Working together.

Some of you might think that working together is a wonderful idea, and some of you think that work is your separation time. Well it can be both. Recently my partner and I were offered a position to run a retirement neighborhood. The pay was really good and we would have gotten free housing, now a problem arouse that there were not enough bedrooms for our children, so we had to decline. The thought of working together was a wonderful challenge for us. The more and more I thought about it however I realized that even though we would essentially be working together we would spend most of that time apart. Doing different things and marketing would keep us busy most of the day. I feel like we would have still had lots to talk about later in the evening and would still have the coming home feeling. It is to bad this didn't work out I think that as in our relationship we would have made a great team in business. Where does your relationship stand as of work? It is okay if you need that space from you partner, however think about if you could work together with your partner and what that says about your relationship. A big question for working together is can you leave the work behind? Will you drag it into the bedroom or worse yet will it cause problems in your personal relationship. If you can keep business separate from your personal relationship there is no problem.

There are no more roles in a relationship.

If you haven't figured it out yet they year is 2010. We are not stuck in the 1950's, so if you think a certain gender should have a specific role in your relationship you need to wake up. Relationships are partnerships now a days long gone are the bread winner days where the man goes out and brings home the money and the woman stays home to raise the kids. There is nothing wrong with a stay at home mom but nowadays it could be a stay at home dad. Most relationships see both partners have to enter the work force so you can forget about one partner being responsible for all the household duties. Relationships today have to be a partnership, all aspects have to be split to make it work. With both partners out of the house working 40 or more hours you cannot expect one partner alone to take care of all the chores. You have to see what works best for the two of you in this manner. Maybe you set specific chores like one person cooks while the other does the dishes or you can rotate chores so you both have a feel for them. Use your communication skills and work together to keep your house in top shape as well as your relationship.

Sometimes you just need to listen, and not speak

Have you ever had a really bad day and just needed to vent. You don't want to be consoled or babied and the last thing you want is to be cuddled. You just want to scream and let it all out. When you partner feels this way you need to pick up on it as soon as you can and then become what I consider the tackling dummy. Let them let it all out, don't judge, don't offer opinions just stand or sit there and listen. Listen with your heart and pay attention, only offer any words if they ask you for them. Nod your head, reach out and touch them but don't tell them they are wrong or that you would have handled it differently because that is not what they need right now. They need to get that negative energy out of their body and venting is the way to do that. It might take all night to get it out but when it is your turn they will be there for you.

Keep your camera handy at all times.

Romance happens when you least expect it sometimes. You can be out just driving around and romance could hit you. Make it a habit of carrying a small camera with you at all times it doesn't have to be an expensive one and it can be small to easily be carried around. This way when that unexpected romantic event happens you can document it to share over and over. Romance has a way of creeping into your life and if you have your camera ready well then it is preserved forever. Maybe you will be out riding your bikes and come across a wonderful romantic place near a stream or you have a flat tire and you both get really dirty changing it, these are memories that you won't forget but a photo would help share it with others. You might start to find this addictive and making a scrapbook of romance might not be a bad idea. Happy shooting.

Flash a little skin from time to time.

You know that your partner has desire for you. Use that to your advantage to tease them a little. Flashing them a little skin from time to time will make the remember how much they desire you. This can be done by both men and women and is as simple some times as bending over. Ladies you have the advantage here however because of a little thing called cleavage. When your boobs are half showing turns us guys on tremendously we can't let half our penis hang out that just looks like were not paying attention and have clothes that don't fit. Cleavage on the other hand can compliment any outfit, casual or dressy. My suggestion is to let your skin be shown around the house. When you get out of the shower and are walking to the bedroom pull your towel off a little quicker to let your partner get a quick shot of your wonderful bottom. Ladies wear that lose fitting top and no bra then bend over so that your partner can get a gaze at your wonderful rack. Just run to the bedroom completely naked acting like you forgot something. Believe me your partner will be thankful and you will get the reaction you desire. Who knows your partner might even catch you as your run through the house naked.

Play the Newlywed Game

Do you remember the old game show the Newlywed Game? If not the premise of the show was to see how much each couple new about each other. They were awarded point for each right answer and then the couple with the most points won, usually a trip somewhere. Now I am sure you cannot offer yourself a trip but it is fun to see how much you know about each other. Sit down sometime and write out questions to ask your partner. Have you partner do the same then exchange the papers and write down your answers to each question. Then together go over each question and see if your partner can pick which answer to gave. Make the question multiple choice to see if your thoughts are lining up. Have some good laughs and learn about your partner who knows maybe one day these will actually help you win a trip.

Sample Question Might be :

Which superhero does your partner remind you of, A-Superman, B-Batman, or C-Super Chicken

Actually there are several versions of the newlywed game you can click on our amazon sidebar and pick up a copy if you don't want to write out your own questions.

Go out and pick up trash.

We all want a cleaner earth but how many of us venture out of our house to help out. Being green is very romantic and believe me your partner will feel the same way. Suggest that the two of you go out for a hour a week on a walk with the intention of picking up all the trash you see on the way. Make it a challenge to see if you can fill a bag or two bags. Keep track of how much trash you pickup each and every time and make a chart to show how much help you are giving the earth. You could even set a goal of a romantic evening out once you get 50 bags of trash. Nothing is more romantic than saving our home planet so start today and hold hands as you are searching for that trash.