Sacred Sexual Coaching

Sex is what brought us here. Without sex, you and I won't be here.

There is nothing cheap or dirty about sex. It is the attitude towards sex that makes it degrading, sinful ,and dirty .Sex can be beautiful and precious. It fulfills the function of procreation, it could also be a means to commit
the most heinous crime.

It is important not only to be aware of our sexuality.We need to acknowledge its importance as a factor for a balanced life. It is the fire that keeps the flames of romance aglow, the strong fiber that knits a relationship together against all odds. It is refreshing, it is healing. Respect for sex add meaning to our human existence and relationships.

We treat with reverence those things we hold dear to our hearts. Activities that we enjoy leave us with that sense of accomplishment, of satisfaction, and make us feel good.

Music is considered the language of the soul. Who does not enjoy music? It is one of the great pleasures mankind has discovered. There are as many tunes,songs and music as there are
performers ,composers and song writers.

Sex is an integral part of human existence.The expression of sex has many faces, strikes many chords, creates a variety of tempo, of harmony or dis-harmony.

Who does not admire beautiful and awesome surroundings; seek and welcome serenity and tranquility, away from the frenzy of the world. Expression and wholesome atmosphere create and inspire the moment for the ultimate experience of Sacred Sex.

We do not subscribe to the same type of music, but generally, there must be something in the music that stirs the soul; a melody that promotes a certain mood, a tune that softens or excites the psyche. Listening to music is soothing, it is
inspiring, it quietens a cluttered mind.

No human activity but sex can elevate the soul, the human spirit to ecstasy, out of the physical realm into a world only the two physical bodies can experience.It is not the "quickie", not the one in the backseat, or any isolated dim spot that
is available at the moment.

Anyone who has been to a concert, a recital, or attended a symphony, knows these events need planning. Sex is like attending one of these events. To fully enjoy it, set aside the time , the resources needed , plan the when and the how will naturally follow. It is not an event we attend to everyday. It is a special
occasion we look forward to with anticipation. Of course,spontaneity adds pizzazz.

Why not a sacred time for sacred sex? For anyone who is interested to learn more about the "How to", the resources are limitless- read up on Tantric Sex or get a copy of the Kama Sutra.

But, no matter how much information you read on sex, if the attitude to elevate it to something sacred is not there, it would be difficult to experience the bliss, the ecstasy and the sense of fulfillment only sacred sex can offer.

Expression is a very personal matter, so is the experience.

There is music, and there is music. Some people enjoy the singer who belts out the words, in constant gyration or movement. They see the singer, do they hear the song? There are others who are quite content with the blues, or country tempo, some go for ballads, but, there is always room for the appreciation of the music of the great masters.Do not mistake it for the elevator music.Many great music have "popular hits" versions that appeal to most. Take Beethoven's Fifth, Chopin's Nocturne in B Flat ( To Love Again), Mozart's Eich Nacht Music ( Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star).

Sacred sex is like attending a symphony- the orchestra and all its sections play their part, the percussion, the wind instruments, the strings.

What does these have to do with sex? When elevated to the highest form that it can be, every single part of the human body can be tuned up like the sections of the orchestra, to produce that haunting, enjoyable , uplifting and satisfying music.

Listen to some good music, it's not all one beat, one, chord, one tone. Observe the adagio, enjoy the cantabile, the sweetness of the dolce, then get exhilarated as the orchestra progresses to forte, fortissimo, con anima, then...it starts to slow down, go into ritardando, some endings maybe soft or bombastic, but always passionate. Notice that after each performance of the symphony,there are seconds of quiet, when you hear not a sound, until the maestro takes his bow.

Lovers need time together , without interruptions to get to know each other.It's a special night, without the children, and no telephone. It is time together,to immerse in each other's love, where they experience the ecstasy of being ONE.

Two souls are able to reach out into the depths of each other's being during moments of intimacy. It is difficult to interpret most work of art, and feel the passion of the artist, understand what was on his mind while creating his work.

Music is different. The performer has the freedom to express the inner stirrings within the soul, with passion that radiates through the performance, filters to the spectators, and enjoy the transformation to a different world and savor the peace within the soul .

In sacred sex, it helps to understand the human anatomy, to fine tune all these parts, yes, from head to toe, to stir the most passionate, ecstatic and blissful act.

When two souls are able to reach this state of oneness, savor it, and respect it.

That is sacred sex.

About the writer:

Bonnie Moss writes about spirituality, tools available to all to walk the path. Visit her website, a metaphysical site that offers information on tarot, crystals, aura, journalling and related topics. Her various articles are published on high-end e-zines. She offers guidance and coaching through tarot.

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Our Anniversary Approaches

As my partner and I approach our 9th anniversary, I would love to hear ideas on how to celebrate it.  I want to get your input on how you would celebrate with your lover.  Don't be shy and leave a comment below or you can email me at rob@inwardoasis.com.  I am excited to hear the ways you celebrate and we might even share some of them with the other readers.  So get to typing and let us know. 

Vacation Time

As you read this my family and I will be just winding down our vacation.  So I wanted to take the time to tell you that vacations are a important part of your life.  Every once in a while you need to break out of your routine and get someplace new.  Experience the world around us and live a little differently.  During your vacation you need to make sure to have time for the two of you for some romance.  If you have children this can be difficult.  Unless you are able to take two vacations one with the family and one with just the two of you, most likely your children will be with you.  So you have to look for time to get that special time for the both of you.  It might just be sitting on the balcony of your hotel holding hands, or a beach walk what you do isn't important it is that you do it.  Both of you make it a point to spend some time alone together and enjoy the vacation in that way also.  I would suggest late night talks or just touching each other to get the most of your time together while on vacation with the family.  

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Erogenous Zones what are they?

There are very obvious ones and many mystery ones. I am going to try and identify both and give you some hints on how to use them. The female body is exactly like a work of art and then you mix mans curiosity in there then you have lots of factors into what drives men and women crazy with desire.

A mans body is pretty simple when it comes to erogenous zones. Man does have some hidden zones but for the most part any one can turn on a man and they know the exact places a man desires to be touched. Women are very different in this aspect. They have many more erogenous zones. Once a skilled lover finds these he can make the woman reach for the stars begging for more.

It's easy to read articles like this and think you can find everything that turns a woman on. The misconception there is that every woman is different there fore they respond differently to different variations. It's not always easy to find these zones on a woman.

1. The Feet

If you asked most people they would say that most erogenous zones on a woman would be found in the upper body. However one of the most erogenous zones on a woman is her feet. Women love to have their feet caressed and kissed. If you do this she will love you forever. Behind the knees is also a spot that can send your lover over the edge.

2. The Head

The head believe it or not has very many erogenous zones. The lips would come in first for being a very sensitive spot. Of course we all know what kissing the neck does. Ladies always like to hear you whisper beautiful things in her ears as you are nibbling on them.

3. The Buttocks

One of the hottest spots on a lady is her buttocks. Almost all women love to be touched on her buttocks while some even enjoy a little tap. And of course this is a good mix because there isn't a guy out there who doesn't like to caress a nice soft, round, firm butt.

4. The Breasts

I would be amiss if I didn't mention breasts. Probably the most favorite spot for fondling men. We do however have to be careful. Once again all women are not alike and believe it or not there are women who are not turned on by breast action. Women can also be turned off if you are too anxious to get at their breasts.

5. The Clitoris

Of course the most erogenous spot on any women's body is the clitoris. It is probably the biggest hot spot for erotic sensations. It is here that you can let your fingers and lips play as much as you like as long as your partner has no objections. It is important for a man to get to know this spot because it is usually the base to all good sexual relationships.

One thing we need to remember is that the erogenous zones are only one part to a good sexual relationship. They are simply used to increase a woman's pleasure and passion. One thing that is usually bigger than this is everything that leads up to the erogenous zones. If your not a gentleman and go through the courting process properly then you wont even get to experience a women's erogenous zones.

Dale Mazurek

Dale has been married for twenty years and considers himself some what of an expert in relationship topics such as this one. You can check out his very popular relationship blog at http://relationshiptidbits.blogspot.com/ Two more of his popular blogs can be found at http://stcajo-readshortstories.blogspot.com/ and http://fishingtutor.blogspot.com/

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Sex Matters by OSHO

Sex matters to us all. The Osho approach to sex begins with an understanding of how important love is in our lives, while at the same time acknowledges that the journey into love cannot exclude our innate biological energies. With this perspective, it becomes clear that the tendency for religions, and for society in general, to associate sex with sin and morality has been a great misfortune.

Sex Matters begins by deconstructing the layers of sexual repression that the condemnation of sex has inflicted on human. Throughout Sex Matters - in response to questions about everything from jealousy to premature ejaculation, the role of intimacy and the differences between men and women - Osho proposes a vision that embraces sex as a fundamental gift from nature. We learn how orgasm offers a glimpse of timelessness, thoughtlessness, and pure awareness -- biology's way of pointing toward the consciousness that helps us to understand ourselves.

Finally, we are presented with a clear choice: a repressed sexuality that leads to pornography, perversion, and a stunted humanity or a playful, respectful, and relaxed innocence that supports us in becoming fulfilled and whole, as nature intended.

Free things to do for lovers.

One of the things that works to keep relationships alive is spending quality time with each other. In this day of the information age, it is becoming increasingly difficult to carve out the necessary time to nurture our relationships. What with long work hours, helping kids with their homework, transporting them around to their extracurricular activities, getting dinner, cleaning up and going through the bedtime routine, what time is left?

Unless you orchestrate the time for your relationship, other less important things will crowd in and take what precious little time you do have. Pick a night that will be "date night" with your partner and make a game out of being as creative as you can be. Try to see how many things you can do without spending money.

To get you started, I've come up with some suggestions to help you for the next year. What follows are 52 ideas for how to spend creative time together without spending money. Feel free to add or modify any of the items on the list to suit your particular relationship and circumstances.

WINTER

1. Take a drive to look at the Christmas decorations.

2. Play cards---perhaps strip poker.

3. Watch a movie together.

4. Go outside and have a snowball fight.

5. Get some finger paints and create your own body art with each other as your canvass.

6. Go sleigh riding.

7. Go ice skating.

8. Work out or exercise together.

9. Stage your own improvisation show.

10. Sing to each other.

11. Review or create a photo album or scrapbook of your memories together.

12. Play a board game---perhaps chess, Scrabble or Twister.

13. Go to a book store, get coffee and read for hours.

SPRING

14. Work on a remodeling project together.

15. Plan and complete a yard work project together.

16. Do the spring cleaning together---room by room. When done, reward yourself by making love in the room you've cleaned.

17. Put on old clothes and mud wrestle after some drenching rain.

18. Give each other a massage.

19. Play catch---football, baseball, softball or Frisbee.

20. Go to a car dealer and test drive the car of your dreams.

21. Shoot basketball together.

22. Dance together.

23. Take a shower together and wash each other---everywhere.

24. Take a free adult education class together.

25. Go to a mall and have a contest to see which one of you can get the most free samples.

26. Go rollerblading or bike riding.

SUMMER

27. Build a campfire and roast marshmallows.

28. Go swimming or skinny dipping.

29. Give each other a manicure or pedicure.

30. Go somewhere crowded to people watch.

31. Go to a free outdoor event, perhaps a concert.

32. Lie on a blanket outside and watch the clouds or stars.

33. Go on a picnic.

34. Watch a fireworks display.

35. Be creative and engage in sexual role plays. Be anyone you'd like to be for the night who is also exciting for your partner.

36. Sit by the water somewhere.

37. Do a prolonged strip tease for each other.

38. Have a water balloon fight.

39. Sit outside and read poetry to each other.

FALL

40. Go for a drive together.

41. Go window shopping.

42. Incorporate food into your love making---chocolate syrup, whipped cream, fondue, strawberries---anything you and your partner enjoy.

43. Call or write to someone you haven't had contact with in a while.

44. Cook something together.

45. Spend an evening just talking with each other. Talk about the things you have done, plans you have for the future, important people in your lives or current events.

46. Take a bubble bath together.

47. Go to a free movie or museum.

48. Take a drive and find the potential in old houses and their properties.

49. Create an imaginary story together---either orally or in written form.

50. Take turns being each other's genie in a bottle by fulfilling your partner's every wish and fantasy.

51. Play in the fallen leaves.

52. Create an exciting scavenger hunt that ends in your bed.

Now you have 52 suggestions for things to do with your partner for every week of the year divided by season. Certainly you don't have to follow my suggestions. Feel free to add your own or to repeat your favorites as often as you'd like.

The main point is not to see how kinky you can get. The idea is to keep your relationship alive by making time together a priority. It is important that you find things to do as a couple that you can both enjoy. If you have vastly different interests then you can enter this with the spirit of taking turns and each agree to happily participate in the activity chosen by the one whose turn it is that week.

As long as you make a habit of making your relationship a priority and allocating time each week for rejuvenation of the feelings that attracted you in the first place, then you stand a good chance of staying together for the long haul.

Please don't let insidious boredom enter into your relationship through the back door. This is what frequently happens when we are busy placing other things ahead of our time for each other. You know what I mean---the job, the kids, our friend in crisis, etc. There will always be a competing interest for the time you've set aside for each other.

Other than natural disasters, threat of death or major crises, do not allow your time together to be invaded by any outside forces. Make sure to create opportunities for you to do things together without outside influence. With more than 50% of today's marriages ending in divorce, make this small investment in the longevity of your relationship. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. What's stopping you? Start today.

Kim Olver is a licensed professional counselor and a life/relationship coach. She helps people unleash their personal power by living from the inside out, focusing their time and energy on only those things they can control. She also helps people improve the quality of their relationships with the important people in their lives. She offers free chats, assessments, a blog and an eZine, as well as workshops, teleclasses, e-courses, counseling and coaching. Visit her website at http://www.TheRelationshipCenter.biz or contact her at (708) 957-6047.

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