Being Selfish

Is there a time to be selfish in a relationship? Of coarse there is we all need to have and want our needs and desires met. However how do we accommodate this type of thinking when we want to attend to our partners needs also? Well it is a give and take process you have to feel when it is all right for you take and know when it is time for you to give. How in the heck do you know when those times are? Believe me you will know your body will tell you when you need things and your mind won't let you forget about them. As for you partner all you have to do is love them and you will feel their needs and desires also. It is not an exact science but neither is life itself. The learning process goes on for ever and understanding that you will constantly be given new and fresh challenges in your relationship is a calming notion that when you come to grips with all things sort of fall into place. So be a little selfish when it is your turn and be ready to let your partner be selfish at time just make sure it is a 50-50 split to get the best results.

Like the old song "You can always get what you wanted, but you get what you need"

In a romantic relationship you have to be able to give and take. Sometimes it doesn't work out in your favor. That is when you have to step back and look at what you really need in a relationship. Pick and choose the things that are important to you and communicate that with your partner. Once they understand the way your desires and wants work you might find it a little easier to give up those things that don't mean that much to you. Say for instance, shopping with the girls, or poker night with the guys, which are all great activities but when you get into a relationship you might not be able to do them as much as you like. Like the Rolling Stones sang "You can't always get what you want, but you get what you need" So take stock in the things you need and understand the things you want will be there when they can be.

If you know what I mean....

If you remember the Drew Carey Show : Who's Line is it anyway then you know the game they played called "If you know what I mean" Where they used as many sexual innuendos as they could during a skit. Now I am not saying you try to use as many as you can. What I am suggesting is that you make up your own little saying that is just between the two of you that means you are interested in sex. Things like "I would really like the dust your seat, if you know what I mean" or "I would love you to fill me with excitement, if you know what I mean" Personalize your own saying and have fun with it. Change you saying from time to time to create a little more fun and excitement. Watch the clip above to get an idea of sayings you could use. Good luck and I hope this post puts a little bang in your relationship, if you know what I mean!