Ladies choice!

Okay tonight you are ready for a great night of sex. You would love for you wife, partner, or girlfriend to give you a play by play of what she would like. What do you do if your partner is a little more reserved about letting you know her likes or dislikes. A lot of people men as well as women have a hard time asking or tell their partner what they want or fantasies about. Don't fear however I have a couple of solutions that might help you out.

If your like most couples you have a drawer full of sex toys, lubes, simulators, etc. Yet it seems like you don't go to it very much for fear your more reserved partner might not want to, because they won't talk about it. Well take the embarrassment out of their hands. Tell them you are going to leave the room and you would like them to pick out a couple of items form the drawer they would like to use. Tell them to stick the items inside your pillow case and turn out the lights when they are ready. With the lights out and the items tucked away, it will seem like they didn't really pick out the things you are going to use on them. This might be a great way for them to open up about their sexual preferences so make sure you use the items they have picked. Take turns once a week and do the same for your partner by placing things you want to experience in their pillowcase the next time.

Another way you can get them to open up about their wants is to give them an outlet other then talking. Let them right down what they want to do. They could do it on paper, through email, or even text you. Give them room to do this, and don't set there and look over their shoulder. Leave the room and have them give you a sign when they are done. Again you can take turns doing this as it is only fair both partners get a chance.

It seems silly that we sometimes have trouble conversing about sex to our partner. Sometimes it comes from the way we were brought up and what our parents instilled in us. Other times people are just shy or fear the other persons reactions about their choices. Doing these things a few times might loosen up your talking about them at a later time.

Use only candles in the house.

Let's make our house or apartment a little more romantic today. Make a pact with your partner not to use any electric lights. Only candles tonight, obviously safety is an issue but just be careful and get some good quality candles. Spread them out around the house and imagine what it was like went their was no electricity. Think about how sexy everything will look in candle light. Dinner will be more romantic, as well as just sitting around either talking or relaxing together. Now think about kissing each other and how much more exciting it will be in candle light. Bedtime can be another treat using candles, especially if you are going to have a little fun in bed that night. Just make sure all the candles are secure and can't be knocked over during the coarse of the evening.

Never under estimate the power of touch.

Never under estimate the power of touch. A simple touch can bring about several feelings. The way you touch can effect the way a person reacts. Light stroking touchings can add intimacy to your relationship. Stroke the inner forearm of your partner and watch how they react. In me it gives me a sense of calm and relaxation. A touch can also give support, such as a putting her hand at the base of your partners back. This tells them that you are there standing behind them if they need you. A touch as in a massage can bring about feelings of relaxation or relief from the daily grind of life. One of my favorite touches happens when my wife and I rub feet together during the night. It says to me that we are connected and even though we are asleep we are close. So next time your with your partner don't miss a chance to touch them. Put your hand on theirs or hold hands even if you are just sitting in the living room.

When two partners touch you create a bond or circuit if you will. It connects you and makes all energy flow through both partners. If you partner has had a bad day, get your hands on them and soak out some of that bad energy from them. In reverse if you have had a great day give them some of your super charged energy. Relationships are about sharing and if you can share through touch you are well ahead of the game.

Heat up your next meal

Spicy food are said to be not only good for your pallet but also great for your love life. I have posted a link in the title of this post on how not only spicy food can improve your love life but it can also help fight diseases such as cancer. Some research shows that people that live in countries that tend to use a lot of spices in their food have less blood clotting then others. Some spicy foods have inflammatory properties that make them help out in areas such as arthritis or with headaches. Again check out the link in the title post for more information on how spicy foods can help your health. With all that said think about what it can do for you love live. If eating spicy food can get rid of headaches you might start seeing a little more action in the bedroom. So next time you go to your favorite Mexican restaurant don't be afraid to try the spicy sauces and meals, you might be doing yourself a favor.

Here is your ration of kisses.

Today we are going to work on a little self control. I want you and your partner to ration out your kisses. Pick a number at the start of the day and that is all the times you are allowed to kissed during the day. Make it a realistic number say 25 or so. Then count them every time you give each other a peck. You might be surprised how many times a day you kiss. To make this exercise work you have to stick to the number don't decide later you need to add. Start out slow and make sure you are both on the same page. See how many you can save until the end of the night. If you are good you might have several saved for the end of the night if this happens, neither of you can go to sleep until all the kisses are used. This might lead to some other nightly activities. It is cute and fun to do and only the two of you know you are playing this little game.

If you don't think you kiss enough you can do this exercise in reverse and set a number of kisses to achieve during the day. Which could be just as fun. Try it and let me know what you think and what numbers you are comfortable with.

Pucker up for the team.

You don't have to break the bank to find great toys!

Say you want to heat up your sex but don't have the money to go out and purchase that expensive sex toy you've been dreaming of. Well don't fret you probably have a love of sex enhancers laying around your house. Are your eyebrows raised, well I will give you a view examples. Do you have a string of beads around? You know a necklace will work and this can be used on both partners. Take the string of beads and run in around the outside of her pussy, pushing it around the lips and perineum. Same for his penis, run the beads around his shaft and let them dangle around his balls. The excitement of something new touching you will drive you wild. A word of caution though never insert something into your partner that doesn't have a flared base for safety, you don't want to be explaining at the emergency room how your wife's pearl necklace ended up your anus.

Another thing some people find exciting is food items such as whip cream, or chocolate. These are find to play with but just make sure you wash extra good before having sex. You don't want to get food items inside either of you. A feather duster (new of coarse) can add delight to your partner as you run it across them and their genitals. A heating pad can really warm up your sex life also. By placing it in strategic places you might get a warm reaction. Ice packs can similarly be used to enhance you intimacy. Washable markers can make your lover a canvas. A bean bag chair allows you to find several new positions. I think you are beginning to get the idea. Be creative but be safe also. Again never stick anything inside your partner with out a flared base on it or making sure the material it is made out of is safe for insertion.

Have fun and I am going to throw out a challenge to all of you. This month I want to see if you can make love in every room in your house or apartment. This might take some planning if you have children but where there is a will there is a way. Good luck and have some great sex, it is one of the most beneficial things you can do for your relationship.

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