Thursday, July 15, 2010

Sometimes you just need to listen, and not speak

Have you ever had a really bad day and just needed to vent. You don't want to be consoled or babied and the last thing you want is to be cuddled. You just want to scream and let it all out. When you partner feels this way you need to pick up on it as soon as you can and then become what I consider the tackling dummy. Let them let it all out, don't judge, don't offer opinions just stand or sit there and listen. Listen with your heart and pay attention, only offer any words if they ask you for them. Nod your head, reach out and touch them but don't tell them they are wrong or that you would have handled it differently because that is not what they need right now. They need to get that negative energy out of their body and venting is the way to do that. It might take all night to get it out but when it is your turn they will be there for you.

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