Money Fights

We can all agree that the number one cause of all relationship breakups is something to do with finances or money in general. But what is surprising is that behind the fights people have about money is not money itself but the mismatch of their thoughts towards money.

It doesn't matter how much money you earn of have if your thoughts doesn't match that of your partner definitely you will have challenges dealing with one another. The situations don't end in relationships alone but include business associates and others.

Normally, what we don't realize is that we are dealing with thoughts and not that paper itself because without value being attached to that thing called money then it becomes useless in itself.

For us to have mutual understanding between us or amongst us we need to raise our awareness towards what is causing the fights or lift between us or among us. Once we comprehend what we are dealing with it becomes a road map towards the way we are dealing with one another which can work.

You can begin by becoming aware that your partner's thoughts towards money are not the same like yours. Instead of feeling angry to him/her just choose to understand. What is important is to recognize your relationship to the person as being of value than what you are angry for.

Before I married my wife Christine, life was in the blues and everything was perfect and we always talked of heaven and how we were meant for each other. Then came the day we got married then we started getting irritated to each other over small things and there came the money.

The only thing we ever fought about was money and it almost cost our marriage. We didn't know at the time was that the meaning each of us contributed to money were so different. To my wife money meant to buy this and to me it meant to save for the future but the good news is that we worked on that through communication and using what am sharing here in this article.

Does all this work? Try it and never regret.

hesbon nyambane kerongo is personal growth enthusiast and he is committed to providing free articles which can be found at http://www.yourbesthere.com

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The Spiritual Relaitonship

What is a spiritual relationship?

A relationship is how we relate to other. A spiritual relationship is a relationship that aims for the highest good for those in the relationship. It is one that facilitates our spiritual growth.

Here are some tips on how to cultivate a spiritual relationship with another.

1. A Spiritual Being in Physical Experience

Most people believe they are physical human beings, with perhaps some tendency or inclination to seek a spiritual experience. Living with this belief automatically limits our spiritual experience for it puts our spirituality in the backseat.

Instead, choose to believe that we are spiritual beings in physical manifestation. This choice automatically brings your spiritual experience into center stage, and you will begin to see every relationship as an opportunity for spiritual growth.

Remember, whatever you choose to believe in, you're right, for a belief is merely a perception of reality.

2. Free Will

As a spiritual being, we have free will and complete control over our life. However, this is only true IF we have full control over our mind. The more mindful or conscious we are, the more free will we have.

Therefore, in every situation in a relationship, we have a choice as to how we choose to respond. We have the freedom to respond positively or negatively. Responding positively not only helps us to grow spiritually but also offer the other person an opportunity to do so as well. When we respond negatively, we miss an opportunity for growth.

3. Do not judge

To judge implies that we are superior to another. It implies that we know better or are more evolved. This is the working of the egoic mind. Every time we judge, we validate and strengthen our egoic mind.

Our egoic mind is the proverbial devil in disguise. If it cannot win by force, it will try to win through cunning and trickery. It is so good and subtle at this that we are often fooled by it.

To judge also implies that we are forcing our own beliefs, concepts, desires and expectations on another. In other words, we are not honoring their free will.

Each time we judge another, we are doing ourselves and the other person a disservice. We are perpetuating a negative tendency that continues to validate our egoic mind. At the same time, we encroach on the other person's space and choice, and are more likely to create a resistance in him or her, rather than a positive respond.

4. Do not blame

To blame also implies superiority over another. To blame another also means we do not take responsibility for our share in the relationship.

A relationship is a two-way thing. It takes two to tango. You cannot clap with one hand. This means that in a relationship, both are equally responsible for the outcome.

When we blame another, we are actually saying, "It is your fault, not mine."

However, we should also remember not to blame ourselves. Since every relationship is an opportunity for spiritual growth, take every situation as an opportunity to learn and evolve. There is no need to blame oneself or others.

5. Acceptance

Learn to accept ourselves and the other person, together with all the strengths and weaknesses. We are here to evolve into a spiritual being with full consciousness in our physical manifestation. Each of us are here for certain unique lessons.

Through acceptance, we help each other to grow. Through acceptance, we let go of our tendency to judge, blame and control.

In cultivating a spiritual relationship, we are BE-ing unconditional love.

Dr. Tim Ong is a medical doctor who runs his own thriving medical practice. In his free time, he enjoys giving public talks, teaching meditation and offering his service to hospice work in the community. He also has keen interest in self improvement, mind science and spirituality. Dr. Ong is the author of "From Fear to Love: A Spiritual Journey" which was recently launched. He is the webmaster of http://fromfeartolove.com and http://theselfimprovementsite.com

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Can You Make Harry Potter Sexy for Halloween?

Hogwarts will never be the same!

Costumes are almost important as the holiday itself, when it comes to Halloween! This is perhaps what you think too, if you take your Halloween parties seriously. And what's a Halloween party without people decked up in all sorts of lovely costumes? Indeed there is now an industry which runs on the demand for costumes for this occasion on the last day of October, you so eagerly await every year. Perhaps you plan for your costume months before Halloween and why not; they have to be the best! If you are planning a party with your friends this year too, why not try some sexy Halloween costumes to raise the temperature!

Well, Halloween is definitely the right time to express your wild side and let your imagination run free. If you have played it safe at all costume parties to date, this may be the time to experiment and try a risque costume for a change. If you are sure that a bit of fun will not be out of place then these costumes can be the best bet to flaunt your figure and bowl over the handsome man you have appreciated for a long time!

Of course you need to be in good shape to be able to slip into a skimpy costume, but once you do, get ready to cause major mayhem at the party. If you are afraid that your beau may not appreciate the sexy Halloween costume, you may be wrong. Most men have fantasies of their own and you can be even more appealing to your partner if your costume manages to tickle his fancy.

And what are the options available to you? Well, lots to be precise. You can try the schoolgirl costume modified with lower necklines and higher hemlines. Team up a white shirt with a skimpy checkered skirt and you can start the magic! Any discussion about this kind of costume must include the nurses and cheerleaders as well. After all they are what most men fantasize about. So, try a nurse outfit or a skimpy cheerleader outfit that reveals as much (or perhaps more than!) as you want to show. Do this and you will understand why men rate nurse and cheerleaders higher than doctors and sportspersons. If you are willing to be really bad, a sexy witch or dominatrix costume can help you bring down the house. If you think that these costumes are too risque, you can even try cowgirl, Cleopatra or belly-dancer costumes.

Even men can try sexy Halloween costumes, to raise their 'hunk appeal' significantly! If you have the muscles, why not display them in the guise of a construction worker or a topless cowboy? To look more macho, you can try dressing like a cop or a firefighter; who are both high on any woman's list of fantasies. If you think you are ultimate charmer, try a Dracula or Casanova costume to see how many you can snare.

And getting your hands on really hot Halloween costumes for adults is not really a big deal. There are websites which are dedicated to selling these at really competitive rates. There is so much variety on offer, that you and your partner may have a tough time choosing a sexy costume for Halloween! Understated or in-your-face, there are all kinds of costumes for you to choose from. And you may want to pick a number of sexy Halloween costumes, because they may come in really handy for spicing up your love life as well!

Andy West writes about topics relating to holidays. Depending on the type of party and the attendees, sexy Halloween costumes can be fun and flirty.

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Sometimes being a Cheap Date is not a bad thing.

"I was thinking we could go to McDonalds after this, the dollar menu is to die for"

These cheap date ideas are by no means second-rate. If you're a real romantic, you know that romantic living need not be expensive. Rather, it's simple, but a little involved as you'll see in these 21 cheap romantic date ideas.

What makes a date romantic is not how extravagant the price tag is but how much you reveal of yourself and how creatively you interact with one-another. Most free romantic date ideas are far more enjoyable than their pay counterparts. These cheap date ideas require something of your creative, and sometimes wild and risky side. One or two are downright outrageous. You'll enjoy!

Cheap Date Idea #1

Pay your local library a visit, and ask the librarian where you can read aloud. Choose an engaging mystery or steamy romance and spend the afternoon reading aloud to one-another.

Cheap Date Idea #2

Take two pads of lined paper, some nice pens and visit a quiet coffee shop. Order two cappuccinos, and write the stories of your lives. After one hour, read them aloud to one-another. Then ask lots of questions.

Cheap Date Idea #3

Take a digital camera, go to a downtown or busy area of town and make believe that you are paparazzi, gathering as many candid shots of interesting people as you can. Next date, see number four.

Cheap Date Idea #4

Upload your paparazzi shots which you took in number three to a computer either at home or at an internet cafe and write fantastic or crazy news stories incorporating the photos. Email them to a friend or post them on a free web site and send friends a link.

Cheap Date Idea #5

Take some nice watercolor paper or sketch pads with brushes, paints and pencils and go to a town square or park. Situate yourself at a table or bench and find something beautiful in your surrounding to paint or sketch. Sign and exchange your works and post them at home or work.

Cheap Date Idea #6

Here's a romantic date idea for when you don't know one-another well. Go to a cemetery where your relatives are buried, plant flowers and share with your sweetheart some stories about your family history.

Cheap Date Idea #7

Take bicycles or roller blades, pack a lunch and choose an easy trail ride or wander through some country roads. Stop often when you find something interesting to look at or just to rest and talk.

Cheap Date Idea #8

Visit an art museum, conservatory or botanical garden and pretend it's your first date. Unless of course it is your first date, then you won't need to pretend. Stop to sit on every bench, hold hands and kiss.

Cheap Date Idea #9

Get tickets to a local high school or college musical or drama performance. Ask the stars of the show for their autographs on your program. Afterward, go for a walk in the dark.

Cheap Date Idea #10

When in season, go to a strawberry patch or apple orchard and pick a few baskets of your own. Have a cup of coffee and enjoy some of your freshly-picked fruit. Finally, return home with your produce and create a special fresh-fruit-in-season dessert.

Cheap Date Idea #11

Visit an invalid or elderly person in your neighborhood, and plant some flowers in their yard or flower box for them. Stop in and share a cup of tea to brighten their day.

Cheap Date Idea #12

Stay Home! If you're married-with-children, send the kids out to a babysitter and just stay home. Order some Chinese take-out, leave the TV off and spend some really intimate time together.

Cheap Date Idea #13

Make a trip to the grocery store and pick up some creative pizza ingredients. Take your groceries home and assemble your masterpiece pizza together. Choose a CD of music from your youth, light candles and enjoy.

Cheap Date Idea #14

Check with your local parks and recreation for the schedule of summer dramatic and musical performances in the parks. Prepare a picnic supper, take in the concert, then go for a quiet stroll after the show.

Cheap Date Idea #15

Get your school district's community education program literature and choose a class on a subject about which you know absolutely nothing. Attend together. You'll be surprised at what you've been missing.

Cheap Date Idea #16

Check your yellow pages for the locations of two or three used book stores. Visit them together and unearth some literary treasures. Stop at a coffee shop and examine your finds over a cappuccino.

Cheap Date Idea #17

Pick up your Sunday newspaper and look up the local parade of new homes. Get in the car and visit three of the most expensive homes making believe that you're really rich. Be careful that you don't sign anything! Afterward, stop at a service station to pick up their 3 for $1 hot dog special and a Coke.

Cheap Date Idea #18

Call your local college or university and inquire about their film society's schedule. Take in a screening of a foreign or art film and join the discussion group afterward. You'll enjoy the departure from the usual theater and DVD fare.

Cheap Date Idea #19

Take your digital camera, choose 10 or 12 unusual or even bizarre locations and ask a stranger at each location to take a picture of the two of you. Go home and prepare an album of your day out or post them on a free website and send friends a link.

Cheap Date Idea #20

Go to a second hand clothing store together and select an outfit for each other without the other knowing what it is. Exchange outfits, and change into them. Go out for an inexpensive romantic dinner and find out how merciful (or not!) the other is.

Cheap Date Idea #21

Here's our simplest, yet most traditional and romantic cheap date idea. On a hot August night, take a stroll to your favorite ice cream shop. Get a cone or sundae and stroll down the city street to check out the shop windows.

Add your own, but mostly be together. Enjoy your dates!

Rod Froseth is a freelance writer, photographer and webmaster of http://www.theromanticway.com/, inspiration for a romantic way of life. Visit TheRomanticWay for ideas and tips to live a romantic life http://www.theromanticway.com/.

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