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Anger Management.

Have you ever had one of those days when your partner comes home madder than a hornet. They burst through the door with their nostrils flaring like a raging bull. Their anger is so strong that it seems like they are yelling at you. The last thing you want to do in this situation is try to rationalize what has happened. What you need to do is let them release the steam. Yelling and screaming might be part of this process for them. Sit quietly and listen and offer positive support, don't question their anger or try to make light of it. For their benefit it is good to join the fight and start getting angry about the situations yourself. Boost them up and let them know you are standing behind them. This is great because once they setting down they will be most appreciative of what you have done for them. When your partner is this mad you have to let them let it out or they might blow up later of something super small. Think of them as a pressure cooker letting the steam out keeps the pot from exploding.

Steamy Shower Notes

Here is a great little romantic way to surprise someone. Sneak into the bathroom while they are taking a nice hot shower and leave them a steamy message on the mirror. Tell them you love them, or they are cute. You might even make it a little sexy and write "Ditch the towel and come back to bed with me" Whatever you want to write that gets your feelings across is great. Think of it as texting your partner old school style.

Can Video Games be Romantic?

I am sure that sitting around playing video games isn't your idea of a great evening with your lover. However it can be very enjoyable if you are both on the same skill level. If the competition doesn't cause fights and you get to spar with each other then the games can release some tension that is built up in one or the other of you. I am curious do they have games for lovers, I mean we have board games that promote intimacy and passion, why not a video game. I would love to hear about any out there so if you make or have any let me know I would love to review or see how they work. This gets me thinking about the Nintendo Wii and the many applications that you would have with the motion controllers! :-) I remember hearing about a game that was hooked up to a vibrator many years ago but I am now curious as to if we have any for the Wii. Checking the internet all I find is videos for a game about rhythmic spanking with only audio and no video. Come on video game makers don't you see the amazing market for a product that will not only let us play video games but let us have sex with it as well. Great I have just inspired someone to make our lives even lazier. It still would be fun though.

Women time for you to be romantic.

Women when you think of romance what do you envision. Candle light dinner, walks on the beach, making love under in a dim lit room, might pop into your head. Do you think these are the things your partner is thinking about when you talk about romance. Sure he/she might like to do these things to be romantic for you but what do you feel like they would like you to do that they would see as romantic? Maybe taking them to the big game, hot steamy lingerie worn for their pleasure, or even time spent on the couch snuggling during the race with both of you yelling at your favorite driver. You have to remember your vision of romance and his are going to be different, so when you are trying to be romantic for him, cater the evening towards his tastes. Like wise you would love to be catered to when he is trying to romance you. We have to look at it through the eyes of our partner to see their vision of romance. Be bold and ask them what they feel would be romantic then store the knowledge for later down the road. Remember you are trying to make them feel wonderful not you! Your turn will come.

Valentine's Day Gift Idea - Gift Certificate to Adult Toy Store

Valentine's Day is a great time to branch out and find new ways to show your love for each other. This gift adds a sexual feel to your gift and also gives you a little insight into what your partner might be curious about. Think about it, one of the hardest things to do is to bring up something new to try in your bedroom. You are afraid you will be rejected or worse feel like your a pervert. The way you can do this for Valentine's Day is to purchase your love a gift certificate for an online sex toy store. Then all you do is give your partner the store's catalog and the gift certificate and let them pick out their items in privacy if they like or with you if they are more outgoing. The only stipulation is that the package has to be sent to you. This way when you get the box and open it up, you see what they are wanting to try and they don't have to come out and tell you. Believe me when I tell you that the person who picks out the items will be so excited waiting for the package to arrive that they will almost jump into your arms when you approach them with the item or items. If you get something out of your comfort zone then you need to sit down and talk about the item never just say no to your partner but find a way to accommodate both your passions.

Check out one of my favorite toys stores - Eden Fantasies for some great ideas and to get your gift certificate. You can click on the title of this post to take you to their store front.

Christmas Eve time for special presents.

All the focus during the Holidays is the big day of Christmas. Christmas eve is usually reserved for trips to Grandparents or parents houses for gift exchanges with your family. No one is expecting a blow out gift from Grandma who usually buys you something you wanted when you were twelve. However, this is one of the best times to get your lover a little something special. Wait until all of the festivities of the day are over and when the two of you are alone and about ready to settle down for your long winters nap, present him/her with a little special gift to go to sleep on. Now this can be a number of things but the things I find that work the best are jewelry, and sexual items. When you give on this night make sure it is one that you want a major reaction from like jumping up and down or just plane getting mauled by the receiver. You won't get the same reaction on Christmas morning when you partner opens that new sex toy in front of everyone. Nor will you get as many kisses from the nice necklace you purchased during the family feast. Plan out which gifts you would like to give in private then make a routine of giving these gifts on Christmas eve.

Steamy Mirror Notes (click here to see a steamy application for the iphone)

Next time your lover is in the shower slip in a leave them a little note. It helps if they take an extremely hot shower. Use the mirror and write a note on it using the steam the shower has created. You have to be quick because if you do it to soon then the shower will steam it over. I suggest trying to time it to just when they shut the shower off. Slip out of the bathroom and you won't be able to see them smile as the read the message. You will however most likely be able to sense it.