It's a well known fact that men, on average, think of sex more often than females do. Why is that? It's most definitely not because sex isn't as important to a woman, or that sex doesn't feel as good to a woman. With this in mind, why does it seem that in our society, men feel that they do not get enough sex from their mates?
Many men, who are in otherwise fulfilling relationships, walk around feeling sexually deprived. The problem is that men need to get their mate to desire them more often; or at the very least, as often as is needed to keep up with a particular man's sexual needs.
But how can this be achieved?
Because women also think about sex often, as it's just as pleasurable for a woman as it is a man, there are easy ways to instil sexual desire in a woman. What men need to realize is that women are not as visual as men are. To speak plainly, a woman is not stimulated by the attractiveness of a man alone; whereas a man can easily become aroused by seeing a beautiful woman walk by.
So what is this magical component that can push a woman over the edge in sexual desire?
What you need to look for is a particular woman's preferences that makes her want sexual release as much as you do.
The only way that a woman will reach boiling point is if she receives the most suitable kind of stimulation, for her, during foreplay. The most important thing to remember is that foreplay begins for a woman the moment you wake up. When you treat her with respect and kindness, put her needs before your own, you start off on the right foot.
Firstly, if you want to try a sexual act that you haven't yet tried with a particular woman, you should talk about it first without trying to be manipulating or aggressive about it. As an example, if you would like to have oral sex with a woman, and would like her to want to as well, introduce it to her in conversation first. You don't want to just come out and tell her that you would like oral sex because it's on your mind all the time. Instead, you want to engage in a conversation about your intimacy, remember to keep it light and don't take things too seriously and personally. You could try and get her to talk about how she feels about oral sex, and let her know, gently, how you feel about it. Don't be pushy or intrusive about it. If she's shy, let her think about it over time. You just want to introduce the concept of sharing this with you. If you are too aggressive with it, she will start to pull away from you, and you don't want that.
You want her to feel like she can talk to you, that there's no pressure. To create more intimacy while talking about your sex life, speak softly so that she can move in closer to you. This will allow you to both feel more connected to one another, and create a safe space just for the two of you. Taking her out to a romantic dinner can be a perfect opportunity to engage in a flirty conversation with her; but make sure that she isn't embarrassed to talk about intimate things in a public setting. Once you start talking about intimate things, she will automatically begin to think about sex with you. You don't need to be aggressive because the thought is planted in her mind, setting the stage for the rest of the night.
From here, you can carry on this conversation someplace more private and begin to kiss and caress your partner. Whatever specific act you would like to have fulfilled, you must not make her think that all you are out for is fulfilling your own needs and nothing more. You need to make her feel like the act is what you both want.
My name is Iris and I'm in mid 40s. A mother to 4 kids. I have a happy family now, but I had a bad experience
reaching orgasm when I was 20s. I didn't expect to encounter
low in sexual desire. To save my marriage, I struggled to find solutions and learned to understand my body. Now, I reclaimed my women hood and my mission is to help any men & women with same problems to enjoy their full sexual potential.
