the juice that runs out during the bite giving a little hint of passion to the act. Don't over do it. You don't want to eat an entire meal this way. This act does however give your parnter some clue as to what you might want later.

Special Thanks to MizzEl*~Elly*'s photo from Flickr

Notice changes in your mate

One thing you need to put focus on is watching for changes in your partner. Have they been working out, did they get a new outfit, or change their hairstyle. Noticing these simple little changes tells your partner that you are paying attention to them. Try to keep track of things such as hair appointments, and workout times that your partner keeps. Compliment them on their changes or progress often. This helps them keep motivated to keep up the workouts or trying to impress you! As hard as it is sometimes be honest when they ask your opinion. However always be positive about something they are doing. Sometimes it takes a while for a new change to grow on you. Reserve your right to your opinion for a later date if you are unsure. One thing that you need to keep in mind is that when your partner changes something drastically it might just be because they want to catch your eye. With that said the next time your partner gets a drastically different hair style, new clothes, or starts working out (especially in front of you), they might just be looking to catch your eye. Maybe you need to step back and see if you are giving them the attention that they need. I love when my partner changes something about her it makes me take even more notice of how much I love her.

Set in a different chair tonight!

Most people in a relationship have a very normal routine. You most likely sit in the same place every time you eat dinner or watch television. Well tonight mix it up a little and surprise you partner by sitting in a different chair at both dinner and while you watch some television. Not only will this break the monotony of your normal routine, but it will make you look at your partner in a different view. You can always switch back to your normal sittings tomorrow but for tonight let it ride. You might even be able to make a game out of it do a form of musical chairs where everyone sits in their normal spot and then someone yells change and everyone finds a different chair. If you have children they will love it. This function might just get you thinking outside the box and get you to try other things you might not try otherwise.