Wednesday, April 29, 2009

The family that loves together. (Click in this Title to got to the Free Hugs Campaign Site)

In our quest to have the greatest relationship in the world we sometimes forget that part of our love involves our families. We tend to shy away from some of the things that have helped set our love in stone. Do you know anyone that has trouble getting close to their partner or someone who has self esteem problems? Well, most likely that has stemmed from events in their childhood. Whether it was from an overbearing parent, an alcoholic parent, emotional abuse or physical abuse it can create a monster that may secretly rear its ugly head. A lot of times relationship problems are bred from these memories of youth, and it can take a lot of energy to get over them. With the help of a caring partner it is possible, but this is not my point.

As we set our relationships in motion we are not just facilitating a better state for ourselves, we are affecting the future relationships of our children. If we cannot get over our dysfunctions, our children may be destined to repeat our inadequacies. To help prevent that it is time for us to get our relationships in order and get our family on the loving train. You have to start by showing your children it is okay to be in love and not just for a day, but for a lifetime. You have to explain to them how to put the other person first and how to share. Make sure they know that feelings are important and that caring isn't something to be ashamed off. Let them see you kiss and hug, hold hands as you walk with them and most important show them how to be a rock when someone is having a hard time. I realize that every child won't respond the same to these actions, but you are giving them a great head start on having their own relationships.

Don't stop there. Maybe it's not too late for your parents? Do the same things around them as we have just mentioned above. Maybe you could rekindle something in them that they haven't had in a long time. Show them that your relationship is strong and you’re making it stronger every day. If your parents have a great relationship, then maybe you should be taking notes as you watch them. Family love is a gene, and it can be passed down from generation to generation, but unlike DNA this is one genetic gift you can change if you don't have the right combination. It may take some therapy or even sacrifice on your part, but it will be worth it.

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