What to buy your love for Christmas

          Christmas time is on the way and now starts the process of deciding what to get your love for Christmas.  If you are smart you have been making note of everything they have shown interest all year long.  Be it a book, music, or clothing.  Maybe it is tickets to a show they want to see or a trip someplace exotic.  However is you don't have a clue right now can be a very stressful time for you.  Trying to pick just the right gift when you don't have a clue is exhausting and yet you don't want your partner to give you such a specific list that they know exactly what they will be getting.  This is where you might need to enlist the help of your partners friends or family to get the information you need.  If you are not close enough to them to get these answers however you will have to brave shopping together so see where their eyes roam.  Watch and see what items they look at or when the say "Oh, that is cute"  make a mental note don't take out a pen and paper and look like a dork.  If you honestly can't remember then text yourself the description of the item and tell your partner you were texting a friend.  Always remember it is the thought that counts but getting the right thing scores huge points.  

Black Friday is a memory now get some sleep

          Black Friday had everyone up at the crack of dawn scrambling for bargains either in the stores or online.  As Black Friday came to a close everyone drug themselves back home and spent the rest of the day tired and sunk in a chair.  Today is a great day to nap with your partner.  Snuggle up to watch a football game or movie and relax forget about the lines, the crowds, and the rude people.  It is time to enjoy being with the person that means something special to you.  If you lucky maybe you can talk them out of a massage as you recoup from your traumatic Black Friday experience.  

Turkey Day

           Today is Turkey day and it is a great day to show your thanks.  Make sure to let your partner know how much they mean to you on this day.  Make a list of all the things you are thankful for and share it with your love.  Ask them to do the same and spend the evening talking about the great things in your life.  Enjoy some pumpkin pie as you discuss how wonderful your relationship is and all the great aspects.  Make this a Thanksgiving ritual and start your list early for the next year.  Also for you football fans don't spend the whole day watching games take some time out to enjoy your partner because the only scoring you need to worry about is that which happens later in the evening!

When you can't sleep it is a good time to be a couple.

It might seem a little against the normal but when you wake up at some ridiculous hour in the morning it might be a good time to do couples things. Things like talking, massages or even making love are wonderful ways to pass those sleepless times with your partner. Most people will awake to see what is the matter when their partner gets up in the middle of the night. Be considerate of your partner sleep but if they awake to check on your, use this time to connect with your partner in which ever way you like.

Find less expensive things to do for when your cash is short.

Going out is great. However it is very expensive. You need to have things set back that don't cost much or are free for those times when you funds are a little short. Things like wonderful art parks or museums are great places to have a date that don't cost anything. The important thing to remember is the value comes in just being with that special person. I would much rather take a wonderful walk where we can converse then go to a crowded club where all we can here is the loud music. No matter what your economic status you should always keep your eyes open for these inexpensive things to do. That way when a criss arrises or it's rent week you don't have to avoid your lovers interests and can surprise him/her with a wonderful day that doesn't break your bank.

The Music is the secret

Music is a very powerful tool you can use to set moods. Think about it when you want to be romantic do you want loud hip hop music on? Most likely not however some might find that romantic. Most people would like slow sweet music to set the romantic mood. Listen to your television shows you watch and see how the music they play in the back ground sets the mood and then use that to your advantage. If you want fun and excitement put on upbeat music, I even have music I like to clean the house to. Another wonderful idea is to use music with heavy beats or lot of drums for the times you are having sex. Trust me you want to try this. The point being music is our soundtrack of life. Use it to your advantage.

Romance is the reason for any season.

Romance changes with each passing season. You can't do the same thing in the winter as the summer as far as romance goes. For example a trip to the beach is not near as romantic in the middle of winter as it is in summer time. Like wise a snuggling ride in a horse drawn carriage is far more exciting in the winter then in the summer. When the leaves fall it is nice to have warm drinks on the deck or in the spring getting out and enjoying the first flowers is romantic. No matter what season you are in you can find many a romantic thing to do. You just have to pay attention to the time of the year and adjust your romance accordingly.

You can't save up love and romance.

Love and Romance are not like money you don't get any interest from saving them up. Locking them up only makes them less valuable. Spend you love and romance on your partner as if you were showering them with it. Make the love they feel over abundant and you will get as much if not more in return. So start spreading the love around and make a production of it. Soon the love you will be getting back will be way more valuable then that which you wanted to lock away.

Romance lives and dies with effort.

How much effort are you putting into your romance? If your answer is not much then you have a lot of work to do. Romance is the blood that pumps through your relationship. Without it just like your heart your relationship will soon stop functioning at 100%. Now putting to much romance into your relationship can do the same thing but you should be doing 3 to 4 romantic things a week for your partner. If not you are not putting enough effort into it. You don't have to make a big production of it but it has be show your partner you care. An over the top candlelight dinner might be over the top but picking them up a candy bar doesn't quite cut it. Simple things like a massage or setting up time for them to take a relaxing bath can take a few minutes to set up but will make a lasting impression on the importance of your relationship.