Dividing the Drive time.

When you are getting ready to take a long trip one thing I feel you need to do is divide the drive time up. Plan on certain places where you will stop and exchange drivers. This will give you both a little rest and relaxation so you will be fresh when you get to your destination. I also would suggest being good company when you are not the one driving. Unless you are driving through the night, keep you partner company as they drive. Good conversation is one of the best ways to make a long trip seem shorter. You might even find the time flying by as the miles pass as you talk them away. If you do need to rest then make sure you partner has the directions he/she needs and get them something to listen to on the radio before you doze off. These simple little things will make the task of driving to your fun destination as fun as it can be.

Ladies choice!

Okay tonight you are ready for a great night of sex. You would love for you wife, partner, or girlfriend to give you a play by play of what she would like. What do you do if your partner is a little more reserved about letting you know her likes or dislikes. A lot of people men as well as women have a hard time asking or tell their partner what they want or fantasies about. Don't fear however I have a couple of solutions that might help you out.

If your like most couples you have a drawer full of sex toys, lubes, simulators, etc. Yet it seems like you don't go to it very much for fear your more reserved partner might not want to, because they won't talk about it. Well take the embarrassment out of their hands. Tell them you are going to leave the room and you would like them to pick out a couple of items form the drawer they would like to use. Tell them to stick the items inside your pillow case and turn out the lights when they are ready. With the lights out and the items tucked away, it will seem like they didn't really pick out the things you are going to use on them. This might be a great way for them to open up about their sexual preferences so make sure you use the items they have picked. Take turns once a week and do the same for your partner by placing things you want to experience in their pillowcase the next time.

Another way you can get them to open up about their wants is to give them an outlet other then talking. Let them right down what they want to do. They could do it on paper, through email, or even text you. Give them room to do this, and don't set there and look over their shoulder. Leave the room and have them give you a sign when they are done. Again you can take turns doing this as it is only fair both partners get a chance.

It seems silly that we sometimes have trouble conversing about sex to our partner. Sometimes it comes from the way we were brought up and what our parents instilled in us. Other times people are just shy or fear the other persons reactions about their choices. Doing these things a few times might loosen up your talking about them at a later time.

Find a small place with live Music

There is something romantic about sitting in a small place with a single performer playing. It screams romance. The beauty of the situation is that you have some great background music and you can still have a in depth conversation. This is great for a first date also as it gives you a starting point of conversation as you discuss the music the artists is playing. The atmosphere at someplace like this is usually relaxed and allows you to feel more comfortable. Some of these artists might even take request from the audience.

Do a little research into the kind of music that will be played, you can ask someone that works at the venue they will usually have a good idea. Also find a place that has some character and has been in business a while, that way you know what you will be getting. Newer places are still trying to find their market so they might have different types of performers each night. When all else fails look for a place that plays the blues.

Okay you have the formula, now go out and find your little hole in the wall. Soon you will be staring into each others eyes while someone strums on a beat up guitar. Sipping drinks and having good conversation what more can you ask for?

Special thanks to Lorenzo Stupid Kid AKA... for the creative commons picture.