Birth control and safe sex.

Thank goodness in today's society birth control and safe sex are starting to get the attention they need. They are even trying to make it sexy. Some of the condom adds I have seen her lately are hilarious. However they are on late at night so kids can't see them. They should have these on during teenage shows in my opinion so at least the kids will think they are sexy. Choosing the right birth control can be an important decision for the two of you not only does it need to help you not get pregnant, at least until you want to, but it needs to be safe also, without taking away your intimacy. The pill and condoms seem to be the most popular methods but they have their draw backs and while all methods have their drawbacks some are more risky then others. Taking the top two for example. Condoms are not as affective if they are not put on in the right manner, and the pill can cause all kinds of drastic side effects in women. Look at other options if these two things scare you and find just the right fit for the two of you.

Great Quotes.

"The deepest principle in human nature

is the craving to be appreciated"

William James

This quote rings so true we all enjoy doing for our partner but is all lost if it is not appreciated. Sure we are suppose to do these things out of kindness and not expecting a return. True love is a give and take commitment by two people. You do not go into a relationship with the expectation that you will be the only one showing love nor do you go in expecting not to put any effort into the relationship. Appreciation is the payment for all you do for your partner. Appreciation cannot be measured like money but it is the most valuable return on your investment of love.

iphones and ipod touch are great relationship builders.

If you have the funds to get either an iphone or ipod touch, these two devices are great fun and a wonderful building tool for relationships. Yes you can call and text each other but that is not the part that makes them so great or different from normal cell phones. It's the applications that make these two wonderful items a success. You can find an application for almost anything and relationship issues and helpers are not excluded. They have applications for tracking your period, great date ideas, recipe guides to cook great food, not to mention you can get movies to watch snuggled up together, and the list goes on and on. I can't possibly touch on all the applications that would be useful in a relationship but I will give you some of my favorites. Ambiance sounds is one I like where you can have the sounds of ocean waves or rain storms playing in the back ground as you go to bed or do other things in bed. Romantic hints helps you come up with ideas to make your life more romantic, hum just like this blog. That reminds me you can also get on the Internet and check out this blog for great ideas on you device. No matter what you interest for building the romance in your life there is an application for it. You can get a great deal on any of these devices by clicking on my amazon sidebar and searching for them, so don't delay get one today. (I'm a poet)

Rap Session

How often do you just sit down to talk about things between the two of you? Do you make time for this type of activity? A rap session isn't about beat boxing or reciting the latest SnoopDog song it is about both of you getting a chance to just talk about things effecting you. It might be the news or your work, or even the latest movie that you have just seen. The point is the rap session is where you just let your feelings out and both of you get a chance to listen and speak to your partner. Pick a time when you will be alone, after the children are in bed and you have time to yourselves. Get a glass of wine, turn the television off, and just speak what is one your mind. Take turns so it isn't just a one sided speech. When it is your turn to listen then you do just that and really listen to what your partner is saying. Let your emotions come out laugh, cry, or celebrate but make sure you are honest not only to your partner but to yourself also. These rap sessions are great ways to build your relationship and make it stronger then it has ever been.

Get some sun.

Want something that will help you romance well get some sun. The sun light is great for your overall mood and it is an important part of life. About this time of year everyone is getting cabin fever and wanting to get outside to soak up some sun. If we are not able to take a vacation during the colder winter months then it has probably been quite some time since you got to enjoy the warm summer sun. The next time you find the sun out make sure to get out in it. Walk to work, or just take a walk and let the good sensations the sun can create start to chip away at that bottled up feeling you have had since winter started.

Great love ballads.

Have you ever watch a cheesy romantic comedy and listened to the soundtrack? If you have you have heard several of the great love ballads. Groups such as Journey, Boston, Chicago, etc made a lot of money singing these songs for young lovers. So why not use them to help boost your love life. Make a playlist of these songs to play in the background of your house during times that lag. In essence you are making your life into a romantic comedy.

Check out this clip from the Band Exile and see if you can remember the song from the movie Happy Gilmore. Maybe you can do a better job of singing then Adam Sandler did in the movie.

What would you do for your Love!

Most of us go out of our way to help our partners. I hear stories of people running out in the pouring rain to get ice cream for their pregnant partners. Or parents that will sit up with their sick children all night and not get a minute of sleep. These are the type of actions that show how much you care about that other person. When you evaluate your relationship however you have to look at if you think your partner would do the same for you. Will they stay up late to massage your back if you hurt it at work? Would they run across town to help you out in the middle of the night? Would they take care of the kids so you could get some rest? If you answer no to these questions then you really need to look at your relationship, does it work with one partner putting all the effort into the relationship? Is there room for selfishness in a relationship? Well if you are strong you can overcome many challenges. No one likes for their good deeds to go unnoticed but for many people out their it is like that. Now you have to compare apples to oranges here. On partner might not be able to go without sleep and perform their job the next day, however they can repay the other partner in other ways. You can't look for a specific return on your investment so don't give a relaxing massage and expect your partner to jump up and give you one right after they are done. Look carefully at your relationship and the things your partner might be doing that you are over looking, it is easy to do. Relationships are like a bicycle built for two. You both have to pedal to get where you need to be, and if one person is doing all the pedaling then they will grow tired faster then the one not pedaling.