Tuesday, October 1, 2013

She Got a New Job...You Don't Want to Move

How to Help Your Partner Deal With an Unwanted Move

By John C Cherry

Sometimes, one person in a marriage gets an opportunity in another city, state or even country that can cause strife in the partnership. Perhaps the other person will be expected to move with the spouse and away from friends and family. This kind of scenario can be hard on the relationship and can sometimes even lead to the destruction of it. However, if you and your spouse are committed to making the move, even if one person is not looking forward to it, you can get through the change and be stronger in the end.

The most important thing to realize is that you should never make the decision to move without your partner's knowing. You can't just hire the movers and expect your spouse to be on board with it when the moving truck pulls into the driveway to move your things. It is critical for you to begin the discussion of moving as soon as you realize the opportunity is there. All decisions related to the move, if in fact, the decision to move is made, should be made together. From the movers you pick to the actual moving day.

You might need to get outside help to assist you and your spouse through the difficult moving process. For example, if you have a great job waiting for you in your new location, but your spouse is going to be jobless when you move, it is wise to contact a career counselor before the move is made to find out what your partner can do to make the transition easier. If your spouse can get a job in the new location as well, it might make him or her feel better about the change.

If you decide that only one of you needs a job in the new location, you might want to help your spouse get involved in local organizations, clubs or educational opportunities to help him or her integrate into the new community as quickly as possible. Almost all cities have local colleges or recreation centers that offer classes and other organized activities, which can help your spouse feel more at home more quickly.

Finally, if your spouse is completely unhappy with the move and you really feel like the change could tear your relationship apart, it might not be the opportunity you thought it was. Sometimes, the move you don't make could be the right decision after all.

John is a shrewd consumer who writes about personal finance, finding deals, and local consumer home services like: movers Dallas and local movers Chicago.

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Saturday, September 28, 2013

Enjoy a Happy Sex Life

Stay Healthy and Enjoy a Happy Sex Life

By Karen Fickler

Women's fitness and healthy living can offer many benefits for your physical and mental health. But did you know that a healthy lifestyle may be the key to promoting a happy sex life? The better you feel physically the more likely it is that you will be healthy enough for sex. Building your muscles, especially your pelvic floor muscles actually helps to improve the functions of your sexual organs.

Nutrition is nature's medicine. Begin with a healthy diet of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, proteins and healthy fats. Overeating, especially foods that are high in saturated fats, leads to high blood cholesterol and obesity, both major causes of cardiovascular disease and diabetes. This can mean your body is not healthy enough for sex.

Sex is good for you. When women's estrogen levels drop at menopause, the vaginal walls lose some of their elasticity. It's possible to slow this process or even reverse it through sexual activity. Sex is your vagina's women's fitness program.

Exercise promotes healthy sex: Regular aerobic activity, Pilates, Yoga and strength training exercises all promote women's fitness and may help to improve your sex life. Exercise helps the cardio system and aids in flexibility and stamina to help you enjoy better sex for a longer time.

If your sex life is still lacking, you might try these helpful hints:

Get out of the bedroom. Maybe you've never had sex on the kitchen floor or in a secluded spot in the woods; now might be the time to try it. Or try exploring erotic books and films. Even just the feeling of naughtiness you get from checking out an X-rated movie at the local video store might make you feel frisky.

Sensuality counts. Create an environment for lovemaking that appeals to all five of your senses. Light scented candles, cover your bed with silk or satin for a sensual touch. Play music that you both enjoy, buy flowers and place in a lovely vase. Make your bedroom a special place to make love.

Be playful. Take a bubble bath together or even a shower. Being wet and naked together is a great lead-in to sex. Wash each other's backs. Tickle. Laugh. Enjoy.

Let your imagination soar. Be creative by varying your activity. For example, if you're used to making love on Saturday morning, choose Sunday morning instead. Have sex in the middle of the week. Be open to different positions and new activities. Try sex toys and purchase sexy lingerie.

Be romantic. Surprise each other with flowers when it isn't a special occasion. Plan a day when all you do is lie in bed, talk, and be intimate. Leave sweet messages on each other's cell phones. Tell your lover how special he is and how much you love him.

Karen Ficarelli is the founder and CEO of Fitness4Her.com, a diet, exercise program and women's fitness blog, developed especially for women. A mother of three, Karen knows how hard it is to fit everything into a busy schedule. A fitness author, personal trainer, Pilate's instructor, sports nutritionist, fitness model, wife and mom, Karen is passionate about helping other women reach their fitness goals.

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Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Who Made It Sinful

"Much of what the Western world considers to be sinful has little do with religious scripture. The catalogue of sexual sins was largely invented by a small number of men living through the last years of the Roman Empire (c.4th-5th centuries AD) - the Fathers of the Church."

- Clifford Bishop, Sex and Spirit: An Illustrated Guide to Sacred Sexuality

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Sunday, September 22, 2013

One Secret To Making Love Last

"I am amazed by how many individuals

mess up every new day with yesterday."

--Gary Chapman, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts

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Thursday, September 19, 2013

Orgasmic Laughter?

**This is part of the introduction from Rob's dissertation. Enjoy...

Since the beginning of time, people have searched for answers in regards to Spirit, the Gods/Goddesses, the cosmos, the Divine Universe. The layperson has been taught for an indefinite amount of time that the only way to get to Heaven, attain enlightenment, or gain spiritual connection is through a guru, minister, or spiritual teacher. Some of the other options that have most commonly been taught include meditating for hours, fasting for days, going into a trancelike state through dance or repetitive movement. All of these things offer doorways that one can walk through to enter the spiritual realm, but there are two amazing portals that are often overlooked – laughter and orgasm.

Being connected to Spirit or the Gods/Goddesses can bring a blissful sense of utter joy. When one experiences a beautiful and powerful orgasm a similar sense of bliss fills his/her being – physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Though some religions, such as Christianity, have turned sex into a sin, a temptation of the flesh, many ancient traditions have recognized that lovemaking is very sacred and is even considered magickal (this is the proper spelling in this context) in some sectors. Yet, what few people or traditions bring into the light is the power of laughter. Experiencing a huge, uncontrollable belly laugh also brings about the blissful state and draws one closer to the Divine. The more one makes love and experiences orgasmic pleasure the more portals he/she will open between the physical dimension and the spiritual dimension. Add in full-blown laughter regularly and the number of portals that can be opened multiply dramatically.