Thanksgiving!

Both abundance and lack exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend... when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that's present -- love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature and personal pursuits that bring us pleasure -- the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience Heaven on earth.
- Sarah Ban Breathnach

As I write this month's article I'm filled with gratitude. Five years ago I was in a job I hated. Today, writing newsletter articles and sharing my experiences of self-care with you is part of my job - what a joy!

And though some days I can still get caught up in what I DON'T have yet, what I HAVEN'T done yet and what I'll probably NEVER have or NEVER do, all it takes is a few moments reflection about what I have to be grateful for and my thoughts are completely turned around.

Two experiences over the past month have helped me to get into the right frame of mind.

During eight weeks of the winter I'm blessed with a volunteer opportunity at a program that provides dinner and shelter to those in need. While I started out three years ago as a dinner helper, I soon realized that my music could be a real gift to our guests and volunteers - infusing the atmosphere and creating opportunities for camaraderie, nostalgia, relaxation and joy. Not to mention lots and lots of singing.

Now my "job", for 8 Wednesday nights every winter, is to set-up my guitar and songbook (complete with a list of songs that guests can thumb through to make requests) and fill the room with music. I absolutely love it.

I've noticed that many of our guests are often cheerful, friendly and helpful, and deeply appreciative of what they receive. With all they're struggling with in their daily lives - struggles I can only imagine - they manage to celebrate the moment, show kindness to others and express their gratitude.

The other mind-altering event was of course the devastating earthquake and resulting tsunami of December 26, 2004, that destroyed so many lives and has impacted the entire world.

The gifts of gratitude I receive from my awareness of both of these realities so different from my own are many. Whenever I'm outdoors in the Canadian winter weather and I notice myself thinking that's it's too cold or too wet I immediately express my gratitude that for me the experience is only brief and temporary. In light of all I've seen and heard about in the last few weeks, what do I have to complain about?

Tonight, when you're getting ready to sleep, why not stop for a moment and make a list of everything YOU have to be grateful for. I'll get you started with the basics:

I'm grateful to have a roof over my head.

I'm grateful to have money in my wallet.

I'm grateful to have food in my fridge.

What would life be like without even one of those things? What else can you think of to be grateful for?

(c) Copyright 2005, Genuine Coaching Services.

Linda Dessau, the Self-Care Coach, is the author of “The Everyday Self-Care Workbook”. To receive one of her free monthly newsletters, subscribe at http://www.genuinecoaching.com/newsletter.html

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Add a Little Sensual Spice This Holiday!! ;-)

Great Thanksgiving Thing to Say

Lee Bogle - "The Lovers"

"The thing I am most thankful for is YOU!"

This is a great thing to say to your lover on Thanksgiving or anytime.

Great Comic I had to Share

I had to share this comic from one of my favorite artists Scott Hilburn.  Check out his comic called The Argyle Sweater.  

Howling?

"Howling at the moon isn't just for wolves.  Let your animal out tonight"

- Rob Alex - 

Spice it up a Little

10 Tips To Spice Up The Holidays

1. Read A Dr. Ruth Book together
2. Men take some time to shave tonight (Your face).
3. Take A bubble bath together. Hot tub spas Resorts that rent by the hour.
4. No Time? Invest in a little sexy something new, possibly just fishnets can help set your environment.
5. Invest in 100% Cotton Flannel Sheets.
6. Read a sexy sorry in bed together (Outloud)
7. Tell him/her what you like best about him/her.
8. Candles set the mood.
9. Try a completely new position, Kama Sutra Book has pictures.
10. Give one another a massage. Possibly on a Electric Blanket with flannel sheets over the blanket.

Love notes in his/her briefcase, car, coffee cup, inside the shoes.

Baby, it's cold outside - Let's get heated up. If you have to go for a long drive and talk looking forward - not at one another
sharing your desires.

Sometimes with all the Winter details you forget about the HEAT that keeps the simmer in your exciting sex life. Even if it's late, work was tough all day - just say 10 minutes of special time set aside for one another.

Maybe, ask one another to act out a fantasy. Write them down on a slip of paper gather them all up put in a vase and pull out one a night and go all the way.

Life is meant to be enjoyed. Relax, close your eyes, take a deep breathe, meditate and get the energy for at least a 10 minute session that could turn into a hour of FUN..

Wear something sexy under your clothes all day and call your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife and flirt with them - "bet you can't guess what I have on..."

Try a straw? Make a promise to one another 2009 with be the new year of experimental sex.

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Is Your Sex Life like the Changing Weather.

Are you having difficulty keeping any sort of rhythm to your sex life? Are you working too much? Is your partner working too much? Are either of you not working enough? Are you spending too much time together? Maybe the long winter days and cold nights have you spending too much time inside. Believe it or not an excess of time and inactivity can actually decrease your sex drive and desire to be intimate. You would think that it is actually the reverse, right? If you had a bunch of time to be with your partner does it not make sense that you would be more intimate and making love more frequently? Well, not necessarily so. When couples have too much time on their hands to spend with each other boredom can set in. And it is not necessarily boredom with each other rather than a growing depression from not feeling active and productive. The monotony of daily life can at times cause stagnation.

All couples have ups and downs in the bedroom; times where the passion is intense followed by lulls in libido. This is completely normal and the natural cycle of things, however, do not allow momentary lapses in your libido's strength to grow into disinterest. This could cause insecurity in your partner, develop cracks in your relationship, and cause major problems down the road. Do not allow your lovemaking to get boring or routine and work through what I like to call the sexual spring weather cycle in your relationship. Approach your partner and talk about the issues you may be facing and brainstorm ideas to help you both through the stagnation. There are so many ideas out there you can use to spice things up and rekindle the passion.

Routine is good, but too much of a good thing can be detrimental to your outlook and cause phases of depression. These are dangerous times for a relationship and can make you feel as though something is wrong with your situation when in reality all you are conflicted with is too much idle time. Take this time and make it productive again. Snap yourself out of your phase and give a boost to your relationship by focusing on doing something unique and original with your partner.

Try new things and refresh your lust for life and each other. Do not be afraid to take a risk on a new adventure whether it be out in the real world or in the bedroom. Be a little bit more daring with your approach to lovemaking and try to spice things up by looking for creative sensations and experiences both your and your partner have never entertained before. Perhaps try some new products that are designed specifically for introducing new and exciting feelings to foreplay or intercourse; sensation balms and intensifying gels which cool or warm the skin or areas they are applied to are great or maybe by some new lingerie to fire up his imagination and yours. Creativity is the key!

Sensation Balms and Intensifying Gels: Sensation Balms and Intensifying Gels are amazing and a great addition to any experience to heighten feeling and create new sublime sensations. Balms and gels have many different erotic effects on the skin including producing tingling sensations to give a dancing and euphoric feeling, warming effects to give a heating sensation without burning to encourage optimal blood flow and arousal to erogenous zones, and cooling effects which produce minty and fresh tingling just like light blowing or kissing would produce. All of these will ensure more pleasurable lovemaking and may really provide some added spark.

Sexy Lingerie: Need I say more? Sexy lingerie all by itself will pierce the thick clouds of inactivity and send a bright ray of passion and inspiration into your bedroom. Whether it is a light and flowing baby doll piece or a more daring and sensual bustier or corset, sexy lingerie will produce the desired results for the both of you. Not only that, but depending on your personal tastes on any given night, sexy lingerie can fulfill those desires. If you feel naughty and more adventurous one night your can certainly don more sexual and enticing lingerie. If another evening you are feeling cute and cuddly you can also adapt your lingerie to reveal this. Lingerie is so versatile and multifaceted that it is perfect for any situation with a little imagination.

Just as time apart can be damaging to a relationship, too much time together, if it is not the right type of time, can also be destructive. Where the mind goes the body follows so exercise and inspire the mind and your libido and ultimately your body will respond favorably once again; and help your body along. Offer it the stimulation that it needs to best improve your relationship and intimacy with your partner. Pull yourself out of that relationship winter funk and get through those sexual spring weather cycles with imagination and help from products and ideas designed for such cases.

Benjamin Gooding writes about finding great romantic gifts and has a passion for helping others find amazing anniversary gifts for wives or romantic gifts for her.

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