Create a mood

We are so focused on the outcome of our dates and time together that we very seldom try to enhance our evenings. We rush around so much that we forget the maybe a little more time setting a mood might help in our romantic life. I am sure everyone is thinking right now about putting some candles in the bedroom or lighting a fire in the fireplace. Those are great mood setters but they are the common ones. I am going to challenge you, as I so often do, to create some non-traditional moods. Don't sweat it, I am going to give you some examples for you to feed off of.

Intimacy is a great place to set a mood. I want you to start way earlier though, in your date or evening together. The example I am going to use is to set a Mexican mood. Start out by cooking or going to a place that serves Mexican food. At home get some salsa and chips and whip up a Mexican feast. You can find all kinds of Mexican dishes on any recipe web page. If you go out make sure it isn't Taco Bell, go to a nice Mexican restaurant where they play music and have the place decorated just right. Now once you get home you can continue the mood by getting Mexican oriented movies, some that pop into my mind are Funny Cheech and Chong movies, or the Brad Pitt move The Mexican. Now for the fun part make sure to find some sombreros and Mexican blankets to spread out in your bedroom. Completing the night of Mexican mood. Also you can find some traditional Mexican music to play while you get intimate. You might get bonus point if you can speak Spanish. Imagine yourself make love while wearing a sombrero and shouting things out in Spanish.

Here is a second option. If you partner is into science fiction movies. You could rent a full night of the Star Wars Saga or which ever movie he or she is into. Then when it came time for the intimacy you could dress as a character form the movie. I know lots of men that have the princess lea fantasy. Personalize it to your partners favorite character. You could even get the Star Wars theme song to play in the back ground for the main event. Imagine....

Yes I am Horny

Okay you are in a relationship or if your not this information can be helpful later. We have heard it a hundred times about how important communication is in a relationship. Well they are usually talking about everyday life and things that upset you that your partner does. Well you need to let your partner know also about your sexual feelings. You know when you would really like to jump their bones, or shower with them, or anything that might strike your fancy. Now this doesn't mean they have to oblige you right away. Sex is a two way street and both partner need to be in the mood. However, you can let your partner know what turns you on or something you would like to try without fear of being called a pervert. Like I said earlier this is a two way street and if your partner is not letting you know about their feelings then you are getting short changed. Take a bold move and tell your lover you would like them to be more aggressive. There are going to be somethings that they are not comfortable with and you have to understand that, however you can compromise on about anything. In closing I just want to say it is okay to tell your partner you are horny or excited, just don't get upset if they are not in the mood to reciprocate your feelings at the current time. Remember also when they let their feeling be known that they are speaking form their desires.

Brown Bag it!

There is no doubt in this time that finances are tough. We all need to squeeze as much as we can out of our fund. One thing that can save you a lot of money is to brown bag it or take your lunch to work. You might be thinking at this point, "How is taking your lunch to work, romantic?" Well it's not but wouldn't you rather use that cash to take your partner to dinner or to buy them a great present? Let your partner know that you are trying to save up for a trip or something special for the two of you and I am sure they will help you pack your lunch a time or two. Depending on where you live not purchasing lunch out could save you as much as seven or eight dollars a day. Start adding that up and see how quickly you might get to the cruise. Another benefit is that you can eat a little more healthy and not as much. Not only are you saving for something special for you and your sweety but you are also improving your health and possibly losing some weight. Now when people make fun of you at work and ask if you mom packed your lunch, don't get mad, just think of them when you are enjoying your reward.

Smores Lovin'

Tonight no matter where you are get some supplies and make some smores. Get the chocolate, marshmallows, and gram crackers and make the tasty treat with you partner. Yes it is great if you are somewhere that you have a fire going to make the smores the correct way. If not then adlib use the microwave or toast them over you gas grill. Smores are gooey and a great way to start a conversation as you try not to make a mess of yourself. Take turns making the treat and decide who makes the best smores in your relationship. If you can find a way to make them outside over a fire, then you can spend the night looking up at the stars. Feed each other or lick the chocolate off each others fingers is a great way to start an intimate evening.

A Single Flower

Okay so you are on your way to pick up your date. Take a moment to stop and pick up a single flower. Nothing fancy just a simple single flower. Nothing says I hope things go well then this little gesture. More flowers would say that you were expecting to much. Present it to your date upon arriving at their house, it is an ice breaker and simple put a nice feeling for the date to receive. It is Innocent and doesn't suggest that you expect more then companionship on this date. Plus in this day and age not to many men will take the time to do this, you be the exception. A carnation, or single rose is very elegant and easy to find. No excuses get that flower and hold it behind your back as you knock on the door. It might help the butterflies in your stomach.

Minature Golf / Large wager

Okay are you sitting around thinking of something you can do that is romantic and yet outside and fun. Well you might not believe it but you can make miniature golf romantic by adding some wagers on the game. Pick a coarse that is close and then figure out what type of wagers you will be putting on each hole. They can be dinner out, massages, chores, or even sexual trades. Then get your putters out and have some fun trying to beat your partner. If one of you is a better player then try to balance the game out with some form of handicap. Such as the better player switches hands that they play with, or the not as good player gets to take an extra stroke each hole. The friendly competition between the two of you is good for your relationship. Unless one or both of you is a very bad loser, then maybe this isn't what you need.

Sometimes more it not necessarily better.

Don't you love the way a great perfume or cologne smells on your partner. Have you ever known anyone that uses way to much perfume or cologne? Well the opposite is true of these people, they don't smell good. I know for me when I get next to someone who has way to much perfume or cologne on it gives me a headache. I wonder how can they stand the smell. Let me start by saying perfume and or cologne is not a replacement for a shower! You should only have to use a small amount or either to get your desired effect. After all you want your special someone to be the only person to notice you aroma not your entire office. A good way to avoid putting to much on is to stay away from perfume or cologne that has a spray top. Get something that you have to dabble on. Put a small amount on areas like your chest, inside of your wrist, or neck for the gentlemen. Ladies us your little dabbles between your breasts, the inside or your wrists, or your neck also. Another important tip is to not put the cologne or perfume on you clothes, it works much better on your body and could stain your clothes.

Think of it this way, would you want your partner to get in close to have to smell your perfume or cologne. I have some friends that think the more perfume or cologne they wear the better. This are also the friends I know when they are around because I can smell them first before I see them. So go out and get a really good perfume or cologne and use it sparingly. If you purchase good quality items they will last for a long time if you don't take a bath in it.

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