Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Don't be to shy to open up to someone you love.

So many times we keep to ourselves and don't let anyone in. If you are doing this to the love of your life you are making a big mistake. The one person that you should be able to trust should be that person you want to spend the most time with. Now I am not saying open up totally to someone you just met, you have to get to know them first. When you have been in a relationship for a while you need to confide and trust them. Tell them the things you need to get off your chest or the things that haunt you. If you have fantasies you can share them with this person. This is the best place for judgement not to be passed. One thing I would suggest is if you are feeling a little indifferent on a subject talk it out with your partner. Tell them that you don't know why you feel this way and then explain the way you feel to them. You might not like going to your parents house or sitting at the back of the movie theater, things like this deserve an explanation. This way your partner doesn't keep asking you why or keep trying to get you to do something you don't want to or that freaks you out. You might be a little surprised that if you get these issues off your chest to your partner, how much stronger your relationship can become. For example if you were scared by clowns as a child and have a fear of them, your partner will know not to buy tickets to the circus, or if you have cousins that teased and hit you as a child, they will understand why you don't want to go to the family reunion that you got an invitation to. Bringing your partner into the light on things that upset you will help shed new light on your relationship.

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