Sunday, October 25, 2009

Learning to share you time.

One of the hardest things to get use to in your relationships is sharing your time. When we are young and don't have many commitments we get use to using our time in the exact way we want. Once, we get into a relationship and the longer we are in the relationship we have to start sharing more and more of our time. Being a couple requires that you do spend some of your time together. Actually you should want to spend time with each other or the relationship will have some problems. The trick is trying to balance your time and their time together. When you are together you have to take turns doing things you want to and it is great if you are doing something you both enjoy. However it is inevitable that you will be together sometime where you have to wait while your partner completes a task they need to take care of. A good example of this is when you go to an event with your partner at one of their friends. Maybe a cook out or party where you don't know anyone and you have to sit around while your partner talks and chats with their friends. You want to leave, but to be caring you want to stay as long as your partner wants. To get over this type of scenario you might discuss how long you should stay before getting to the party. If you are the person that is comfortable at the event then you need to make an effort to get your partner involved in the event. Once the both of you understand the the time you share is your time together I don't think this will be as big of a problem. Just make sure to divide the time you spend together up into equal slots for both partners. As your relationship grows you might add factors in such as children that will demand more of both of your time, but if you learn to budget your time now you will be better prepared for these other things that take up your time. I believe that one of the things that drives a relationship apart faster then a lot of things it being unable to learn how to share your time.

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