Friday, May 27, 2011

Lovers Communication.

Communication is extremely important in a loving relationship. Talking and listening to each other is critical when you're first dating and when you're living with each other. Without it couples can literally drift apart emotionally and then physically.
If you're just starting or trying to get into a new relationship, sometimes it's tricky to bring up sensitive topics especially about sex. But this is exactly the time you need to be thinking and talking about all aspects of your sex life -- all your likes, dislikes, desires and expectations. Learning about each other's sexual preferences and perspectives will make your relationship much more fulfilling. It also enables you to get a better idea if the relationship is one you want to develop further or not.
And if you are in a long term relationship, maintaining good communication is even more important. You may think you know your partner fairly well but we all change as we grow. The assumption that you know and understand each other may be holding you back from creating an even stronger connection with the person you love. Our interests and desires evolve as we learn and experience more about the world and ourselves. Your partner may have shed restrictive beliefs or inhibitions. They may even be more open to erotic adventures and sexual pleasures initially refused -- activities you may even fantasize about still.
Sometimes it's hard to find things to talk about or ways to bring up certain subjects. Relationship games for couples can help set the mood, the expectations and the guidelines for discussing intimate questions we want answers to. Relationship games for couples help introduce intimate questions into your conversation. Randomly selecting topics from a broad list makes it easier to include more intense subjects with less sensitive ones. Here are a few quick and easy games that you can play anytime:
  • Ask your partner to start by picking a letter A-Z. You then select a word or phrase starting with that letter. Your partner then asks you any question related to that word which you answer. Then switch. Go through the alphabet start to finish if you wish (each player does the same letter once).
  • Each person writes down a list of questions on business cards or slips of paper. Place them in a bowl and pick them out randomly. You could set a time each day to ask each other one say before going to bed or after making love. Add to the bowl of questions whenever you think of a new idea.
  • Each of you secretly write down a numbered list (2-12) of 11 relationship or sex oriented words. On each player's turn, roll two dice twice and use the numbers to select words from each list. You then make up a question that uses the two words for your partner to answer. The combinations can be very weird -- if necessary make two questions one for each word.
  • Pick a relationship or sex guide book and ask your partner to pick a number between 1 and the number of pages in the book. Quickly scan the page and find a section of interest that you can ask a question about. Read the section to your partner and then ask the question.
These couples games are well suited for long distance relationships when you can only communicate by email, text message or phone call. They are excellent for online dating too. If you are stuck for conversation ideas or want to know more about a potential partner, try these relationship games and get a better understanding of the person you may decide to meet in the flesh.
It's curious that many people find it easier to have sex than to talk about it. The emotional intimacy you create when you take the time to share thoughts and feelings while listening to your partner in return is priceless. Enjoy playing couples games together and keep your intimate connection strong.
For more ideas related to this couples game, see Intimate Questions Game.

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