What would you do for your Love!

Most of us go out of our way to help our partners. I hear stories of people running out in the pouring rain to get ice cream for their pregnant partners. Or parents that will sit up with their sick children all night and not get a minute of sleep. These are the type of actions that show how much you care about that other person. When you evaluate your relationship however you have to look at if you think your partner would do the same for you. Will they stay up late to massage your back if you hurt it at work? Would they run across town to help you out in the middle of the night? Would they take care of the kids so you could get some rest? If you answer no to these questions then you really need to look at your relationship, does it work with one partner putting all the effort into the relationship? Is there room for selfishness in a relationship? Well if you are strong you can overcome many challenges. No one likes for their good deeds to go unnoticed but for many people out their it is like that. Now you have to compare apples to oranges here. On partner might not be able to go without sleep and perform their job the next day, however they can repay the other partner in other ways. You can't look for a specific return on your investment so don't give a relaxing massage and expect your partner to jump up and give you one right after they are done. Look carefully at your relationship and the things your partner might be doing that you are over looking, it is easy to do. Relationships are like a bicycle built for two. You both have to pedal to get where you need to be, and if one person is doing all the pedaling then they will grow tired faster then the one not pedaling.

Don't let your fingernails ruin a good thing.

We all know that our hygiene is very important to our romantic life. Few of us really take a look at our fingernails in this process. We don't think about things like holding hands or gently scratching someones back until it is to late. Those unkept nails can do damage to your date or partner if they have rough edges on them. It might feel like you are cutting them with a knife if left an attended. I know manicures are expensive and for the guys not the most masculine of things to do but they are well worth the money. If your budget is tight then take care of them yourself but make sure to test them on yourself before you use them on someone else. Run you nails down your arm to make sure you have left know snags or jagged edges. We might think this isn't that big of deal but if you get to have any sexual relations then those jagged edges can leave your partner in a very painful state. Our hands usually help initiate our sexual acts and leaving cuts on your partners privates isn't the way to start a great night of love making. Now maybe you are not in a relationship or dating anyone right now, but your nails might be sending the wrong message as people notice the littlest of things when sizing people up for potential mates. Your unkept fingernails might say to someone that this person isn't into keeping up on their appearance so what will the be like once we get into a relationship. Don't let your fingernails harm or ruin a good relationship keep care of them on a regular basis.

Resist the urge to snap!

Have you ever gotten mad about something and snapped, then later felt really bad that you said something that maybe you shouldn't have. This is were you need to learn a little self control. When you are in a heated argument you always need to think what you say out. Usually that first thing that pops into your mind is something that might not be so easy to take back. Plus it usually is just a tear at the person and might not even have anything to do with the argument. When you get a little frustrated with you mate you need to take some time before you open your mouth. Once you say something, you won't be able to say sorry later and take it back. Many feelings have been hurt for a long time by someone just blurting something out in a fit of anger. Take your time and count if you need to these few seconds could save some hurtful feelings later.

Back Off

Sometimes in a relationship it is tough to know when you need to be helpful and when you need to back off. Try and always listen to your partner they will tell you if they need space of not. Now sometime they will say they want space and not really mean it. This is where it gets tricky. You have to read the signs for example if they are mad at you and need space, give it to them. If something tragic happened in their life, they might need some space but don't get to far away. Every situation is different and so is everyone else, some people need more space then others.

Now that I think I have confused you, let me lay this on you. If you are one of those people that need space and your partner is the opposite then you have a challenge ahead of yourself. You have to find a way to get your space and be there for you partner at the same time. I didn't say it was going to be easy. You have to find that fine line in either situation and try to balance yourself on it. We don't want you to compromise your values but we don't want you to hurt someone else's feelings either. Especially if that other person is the one you love.